did you know that a lot of the
words and actions that you THINK will attract a
man and bring him closer actually REPEL him?
If a man who you once had "great chemistry" with
suddenly withdraws, this may be why.
Have you recently broken up with a man and you're
wondering how you're going to "get back out there"
and start dating again?
Are you feeling like you've got too much going on
to focus on dating and socializing right now?
Or maybe you have children and can't imagine
having the time and energy for a love life?
If you can relate to any of these, I have good
news.
In this e-mail I'm going to give you 3 quick tips
on how to meet lots of new and interesting men
WITHOUT taking a ton of time away from your busy
schedule, your work or your family.
I'm also going to tell you the BEST way to attract
the RIGHT man and find the love you want, without
wasting a lot of time on men who are
inappropriate, wrong or unavailable.
Because the LAST thing you need is to waste a lot
of time with a man who is just going to give you
the "runaround" or treat you badly.
So let's get started.
I get a lot of e-mails from readers who tell me
that for a lot of reasons, they're having trouble
figuring out how to get back in the dating scene.
They don't know where to meet single men.
They aren't sure if they can find a man close
to their age who will be interested in them.
They worry about dating because they have kids.
You may be wondering some of the same things
yourself.
You feel like you don't have "time" to date.
Or you lack the motivation and energy after going
through a long or painful breakup.
Or maybe you have kids, and aren't even sure how
you're supposed to handle "dating" and being a
good parent at the same time.
I'm sure you've gotten a lot of advice on what to
do from family or friends.
But you still don't see how things are going to
change for you anytime soon, in order for you to
find the "mental space" to start dating.
I have to tell you, though. the only thing
standing in your way is. well, is YOU.
I personally know TONS of women in your exact
situation who have just made a small shift in
their thinking and have changed their love lives
forever.
These are the steps they took, and the steps I
think you need to take in order to get your love
life back on track today:
>>RESTARTING YOUR LOVE LIFE STEP #1:
Go Where the MOST Single Men Are - ONLINE
Online dating is the quickest and BEST way to meet
as many single, attractive men who SHARE YOUR
INTERESTS and with whom you otherwise would never
cross paths.
There may be at least a dozen great single guys
within a mile of where you live, and you would
never know it - but that's the beauty of online
dating. If they're out there, chances are, they're
online looking for a great woman like YOU, too.
Whether you've never tried it, or have tried it
and you weren't successful at it before, you
really owe it to yourself to try online dating
AGAIN.
I know so many women who swore up and down that
online dating just wasn't for them, but once they
finally tried it the first time - or actually
buckled down and tried it AGAIN - were so glad
they did.
Especially after they learned the most effective
attraction tips and how-to's SPECIFICALLY for
online dating, in my "Finding Love Online"
program.
To learn the secrets of how to set yourself up
for success online from DAY ONE - from easily
writing a profile that stands out above all others
to how to screen for the "right" man and
gracefully reject the inappropriate ones...
So, once you set yourself up online, then it's
on to step #2:
>>RESTARTING YOUR LOVE LIFE STEP #2:
Make Yourself Available.
You may think that you have ZERO time to go out
and meet men. You work hard, and when you come
home you're too tired to even THINK about being
"social" or trying to get ready to go out.
I get it.
I can also imagine how hard it can be when you
have kids and you want to give them all your
love and attention when you're together.
The thing is, your kids are going to be much
happier if YOU are happy - and if you feel that
you really want a partner in your life now, or in
the future, then postponing dating isn't going to
make you a happier person.
You don't have to sacrifice your own happiness
in order to make others happy - and you shouldn't.
Look, you don't need to have tons of free time
to date. All you need is to DECIDE that you want
to make yourself available, and then you want to
go for it.
You'll be surprised at how much MORE energy and
time you'll find for love when it finally comes
your way.
Have you ever had a friend claim they had "no
time" for a love life, and you knew they were
lonely deep-down and really needed to MAKE TIME.
Then a weird thing happened. out of the blue they
met someone, fell in love, and all of a sudden,
"time" was no longer an issue?
It's like they were able to easily shift their
schedule and priorities and became more fulfilled,
happier people because of it?
Yeah, I have, too.
So, here's what you do.
Think about times in your day when you might be
able to set aside 30-60 minutes to have a quick
meal or a cup of coffee with a man. Maybe it's
on your lunch hour. Maybe it's meeting over
coffee and a bagel in the morning for 20
minutes.
Maybe it's for a short walk in a park where you
can get some exercise AND have a great
conversation with a man. (That's the GOOD kind
of multi-tasking!)
Take out a calendar and actually jot down the days
and times you could spare an hour or less for a
casual meet-up.
The point is, you don't need to set aside entire
evenings or weekends to date. The goal here is to
set aside small amounts of time to meet the men
you've screened online to see if there is
chemistry with any of them, if you have things in
common, if you feel comfortable and relaxed around
them.
This way, you're meeting a lot of available,
single guys and you're increasing the chances that
you'll find someone you'll ultimately click with.
>>RESTARTING YOUR LOVE LIFE STEP #3:
Increase Your Chances of Success
By setting aside small chunks of time in your week
to meet and qualify men you've found online, you
can literally be meeting as many as 5 or more
single men each week.
Here's the beauty of taking this "all at once"
blanket approach to dating.
First of all, you're increasing your chances of
success to find THE right guy who shares your
values, interests and for whom you have a mutual
attraction.
You're also not getting "too heavy" with any ONE
guy too quickly...which, by the way, can become a
TURN-OFF if the guy isn't "feeling it" for you
yet.
For example, if you were to go out on 3
consecutive dates with just one man, and found out
later that he was still actively online meeting
other women - and you HADN'T discussed exclusivity
or whether or not you were even in a real
"relationship" yet.
You'll probably give him a weird "vibe" when you
talk to him next.
You might even confront him and ask why he's still
online meeting other women.
But in HIS mind, he's still "getting to know
you."
And he'll see your "vibe" or your confrontation as
a bit "over the top" and dramatic. He just isn't
going to GET IT.
Until you get to know a man, and until there is an
actual DISCUSSION about exclusivity or the fact
that you're now in a committed relationship, you
should just assume that you can still get to know
other men, and he can still get to know other
women.
You should never assume there is more to a
relationship than has been discussed or agreed to.
This is one of the most common complaints I hear
from women - that they "assumed" things were
exclusive, when in fact, they weren't (in the
guy's mind).
Going on short, casual dates with a few at the
same time allows you to take your time figuring
out what you want, and it has the added benefit
of creating ATTRACTION because the man realizes
you're a woman with a full and great life and you
are willing to TAKE THE TIME to get to know a man
before you'll let him fully into your life.
And, by taking your time and meeting many men, you
increase your chances of finding the RIGHT man,
instead of quickly "settling" for the WRONG man
just because you feel intense chemistry with him.
Quickly jumping into a relationship because you
feel chemistry is what I call the "Danger of a
Connection" in my eBook and it's the source of a
LOT of problems and heartbreak in relationships.
You can also HUGELY increase the chances of
meeting and attracting a good guy, and
triggering his attraction for you by following
a few simple tips and techniques.
These are tips on what to do and say not just
ONLINE, but on a FIRST DATE.
I recently sat down to interview a woman who has
a very compelling personal story.
She got divorced when she was in her mid-30s. She
knew she wanted to eventually re-marry someday and
have another child, but her friends told her it
would probably take her up to 8 years to find a
man and settle down.
Emily didn't want to believe that it took so long.
As a matter of fact, she vowed that she would do
whatever it took to get out there and find her new
Mr. Right, and it sure as heck wasn't going to
take her 8 years.
It took her 22 days, as a matter of fact.
And now she's married and has a beautiful family
with her new husband.
How did she do it? She started with the exact same
steps I just listed. She told me that all it took
was a little "planning and effort" and a
willingness to take a risk.
But she had some other advantages.
She knew what to put in her profile to attract
men who were decent "good" guys and to discourage
the ones who were just looking for a "hookup" or
a sexual relationship.
She knew a special technique for taking her
profile photo that made men stop DEAD in their
tracks when they saw it.
She knew what to say on a first date to keep a man
intrigued, and what to ask in order to know if a
man was looking for the same kind of committed,
serious relationship.
Most of all, Emily KNEW what she wanted, and how
to go about getting it.
And now Emily shares her success with her clients
with her coaching programs, and has helped many
single women find the man of their dreams a LOT
sooner than they would have without her help.
This is why I was excited to be able to talk to
Emily myself and get the scoop on all her secrets
and record them on tape.
During our interview, Emily also revealed these
tips on "getting back out there" and increasing
your chances for meeting The One:
>> How to invite better quality men to respond to
your online personal ad, by changing this ONE
THING.
>> The #1 red flag you can learn almost
immediately about a man that tells you he's
immature or unable to handle real responsibility
(wait until you hear this one, and you'll be
shocked how many women go for men like this even
after they find this out!)
>> The easiest way to be irresistible to a man out
in public - if you do this, you'll glow, if you
don't, you'll seem dowdy and unattractive, no
matter how much time you've spent on your clothes
and makeup.
>> Whether or not you should go out with a man
who's cheated on his ex, and if you do, whether
it means he'll cheat on YOU, too.
>> A tactful, classy way of finding out on the
FIRST DATE whether a man is interested in a real
relationship that could lead to marriage and
kids - that won't freak him out or feel awkward
to bring up.
>> 1 "silly" but fun question to ask a man that
will reveal a lot of hidden aspects about him...
like whether or not he's capable of relaxing or if
he's creative (plus this has the added benefit of
"breaking the ice" on a date).
>> What makes you MUCH MORE likely to keep
attracting men who are just after "one thing" and
then dump you...and how to stop this ugly little
cycle.
>> How to easily and effortlessly change your
energy and demeanor on a date. If you find
yourself feeling irritable and stressed and have
difficulty "de-compressing" when you go out, then
you MUST hear these tips
And tons more, including actual DIALOGUE on what
to say to a man when you're ready to be exclusive
and don't want him to date or sleep with anyone
else.
If you're tired of being single and you feel like
NOW IS THE TIME to get yourself "back out there"
and finally meet a good man who is going to be a
great partner, then you NEED to listen to this
interview I recorded with Emily.
If you'd like to get your hands on this interview
on a CD, completely free for you to listen to and
enjoy for a full month, here's what you can do:
Simply go to the link below and sign up for your
free trial subscription to my Interview With
Relationships Experts series, which you can cancel
any time if you're not totally thrilled with the
value you'll get.
My monthly interview series is an opportunity for
you to learn great tips and insights into men,
relationships, dating and how to become the best
and most attractive woman you can be.
Each month I sit down with some of the best and
brightest therapists, coaches and authors I know
to reveal their most powerful tips and advice
about making relationships and dating more
successful.
So, regardless of what you decide about continuing
with the subscription, you get to KEEP the
interview with Emily, no questions asked.
On a related note... if you have already tried,
or thought about trying ONLINE DATING, let me
ask you:
Have you put a ton of effort and time into
putting together a great online profile only to
have zero quality responses, or worse, emails that
seem promising but are ultimately "dead ends"?
There are so many attractive, quality men
online... but the problem is you're either:
1) not getting any attention at all, or the WRONG
KIND of attention from men who totally repel you
2) a great guy writes you once or twice and then
stops writing altogether - for no apparent reason
3) the guy seems disinterested, even though you've
read his profile and you know you'd be a great
match
So what's the story here?
Is there some secret to online dating that
you're not "getting" or are all the men online
just a bunch of flakes?
Or are YOU doing something wrong?
Finding and meeting the perfect man online
isn't impossible. As a matter of fact it's easier
than ever IF you know the special attraction
"language" to use.
It's as easy as knowing the right WORDS and
PHRASES to use and avoid... so you don't miss
connecting with the right man for you.
This is why my latest interview with Emily is
the perfect free bonus to my newest CD/DVD program
"Finding Love Online."
Not only would you get all of Emily's fantastic
tips on how to meet the right man FAST, and
make a great impression on the man you're
most interested in.
But you'd get my in-depth "how-to" program on
Finding Love Online that will show you specific
tips and tricks on how to quickly and easily do
all of the following:
-identify the right kind of guy online from all
the WRONG ONES that will waste your time
-write a profile that a man CAN'T RESIST
responding to
-ask the right questions to see if a man is WORTH
meeting in person
-take it from cyberspace to the real world SAFELY
AND QUICKLY and get his interest so he'll ask you
out again and again
In my "Finding Love Online" program I show you
all the ways to STAND OUT and be noticed... as
well as the 5 things to avoid writing in any
profile or email so a quality man doesn't CRINGE
when he reads it (or quickly make him MOVE
ON to the next profile and skip yours
altogether).
Now, here's something you might want to take
me up on...
If you think you'd like to try out my "Finding
Love Online" program and also listen to the
interview with Emily, here's what I'm willing to
do for you today...
I'll ship ALL of the following to you risk-free
so you can try it out:
1) My newest program "Finding Love Online" on CD
or DVD for you to try out and see if you love it
for a full 30 days
2) My interview with Emily on audio CD for you to
listen to and KEEP, regardless if you want to
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3) A new interview with a brand new dating and
relationship expert, author or counselor,
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you decide to continue with the series. Cancel
anytime.
Plus, I'll ship all of this to you at my
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try it all out and start improving your life.
I'll only ask that you do one thing...
You have to let me know before Midnight on
December 8th that you'd like to try all these
amazing materials out for free, or else I can't
get you the Emily Interview with all this.
Here's a way I've made this SUPER SIMPLE...
All you need to do if you're ready is go here
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you'll click on the "Free Trial" button.
After you do this, you'll automatically be
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That's really all there is to it, and you'll
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