What kind of attitude is absolutely irresistible
to a man when he first meets a woman?
It's the attitude that tells him you're both
fun-loving and that you have a great, full life.
It's an attitude of openness, and a certain kind
of easygoing and relaxed demeanor. It's knowing
that you have a lot of interesting things going on
in your life, and although you'd LOVE to share
your life with a special man, you don't NEED a
man to make your life worthwhile.
I call this the "Playful and Independent"
attitude.
And it is hugely ATTRACTIVE to a man.
I want to share some quick and
easy things you can do to make sure that when you
meet a man, you guys really connect and turn it
into something more.
If you've already read my eBook, then you
know about the "attitude" carried by those women
who are naturally attractive to men and who
inspire them to want to give a relationship a
chance.
I call the attitude "Playful & Independent."
I'll explain how this "attitude" works, and
why men find is so attractive in a woman by
starting here-
I want you to imagine for a second what it's
like to be a single, successful, attractive man
who is your own age.
Pick a man you might already know... or just
make one up in your head. But get a clear picture
of this man in your mind.
Now that you've got this single attractive man
in your mind, I want you to imagine what life is
like for him as a SINGLE MAN.
He has a great life, lots of friends, and
enjoys many aspects of his life from travel to
work to sports.
He even has a lot of fun "dating", getting to
know great women, and sharing and connecting in
new and different ways with the women he meets.
All in all, this man really has his life
together, and he doesn't often feel like he's
"missing" anything.
He enjoys the intimate times that he has spent
with women, and he hasn't yet had a woman who has
made him feel like he HAD TO have a serious and
committed relationship yet.
Now, with this picture in mind...
What do you guess it's like to be a man who's
a great "catch," and then going out with women
and try to get to know them?
Picture this now...
What is it like for this single attractive man
when he goes out and meets women?
What are the women like who he comes across,
meets, and goes on dates with?
What do most of these women have in common?
What do they say and do with him once they see
how great he is?
And how do they act as a result of recognizing
this great man and wanting him all to themselves?
Are they all fun, laid-back, easygoing, and as
carefree as he is?
Or are they different than they were with him
at first?
I think you know where I'm going with this.
For the rare single attractive man out
there...finding and meeting a great women who
also has her act together on every level is NOT
EASY.
In fact, for lots of men, they feel frustrated
the same way lots of women do-
They feel like there's just no "normal" women
out there.
And this frustration is only made worse when
a single man finally thinks he's met a woman who
he thinks is great....
Because after a few dates, something strange
and uncomfortable often happens.
The woman he met who SEEMED mature, healthy,
and who had a full life of her own suddenly
starts acting different.
Instead of enjoying the PROCESS of getting to
know one another and seeing where things are
going...
Her attitude and her behavior change.
Suddenly she's tense.
Suddenly she's anxious and uncertain.
And suddenly she is asking for answers from
the man about what's going on, when he just feels
like he's barely getting to know her.
And this is where the man feels a complete
"disconnect" both physically and emotionally, and
sees that this must not be the right woman for
him.
He's thinking-
"If she's acting this way within the first few
weeks... imagine what's down the road!?"
What's going on here?
To make a long story short, in these situations
a man's response is all too common:
He WITHDRAWS.
That means he STOPS CALLING, he stops asking
the woman out, and he's no longer interested in
getting to know her.
Which of course is the worst possible thing a
man could do to a woman who's already
wondering what's going on with him... and it
makes her feel even more freaked out.
And it's here where things can go from bad to
worse for some women.
Instead of seeing that their desire to know
what a man is feeling or wanting has pushed him
away early on...
They actually start trying harder to get him
to open up to them and give them answers.
(As though the man is the one who's in
control!)
They call, they email, and they sound totally
freaked out or upset when they finally do talk
to him - which only makes things worse.
The situation I described doesn't paint a very
pretty picture of what happens for some women
when they start dating a man.
The strange truth is, I've seen very smart and
amazing women who are usually calm, loving,
and "centered" turn into freaked-out, "needy",
panic-stricken women.
It's not because they aren't great women. It's
just that they let their FEARS and NEGATIVE
EMOTIONS take over and get in their way.
Now...
If any of the above sounds familiar, or you've
experienced any of the following below, then
knowing more about how men see "dating" and why
and when they will want a relationship could
really help you:
-A man doesn't call back and you have NO IDEA why
-You go on 2 or 3 great dates and get physical
with a man, then you have what feels like a
"strange" talk and he stops calling
-A man suddenly goes from seeing you as a fun and
fantastic woman to seeing you as more of a friend
he isn't interested in
-You say something about where your "dating" is
headed and he closes off and never opens up again
Any of these sound familiar to you?
Then I want you to stop right now.
Odds are, you're a great women but you're
making mistakes with men that you aren't even
AWARE OF.
Don't let this happen to you, when just a few
simple and easy tips will help a man see you for
the great woman you are inside.
For the essentials on what makes a man
interested in a woman for more than just fun,
the very best place to start is with my eBook.
This is a situation that almost always turns a
man off in the early stages of dating.
It happens when you feel more connected and
invested in the future of the "relationship" than
he does. It happens when you are thinking, "what's
next?" and he's just thinking, "I'm enjoying
getting to know her."
THE FOOL-PROOF WAY TO HAVE A GREAT GUY WANTING
MORE AFTER THE FIRST FEW DATES
I'm going to get to the point here on this one.
What is the quick and easy way to have a man
wanting more with you once you've met and been
on a few dates?
Well, as I've said, from the start - on just
the first few dates - a man is silently making a
whole lot of subtle and UNCONSCIOUS DECISIONS
about you and who he thinks you are.
If you make some of the obvious mistakes that
throw off his wrong-woman "radar"... then he
is going to quickly stop wanting to see you and
stop calling.
Avoiding mistakes that ruin the start of what
could be a great relationship - mistakes that too
many other women make - is the first thing to
keep in mind.
But let's talk more about things to do and say
with a man.
If you've met a man, and you're unsure about
where things are going, then there's really only
one thing to keep in mind if you like this guy:
ATTRACTION.
Now, there's been a whole lot of talk about
attraction in the world lately.
So I want to give a quick definition of what
I mean when I say "attraction."
Attraction is that magic emotion that we feel
when someone enters our heart and mind in a way
we can't really explain with words.
Attraction from a man's perspective is
something that reaches deep inside him and stirs
up emotions he doesn't understand and didn't know
he could feel.
And when he FEELS ATTRACTION for a woman,
he no longer uses his "logical" mind to decide
what he wants when it comes to love and
relationships.
Attraction takes over and causes him to start
acting and making decisions with his HEART
instead of his MIND.
Starting to get a better sense of what
attraction really is?
Good.
Now, how do you CREATE ATTRACTION inside a
man so that he starts to use less of his MIND
and more of his HEART with you?
Good question.
The first key to ATTRACTION is to have an
element of UNPREDICTABILITY to you and the time
you spend with a man.
See... most men, especially older ones, have
seen and done a lot of things with women.
And unfortunately, as a result, lots of these
men have started to assume that most women are the
same when it comes to love and relationships.
When you show up and a man can't fit you
neatly into his categories of women he knows and
does or doesn't like... you very quickly have a
man's ATTENTION.
But getting a man's attention is just the first
step.
The second step is to turn his attention into
INTEREST.
To do this, I've found that most women who men
feel comfortable with and see as "relationship
material" and fall for are women who have a
certain attitude in common.
I call this attitude "Playful & Independent."
If a man is going to even start to consider a
woman for a relationship... then there HAS TO BE
a playful element to the way you are together.
In short, without this a man won't feel that
being in a relationship with you would simply
be and stay FUN.
And us men, being the simple creatures we are,
have to believe that the things we commit to more
of in the future will be FUN for us.
Of course, the other element of this female
attitude men are naturally attracted to for
relationships is Independence.
In short, when a woman communicates that she
has a great life of her own, it is VERY
ATTRACTIVE to a man.
Reason being, a man would feel comfortable
getting into a real committed relationship with
a woman who is Independent because he doesn't
have to worry about becoming "everything" to her -
about becoming the one person in the world who has
to try and make her happy.
Think of it this way...
When a man senses that a woman is unhappy but
wants a relationship to try and become more
happy, how does he respond?
Exactly.
He RUNS from the relationship as fast as he
can.
But here's THE STRANGEST PART-
When a man finally feels like he's found that
right woman who has a great life he can share in
and enjoy...
Then a man will want nothing more than to try
and make this woman happy.
So how do you communicate that you're this
kind of fun, playful and independent woman who
doesn't NEED a man to take care of her... but who
wants to share a great life?
The short answer is that you don't just come
out and say "I'm independent and playful."
You SHOW a man that you're this way with your
ACTIONS.
With men, ACTIONS are the simplest and easiest
way to connect and start sharing a meaningful
relationship.
For instance...
Let's say a man doesn't call for a day or two
and you're wondering what's going on.
You might do the following:
A) Call him and ask him why he hasn't called, and
let him know that it hurt your feelings
Or...
B) Wait for him to call you and then act weird
and try to pretend nothing is wrong
Of course, if you've done either of these you
know that they will get you nowhere fast with a
man, and mess things up bad.
What else could you do?
Well...
Instead of calling, or waiting for him to call
and showing him that you were waiting and
worrying...
Here's an opportunity to show through your
ACTIONS that you have a great life of your own
and that great Playful & Independent attitude-
You could either:
A) Call him and invite him to do something fun
and exciting that he wouldn't expect
Or....
B) Wait for him to call and then be genuinely
happy and excited to hear from him
Now, you might not understand the difference
in these two... and feel like there is an element
of "game-playing", or acting like someone you're
not.
To that I would say this:
If I had a CHOICE in my life, which I do...
I would choose to do things that EXCITE and
INSPIRE OTHERS.
If you have a CHOICE in your life, which you
do...
You would do well to do things that EXCITE
and INSPIRE MEN (e.g.- creating attraction).
Now, there is a catch here...
To be a woman who CHOOSES to be Playful &
Independent... you actually have to have these
be parts of your life.
You actually have to have PLAY and PLAYFULNESS
as part of your own life.
And...
You actually have to be Independent and sure
of yourself enough to not need a man to call for
you to have a great time in your life.
You're starting to see the difference here.
Once you are living the life you want that is
also the kind of fun and exciting life that a man
would be drawn to and want to be a part of, then
a few things will happen:
1) You will start becoming more "Playful &
Independent" without even thinking about it
2) You will stop doing the things you used to do
that turned men off to the idea of a relationship
with you
3) You will make a great man feel that intense
gut-level ATTRACTION for you because you will
be doing UNPREDICTABLE things that make you stand
out as different from any other woman he's met
Would all this be something you're interested
in having in your life right now?
Does making it easy for yourself to draw that
special man to you sound good?
Then I want to help, in 2 easy ways.
The 1st Way) From The Inside Out
You might have recognized some things that you
are doing that end up sabotaging your
relationships.
That might be losing your composure with men
on an emotional level...
Or it might be simply not feeling comfortable
and confident enough to put yourself out there
and let a man see you for who you really are on
the inside.
If you're struggling and fighting against
yourself and your own thoughts and feelings...
And you'd like to quickly move past all this
and free yourself from the kinds of unhealthy
relationships you've been having in the past...
Then I'd suggest starting your path towards
more playfulness and independence in your life
by taking things from the INSIDE OUT.
Once you take care of what's going on inside,
the outside will take care of itself.
To clear out the mental and emotional blocks
that have kept you in bad relationships, and get
back in touch with that loving, open and
irresistible woman inside you who the right man
will naturally be drawn to...
I STRONGLY SUGGEST you check out my "Ready For
Love" program.
It's the quickest way I know to clear out all
the negative thoughts and beliefs that are holding
you back from the kind of incredible love and
relationship that is possible in your life.
The 2nd Way) From The Outside In
You might be in a great place in your life,
but you're just not finding that you're drawing
the right man to you for a lasting relationship.
This isn't an uncommon situation for women
these days.
Even for great, successful, beautiful women
who have amazing lives of their own and lots to
offer a man.
Here's the thing...
You can be the most amazing woman in the world,
but if you don't know how to catch a man's
interest for the right reasons... and help him
connect to you on a deeper level, then it's going
to be almost impossible to find the relationship
you really want.
Don't keep wasting your precious time waiting
for a man to recognize all the beauty that's
inside you-
When it's easier than you might think to make
a man take notice and open up his heart just by
saying a few of the "right things" that tug on his
heartstrings.
I touched on the first way to do this - to be
more UNPREDICTABLE with him.
This is just ONE of the SIX KEYS to creating
what I call "Emotional Attraction" with a man.
To find out the other 5 KEYS, and to know
what attracts a man on a deeper, more EMOTIONAL
LEVEL that goes BEYOND JUST PHYSICAL DESIRE...
then you need to check out the program I put
together to show you *how attraction works for
a man.
*Attraction works different for a man than
it does for a woman.
My very best tips and ideas for creating an
INTENSE level of ATTRACTION in a man's HEART,
MIND and BODY are in my best-selling program
"Natural & Lasting Attraction."
And by the way...
If you haven't taken the time to try any of
my materials the way thousands of other women
have tried... then it's time to get started
with your new love life today.
There's no better time than right now.
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