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Get Him To Change How He Communicates

2011-12-31T04:35:00.001-08:00

Now... I want to share something so important
that it could INSTANTLY TRANSFORM the way you
and a man communicate with each other, forever.

Let me ask you-

Why is it that men always act so great at
the start of your relationship...

But then eventually you find yourself back
in the familiar situation where just trying to
talk to him about things and understand each
other feels like pulling teeth?

If you're like lots of women I've
helped... then you know that to have a great
and lasting relationship with a real man, you're
going to have to know how to stay close and
connected even when this "shift" takes place
and your relationship feels less and less
CERTAIN.

Whether you've had this happen to you in
the past, or you're struggling to "save" your
current relationship now... there's one skill
that will give you the power to keep your
relationship on track and understand everything
you need to know in an instant-

And that's the skill of COMMUNICATION.

If you'd like to literally TRANSFORM your
relationship in a matter of days using the
power of the way you and a man COMMUNICATE...

Then my program "Communication Secrets For
A Secure Relationship" will show you exactly
how.

This program will show you:

-How to tap into the "hidden messages" your man
is SUBCONCIOUSLY sending you... and know exactly
what he is thinking and feeling at all times

-The REAL reasons why men pull away when you try
to talk to them about something meaningful (Here's
how to find out if it's because of things that are
going on with him... or if it's YOU that is
causing him to be resistant)

-2 dangerous mistakes that make even the most
understanding men CLOSE UP often permanently
(If the communication in your relationship used
to be great but is now nonexistent, chances are
it's because you did one of these 2 things)

-How to use your BODY LANGUAGE to make a man feel
comfortable and relaxed around you (This is one of
the big KEYS to getting him to open up and share
his feelings)

-How to keep your conversations from turning into
ARGUMENTS (I don't need to tell you how important
this one is. Here's how to see his side from a
position of understanding instead of anger and get
him to do the same)

-And lots more.

Attracting Men Who Want Real Relationships

2011-12-31T04:33:00.000-08:00

Did you know that millions of women
share the EXACT SAME relationship issue
with their man... an issue that keeps coming up
again and again?

And had things fall apart because they could never
find the right answers on how to handle it?

This one problem is likely responsible for more
restless nights than cheap hotel sheets.

The problem is:

"Why does a man gets SCARED AWAY when your
relationship grows and it's time for him to
commit to you for the long-term?"

If you don't know exactly how to handle this
critical situation with a man when things go
from "casual" to feeling more "serious"...

And you don't know the 3 mistakes most women
make that are sure to trigger a man's
"withdrawal response"...

Then you HAVE TO read an article I wrote that
gives answers to this the age-old problem.

Now [[firstname]- if you're single right now, I
want your full attention.

Are you ready to stop spending your "quality
time" at home alone- just you and your dog?

I mean, your dog is great and all.

But c'mon now.

Instead, what about spending your nights in the
arms of a special man you can really connect with?

Sound better?

Good. Then I can help.

I want to make meeting a great guy, and
starting a real healthy relationship, a reality
for you.

But to change your luck, I'm going to need
for you to understand something.

Do you know the most common reason why tons of
great women DON'T have a great man in their lives?

Is it because inside they're still holding on
to their last relationship?

Is it because they think too much about it,
and love will only come along when they relax and
stop thinking about it?

Is it because there just aren't any great guys
out there who want relationships?

The truth is, it's none of these.

I'll tell you the most common reason why great
women don't have a great man in their lives-

It's because most single women RARELY talk to
men who they DON'T ALREADY KNOW.

Ok. I know, I know.

This might not sound terribly profound at
first, or even that true.

But think about it for a second...

I want you to count up the growing number of
brand new men you simply struck up conversations
with in the last few days.

Was it 3?

4?

7?

Ok, and how many new men have you had a little
chat with in the last few weeks?

Was it 8?

10?

12?

And how about the last month?

Now, I want you to think about any other single
women you know and are close to.

How many new men have these women talked to
lately?

I think you see what I'm getting at here.

I'm going to make a bold guess here.

I would guess that in the last few days you
haven't talked to a single new man who you've
never talked to before.

Or if you have, it was simply because you
"accidentally" were brought into a brief exchange
of words over something trivial, like one of you
needing the divider for the groceries at the
check out line.

That doesn't count as "talking" to a new man.

Sorry.

Here's the thing...

It's funny that we don't always think about the
SIMPLE THINGS that can make all the difference
in our lives.

I mean, you're looking to meet someone new, but
you're not even taking the time to engage in
CONVERSATION with any new men?

Hmmm. Something here isn't adding up.

Tip #1) Stop Using YOUR "Secret Excuse" For Not
Meeting The Right Man

There's a little secret excuse a lot of women
carry around in their lives.

It's a secret that, instead of keeping from
other people, they keep from THEMSELVES.

This secrets is that they are NERVOUS when
it comes to talking to men, and therefore rarely,
if ever, do talk to men.

Now, we all get nervous.

And we all have things we are afraid of.

The difference is how you handle this when
the nervousness or fear comes up inside you.

Oh... and here's something else important you
should know-

Men and women both suffer from this same
secret excuse for not meeting people.

In fact, most men are MORE NERVOUS of
approaching and talking to a woman they've never
met than you might ever imagine.

Many are terrified.

There are actually people out there making
their living helping men get over their fears of
simply approaching and talking to women.

It's that big of a deal for men.

So considering this, and considering the fact
that you've started conversations with say,
um, I don't know... ZERO MEN lately... it's
no secret you're still the best-kept secret
in town, my dear.

Tip #2) Decide You Want Things To Change

Let me ask you something directly and
honestly, now that we're getting down to it-

Is part of you unsure about what to do or say
when you meet a new man?

Do you draw a blank when it comes time to
start a conversation that isn't just about
everyday stuff... but could involve flirting,
affection and a future date?

And is part of you uncertain about how to go
about finding out what kind of guy a man
REALLY IS?

And are you unsure about how to move
confidently and safely from one step to the
next with a man in the dating and relationship
process so that everything goes smoothly?

Or do you worry things are going to go wrong
and you'll either end up wasting your time on an
awful date with the wrong man... or you'll THINK
you've found a prince who actually turns out to
be a toad?

If so, you're not alone. Lots of smart, savvy,
successful women just plain don't know what it
takes to talk to and connect with a great guy
when they run into one.

This might sound like a tough place to be,
and that it feels impossible to find and connect
with a great guy out there if you're in this
place.

But the GOOD NEWS is that it's not so hard
to get out of this place inside yourself.

I've helped literally tens of thousands of
women change the "reality" of their love lives.

And all it took for them was 2 things:

A) The DESIRE for change in their life

B) Opening up to the right kind of help

What Men Find Irresistible In Women

2011-12-31T04:32:00.000-08:00

How come a man will say he's "not ready" for
a serious relationship with one woman... and then
meet another woman a few weeks or months later
and be smitten with her and get involved in a
deep and lasting relationship that he freely
commits himself to?

What in the world is going on here?

Are men lying?

Do they just not know what they're feeling?

Or is it something else?

I answer this question in detail at the link
below, where I talk about what it takes for a man
to feel like he's "ready" to love a woman, no
matter what is happening in his life:

When I first started studying the whole area
of dating and relationships, there was something
I just couldn't understand about why men fell for
some women and not others... and why suddenly a
man would go from "unavailable" to emotionally
engaged and deeply in love with another woman.

Then it hit me as one day I made a crucial
discovery that changed the way I looked at dating,
love and relationships.

In short, here's what I discovered...

We like to think that our more CONSCIOUS MIND
is the one doing the choosing and deciding... and
that what we talk about and say directly is what
matters most and influences the people around us.

Not true.

After years of learning and observation
I've found that for men, falling in love and
choosing to be with a woman because of the way
she makes him FEEL is not a "logical" and 100%
conscious decision.

It's much more subtle and INDIRECT than that.

What makes a man truly fall for a woman has a
whole lot more to do with the "triggers" that pull
a man into that rarely-visited place deep inside
his heart and mind - a place that most women just
don't know how to get in touch with.

Do you know what these "triggers" are that
can instantly start to make a man wild with
anticipation just to be in your presence?

And do you know what the greatest "trigger" of
all is that can instantly draw a man into that
open and loving space - to where he'll
cast away all his fears of commitment and of
losing his freedom, and simply want to be with
you?

I'll tell you-

It's the magic feeling of ATTRACTION.

This one thing is so important that it really
is the ROOT of everything else - sharing
affection, getting a man to want to communicate
and open up, having him want to commit, feeling
connected and close, the list goes on...

ALL of these can be traced back to how much
ATTRACTION you've built between the two of you.

Of course, I'm not just talking about that
plain old "Physical Attraction" a man can feel.

That's something you know a man can and does
experience simply walking down the street and
seeing a beautiful woman.

I'm talking about another, deeper and more
EMOTIONAL kind of attraction that bonds a man
to ONE WOMAN and let's him know that he wants
to be with her, and only her.

And if you don't know that there's this
"other" kind of attraction, one that goes beyond
just Physical Attraction - then it's going to
be VERY DIFFICULT to have a man feel and
experience that deep level of emotional
connection and desire for you that will make him
want a deep and LASTING relationship.

If you don't know what this other kind of
attraction is, don't worry...

That's why I made it the focus of an entire
CD/DVD program I put together to help you.

It's called Natural & Lasting Attraction.

This program is the best way to learn how to
ignite - and KEEP - the flame of attraction
burning.

I highly recommend you check it out. It will
mean the difference between being in a loving,
fulfilling relationship that lasts... or another
relationship where you have to do all the "work"
yourself just to try and keep it together while
the man you're with keeps pulling away and grows
more and more DISTANT.

Don't let this keep happening, when the answer
is so fun and easy - create the magic feeling of
ATTRACTION inside a man that will tell him you
are truly the one woman for him.

He'll love you for it.

I promise.

And you'll LOVE what you get from him in
return.

Why Men Act "Hot And Cold"

2011-12-31T04:31:00.000-08:00

Imagine attracting a man emotionally and
intellectually in such a way that he absolutely
can't resist wanting to be around you.

Not only that, but imagine all the obstacles and
excuses falling away. No more "I'm too busy" or
"I have to work through some issues." The only
thing he'll know is his desire to be with you.

If this is something you want for your
relationship, then you need to check out my
"Natural & Lasting Attraction" CD/DVD program.

In this program I reveal specific ways to
subtly communicate to a man the things that will
"trigger" that intense level of attraction inside
him.

You can literally have a man who wasn't totally
"feeling it" for you suddenly take notice and see
and recognize the things inside you he simply
didn't look for or see before.

Go here now and turn up the dial on the level
of ATTRACTION a man feels and experiences with
you on both a Physical and Emotional level.

You'll be glad you did.

let's get down to what's
really going on in your heart when it comes to men
and relationships.

Here's what I want to know first...

Why is it so easy for other women to fall in
love with a man, and for their relationships to
effortlessly come together and grow...

While YOU keep attracting all the men out
there who are "unavailable" or who SEEM great at
first, but eventually get scared and just can't
go "deeper" with you?

Is this "unavailable" thing really a problem
so many men are carrying around that gets in the
way of love?

Or...

Could it also be that YOU play a part in
finding men who are "unavailable"?

Or that you bring about that unavailable
RESPONSE inside a man, a response that even the
most "evolved" men have lying dormant inside
them?

I want to share with you what could be a new
and enlightening perspective on all this..

There's an important realization all SMART
and LOVING women come to at some point in their
love lives.

It's a "light bulb" that suddenly just turns
on... and when it does you instantly grow and see
things with a new sense of CLARITY.

Unfortunately, most women only come to this
important realization AFTER they've been through
the pain and frustration of doing everything they
can think of to "revive" their relationship and
failing.

I'll tell you what this REALIZATION is:

It's that when you're with a man who is feeling
or acting UNCERTAIN with you - even if you could
give him an "ultimatum" that would move things
ahead to the place in your relationship that YOU
WANT -

You're in a very dangerous and "weak" position
for your relationship. He's not really making that
decision based on what HE wants or feels.

It's a weak position because you really want
and need a man who is truly COMMITTED to being
with you on a physical, mental, emotional, and
even spiritual level. Not coerced, not forced,
not convinced.

COMMITTED. Totally and with all his being.

Knowing this, let me ask you...

Do men truly COMMIT and choose to love and
become loyal, caring, affectionate, etc. just
because a woman ASKS THEM?

Or does a man need to have HIS OWN REASONS
for being and feeling this way?

It's a VERY IMPORTANT question.

If you've had one or more relationships where
you were ready for "more"... but the man you were
with was seeming to drag his heels, or just not
care about your relationship... and you tried to
make it work but it only seemed to BACKFIRE - then
this question could be one of the most important
questions you ever ask yourself.

Seriously.

So as a bit of homework, I want you to stop
for a second and THINK ABOUT IT...

*Do men truly COMMIT and choose to love and
become truly loyal, caring, and affectionate just
because a woman ASKS IT OF THEM?

Or...

Does a man need to have HIS OWN REASONS for
truly feeling and being this way with you, if it's
going to LAST?

WHERE TO START IN LEARNING ABOUT WHAT MAKES HIM
WANT TO COMMIT WITH YOU

Let me be unusually direct with you, for your
own good:

Have you finally figured out that if you don't
know HOW TO GET A MAN TO OPEN UP and talk and
share his deeper thoughts and feelings with you...
then it's going to be impossible to make your
relationship work?

Lots of women think they get how this works
because they talk a lot about what's on THEIR
MIND.

For most women, this is common Communication
Mistake #1 in their relationship:

Sharing YOUR FEELINGS first, and often, because
you believe this will somehow get him to share his
feelings in return.

This is not a great way to get a man to "open
up" to you and get in touch with his feelings.

This is not his "emotional process."

Especially with a man you're in a relationship
with who is already acting "withdrawn" and has
shut off his feelings from you.

This kind of MORE IS BETTER approach about
talking and sharing YOUR FEELINGS actually
WORKS AGAINST YOU more than it helps you with
men who are acting uncertain and withdrawn.

Here's the deal:

If you know anything about a man, then you
should know that to get to know HIS FEELINGS,
then more talk about YOUR FEELINGS is NOT the
answer.

Which leads me to common Communication
Mistake #2:

Out of all the things that can go wrong in
a relationship, I've found one that causes women
more pain, frustration, and leads to BAD OUTCOMES
with the man in their life than anything else...

I've watched it happen over and over with all
the women I know - my friends, my sister,
co-workers. I also get TONS of e-mails from women
who read my newsletters who write to tell me this
all-too-familiar story.

It's the SAME ISSUE that keeps popping up at
the beginning of their romantic relationships -

EXPECTATIONS.

It's when a woman expects that the relationship
will progress to something more committed, but
ends up feeling disappointed when she finds out
the man doesn't want the same thing.

This problem usually plays itself out in one of
two ways.

I'm sure you'll identify with one (if not both)
of these:

SCENARIO #1: You know exactly what you want
out of the relationship, but rather than "rock
the boat" by having a conversation in which you
make your expectations clear, you decide to
WAIT IT OUT in hopes that the man will soon feel
the same way and that everything will just "work
itself out."

SCENARIO #2: You know exactly what you want out
of the relationship but as soon as you get the
sense that the guy doesn't share your desires or
isn't "on the same page" emotionally, you subtly
and unconsciously decide to PRETEND that you're
cool with things just being casual, even though
you know you need a lot MORE to be happy and
content.

Predictably, when you find yourself in either of
these two scenarios, it becomes a slippery slope
toward ultimate relationship disaster.

Here's how this plays out:

First- you start feeling unfulfilled, anxious or
worried that you're not getting what you want
and need from the relationship

Second- you don't know how to say what you're
feeling and what you want in a mature, honest
way, so you say nothing at all, or you drop
"hints" that are misunderstood or ignored

Third- he doesn't change anything about the way
he's treating you or the relationship, and you
become frustrated or disappointed with because
he doesn't really "get" what's missing and what
you want from him

Fourth- your frustration builds up even more and
either brings you to an emotionally destructive
CONFRONTATION with him that FREAKS him out (like
an ultimatum)... or all the silent tension and
negative feelings between you make him act
distant, disconnected and maybe he even starts
losing interest in you

Remember going down this road?

Not fun, huh?

So what's going on here? And what can you do
about it?

Stick with me here, and I'll reveal some basic
insights about how to get a man on the "same page"
about where your relationship is headed without
all the drama, tears and frustration.

"CENTER" YOURSELF FIRST... AND GET CLEAR ABOUT
WHAT YOU WANT

What you need to do FIRST, before you do
anything else, is get CLEAR about what you want
and expect from your love life.

You need to be honest with YOURSELF first,
before you can be honest with anyone else in
your life.

Stop PRETENDING you only want a "casual" fun
fling when what you REALLY want is to have a
committed, serious relationship that's "going
somewhere."

Here's the thing:

Getting clear about what you want will help guide
your mind in all kinds of POSITIVE DIRECTIONS to
help you find and attract the right situations
and people in your life.

But, unfortunately, being CLEAR and HONEST is
not that simple for most women when "the rubber
meets the road" in dating and relationships.

The reality is, knowing what they want and
expect can turn into a source of EXTREME
frustration and anxiety for a lot of women.

Why is that?

I'll explain.

Expectations can definitely set us off in good
directions in our lives... But when we don't feel
like we have the CONTROL over how to get those
expectations met, the "wheels really start to
come off the car", so to speak.

To get the inside scoop about how the
commitment process works for a man, and how to
transition from "casual" to deeply committed in
an easy and effortless way, without the usual
uncertainty and fear that comes up when you have
"The Talk" ... I strongly suggest you check out
my "From Casual To Committed" program.

Ok, so let's get back the concept of
expectations and disappointment.

A woman may "feel" like the man she's been
dating is "The One" and she can see things
getting much more committed and serious, but she
also senses she doesn't have the right tools or
skills to know how to COMMUNICATE those desires
to the man in a positive way.

Simply put, the woman is AFRAID that
approaching the guy with a heavy "talk" will
either scare him away.

Or...

She herself doesn't know what "taking it to
the next level" really means to HIM, why he would
want this, and how to go about talking about it
in a way that builds trust and makes him want to
open up and share.

So she avoids telling him what she's really
thinking and feeling about their relationship.

Instead, she starts to accept or downplay the
little disappointments she feels.

Until one day she finally wakes up and realizes
that she doesn't have the kind of relationship
she THOUGHT she would have with this man, and
she's just not happy with herself or the
situation.

And sometimes this "awakening" doesn't even
happen until after the man cheats or leaves.

Ouch.

Hey, I get it.

Men can act more than a little insensitive
to all of this, and even act like TOTAL IDIOTS
when it comes to appreciating and respecting the
great relationship you already have together.

But hang on for a sec...

Let's just simplify things and boil it down to
that one thing that is the cause of all the
trouble and confusion:

FEAR.

The unfortunate truth is that some women don't
want to dig deeper into what a man truly wants
because of their own fears.

They're AFRAID of finding out the truth about
what a man truly feels about them, and their
future together.

And the most dreaded fear of all...

REJECTION and ABANDONMENT.

These two things are SO STRONG AND POWERFUL
that something fascinating happens in the woman's
mind when there's even a small potential for
either of these....

Their mind starts a cycle of SELF-DECEPTION.

Here's how it works...

The fear of pain and loss often leads us to
ignore our thoughts and intuition and replace our
fearful thoughts with happier thoughts that make
us feel comfortable.

It's the mind's "emotional defense mechanism."

I know you felt this before.

How many times have you been unsure - deep
down - about the man you are seeing, but instead
of examining those doubts and finding a way for
you to deal with your own feelings, you decided
to actually BUILD HIM UP to your friends and
family as being a wonderful catch because you
didn't want to face some of the problems lurking
deep in the back of your mind?

You thought that you'd help things out by
telling yourself and having faith in what you
wanted to be true.

...And sometimes, in the process of making up
these "new truths" you even start to convince
YOURSELF that he's a better guy than he actually
is?

Or maybe you've been in a situation where
you've gotten no indication that the man you're
seeing wants any kind of serious relationship,
but you choose to believe that you're building
a committed relationship as things slowly and
naturally escalate.

Making those assumptions without the basis of
direct communication can lead to BIG TROUBLE
down the road.

Save yourself the wasted energy and the broken
heart.

If you're looking to move past the fear and
insecurity you feel but don't want to get in touch
with or let anyone know about, then I'd like to
help you get in touch and star the "healing" and
growth process.

And I'd like to help you quickly get to that
great place you know is inside you where LOVE and
amazing experiences and emotions simply FLOW
in your life... and draw the right man and the
right relationship to you all on their own.

Remember, a man can't read your mind, or
know all that's in your heart.

And if you're carrying around pain or fear,
it's surely getting in the way of him seeing that
beautiful and real you underneath that he would
want to know and love.

Don't keep a man from seeing the best of the
real you that's inside. Make it easy for him -
and for you.

Now, back to working with your own
expectations, and being with a man and discovering
how he is feeling.

Here's a question that's probably already
on your mind...

How can you be sure you're involved with
the RIGHT guy, and know how he's feeling, and
if he shares your expectations and desires?

The answer is HONESTY.

HONESTY is one of the most liberating and
valuable traits to develop - and it's even more
valuable when you're dating.

And guess what else?

It FEELS REALLY GOOD to be completely open
and honest.

Plus, even when it seems like it would push
you and a man apart, it has an amazing way of
bringing you closer together and building more
love and admiration.

But only if you know how to share your thoughts
and honest feelings in a way that SERVES YOU and
your relationship.

Not all communication is equal.

You can MEAN something, but depending on how
you share it with someone... it can either be
received as loving and "good"... or as NEGATIVE
and CRITICAL.

How is what you are feeling being RECEIVED?

And how does this relate to the way you choose
to COMMUNICATE what you are feeling?

A WAY TO COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS AND DESIRES TO
A MAN THAT HE'LL LOVE AND RESPOND TO

Let me tell you something important that you
might have gotten mixed up inside your head as
a woman in relationships with men who wouldn't
listen...

It's OK to want what you want and to let a man
know it.

In fact, it's a MUST.

And it's OK to tell a man that his behavior
doesn't match with what you want.

For example...

If a woman is honest and upfront about what
she wants and expects from a man, in a way that
says that she's not too attached to the immediate
outcome, and she subtly lets him know that he
better have his act together or else.

It can turn the usual "teeth pulling" talk
into an opportunity for building attraction and
a deep source of commitment with a man.

But remember...YOU CAN'T FAKE IT.

You have to be in a place where you truly
believe that you'll find and meet your
expectations for love and relationships, with
or without the man who's there in front of you
right then.

No matter how much you love him.

That means you have to be in the right frame
of mind, and state in your heart, BEFORE you start
the conversation with him...

But most women aren't in the right frame of
mind because they're afraid, and they've "tricked"
themselves into thinking that their intimate
feelings for a man will scare him off.

WRONG.

It's not honesty that will scare him off, it's
the negative, fearful and anxious "vibe" that
you unknowingly give off before you finally
EXPLODE because you can no longer hide how you
feel from the man you're with.

That's what scares some men off or makes
them clam up.

The amazing thing is that men crave HONEST
women who are up front about who they are and
what they want in relationships.

The key is to know the RIGHT WAY to communicate
these things without going over the top.

Remember, if you communicate with a man in a
way that assumes, begs, convinces, or makes him
think that you're "entitled" to a relationship
and a commitment with him, he will NEVER, EVER
respect you and want to stay for the long-term.

You might get what you want in the short-
term if he gives in to your wishes just to avoid
a conflict, but trust me, you are headed for
MUCH bigger problems in the future.

Or worse, you'll get what you want NOW, but
he's spent the past months - or even worse,
YEARS - secretly SEETHING WITH RESENTMENT towards
you.

Not good.

GIVE HIM A GOOD REASON TO WANT TO COMMIT TO YOU

You just can't "talk" a man into wanting to
commit to you by listing all the ways your
relationship is special.

This is something VERY IMPORTANT to remember
when it comes to men and relationships.

**You have to give a man the right "REASONS"
for him to want to and make HIMSELF commit.**

Becoming deeply committed doesn't often just
happen with the passing of time for a man. He
won't want to commit "just because" it's been
six months or a year (or longer).

He won't commit to you because you explain
how you think you're better than all the women
he's dated or because you have such a great
"connection."

Nope, he's going to commit for his own reasons.

So what are these "reasons"?

They're very complex if you don't understand
them... but simple at the same time.

A man's reasons for committing, or not
committing, are his FEELINGS and EMOTIONS.

Sounds simple, but it's profound and true.

The "masculine" part of a man has to FEEL like
he is naturally and of his own free will CHOOSING
to be with a woman.

If this happens, his commitment will usually
be strong and lasting.

But if he commits because a woman has been
talking to him and analyzing things to show him
how a relationship really makes "sense", then
his commitment won't be strong... and it
probably won't last.

See the difference?

A man's motivations for commitment are how a
woman makes him FEEL when he's with her.

If you want him to respond and have committed
feelings for you, then you need to do more of the
things that will make him FEEL those FEELINGS of
desire, interest and attraction that lead him to
want to commit.

Still with me here?

Good.

In other words, WORDS and conversations are the
LEAST powerful and effective tools that a woman
has when it comes to love and relationships.

The FEELINGS of ATTRACTION that she can
create, sometimes without even speaking, are
the MOST POWERFUL.

Now, I was only able to give a few simple tips
and insights on how to better connect with a man
in a way that will lead you both closer together
and help him not only talk, but FEEL committed.

To learn exactly how to make a man FEEL,
through experience, that he's BETTER OFF being
with you than being single, you need to get a
trial copy of my "From Casual To Committed" CD/DVD
program.

Like all my programs, you can try it out for
30 days before you have to pay a penny, to make
sure it's absolutely right for you and your
situation.

In my "From Casual to Committed" program I'll
help you discover how to help a man get in touch
with those hidden feelings inside him that will
have him BEGGING you for a commitment.

No drama, no tears, and no convincing that he
needs to "go there" with you.

P.S. As I mentioned in this newsletter, there is
a very powerful force that makes a man want to
commit to YOU and ONLY YOU, and that is the
natural and unmistakable force of lasting
ATTRACTION.

I'm definitely not just talking about the
"physical" kind of attraction, which is definitely
powerful in itself, but doesn't in itself
make a relationship LAST and THRIVE.

The kind of attraction I'm talking about is DEEPER
and EMOTIONAL. It's about the things you do,
the things you say, the way you carry yourself
that make a man go nuts with his desire to be
around you.

How To Re-Start Your Love Life In 3 Steps

2011-12-31T04:29:00.000-08:00

did you know that a lot of the
words and actions that you THINK will attract a
man and bring him closer actually REPEL him?

If a man who you once had "great chemistry" with
suddenly withdraws, this may be why.

Have you recently broken up with a man and you're
wondering how you're going to "get back out there"
and start dating again?

Are you feeling like you've got too much going on
to focus on dating and socializing right now?

Or maybe you have children and can't imagine
having the time and energy for a love life?

If you can relate to any of these, I have good
news.

In this e-mail I'm going to give you 3 quick tips
on how to meet lots of new and interesting men
WITHOUT taking a ton of time away from your busy
schedule, your work or your family.

I'm also going to tell you the BEST way to attract
the RIGHT man and find the love you want, without
wasting a lot of time on men who are
inappropriate, wrong or unavailable.

Because the LAST thing you need is to waste a lot
of time with a man who is just going to give you
the "runaround" or treat you badly.

So let's get started.

I get a lot of e-mails from readers who tell me
that for a lot of reasons, they're having trouble
figuring out how to get back in the dating scene.

They don't know where to meet single men.

They aren't sure if they can find a man close
to their age who will be interested in them.

They worry about dating because they have kids.

You may be wondering some of the same things
yourself.

You feel like you don't have "time" to date.

Or you lack the motivation and energy after going
through a long or painful breakup.

Or maybe you have kids, and aren't even sure how
you're supposed to handle "dating" and being a
good parent at the same time.

I'm sure you've gotten a lot of advice on what to
do from family or friends.

But you still don't see how things are going to
change for you anytime soon, in order for you to
find the "mental space" to start dating.

I have to tell you, though. the only thing
standing in your way is. well, is YOU.

I personally know TONS of women in your exact
situation who have just made a small shift in
their thinking and have changed their love lives
forever.

These are the steps they took, and the steps I
think you need to take in order to get your love
life back on track today:

>>RESTARTING YOUR LOVE LIFE STEP #1:

Go Where the MOST Single Men Are - ONLINE

Online dating is the quickest and BEST way to meet
as many single, attractive men who SHARE YOUR
INTERESTS and with whom you otherwise would never
cross paths.

There may be at least a dozen great single guys
within a mile of where you live, and you would
never know it - but that's the beauty of online
dating. If they're out there, chances are, they're
online looking for a great woman like YOU, too.

Whether you've never tried it, or have tried it
and you weren't successful at it before, you
really owe it to yourself to try online dating
AGAIN.

I know so many women who swore up and down that
online dating just wasn't for them, but once they
finally tried it the first time - or actually
buckled down and tried it AGAIN - were so glad
they did.

Especially after they learned the most effective
attraction tips and how-to's SPECIFICALLY for
online dating, in my "Finding Love Online"
program.

To learn the secrets of how to set yourself up
for success online from DAY ONE - from easily
writing a profile that stands out above all others
to how to screen for the "right" man and
gracefully reject the inappropriate ones...

So, once you set yourself up online, then it's
on to step #2:

>>RESTARTING YOUR LOVE LIFE STEP #2:

Make Yourself Available.

You may think that you have ZERO time to go out
and meet men. You work hard, and when you come
home you're too tired to even THINK about being
"social" or trying to get ready to go out.

I get it.

I can also imagine how hard it can be when you
have kids and you want to give them all your
love and attention when you're together.

The thing is, your kids are going to be much
happier if YOU are happy - and if you feel that
you really want a partner in your life now, or in
the future, then postponing dating isn't going to
make you a happier person.

You don't have to sacrifice your own happiness
in order to make others happy - and you shouldn't.

Look, you don't need to have tons of free time
to date. All you need is to DECIDE that you want
to make yourself available, and then you want to
go for it.

You'll be surprised at how much MORE energy and
time you'll find for love when it finally comes
your way.

Have you ever had a friend claim they had "no
time" for a love life, and you knew they were
lonely deep-down and really needed to MAKE TIME.

Then a weird thing happened. out of the blue they
met someone, fell in love, and all of a sudden,
"time" was no longer an issue?

It's like they were able to easily shift their
schedule and priorities and became more fulfilled,
happier people because of it?

Yeah, I have, too.

So, here's what you do.

Think about times in your day when you might be
able to set aside 30-60 minutes to have a quick
meal or a cup of coffee with a man. Maybe it's
on your lunch hour. Maybe it's meeting over
coffee and a bagel in the morning for 20
minutes.

Maybe it's for a short walk in a park where you
can get some exercise AND have a great
conversation with a man. (That's the GOOD kind
of multi-tasking!)

Take out a calendar and actually jot down the days
and times you could spare an hour or less for a
casual meet-up.

The point is, you don't need to set aside entire
evenings or weekends to date. The goal here is to
set aside small amounts of time to meet the men
you've screened online to see if there is
chemistry with any of them, if you have things in
common, if you feel comfortable and relaxed around
them.

This way, you're meeting a lot of available,
single guys and you're increasing the chances that
you'll find someone you'll ultimately click with.

>>RESTARTING YOUR LOVE LIFE STEP #3:

Increase Your Chances of Success

By setting aside small chunks of time in your week
to meet and qualify men you've found online, you
can literally be meeting as many as 5 or more
single men each week.

Here's the beauty of taking this "all at once"
blanket approach to dating.

First of all, you're increasing your chances of
success to find THE right guy who shares your
values, interests and for whom you have a mutual
attraction.

You're also not getting "too heavy" with any ONE
guy too quickly...which, by the way, can become a
TURN-OFF if the guy isn't "feeling it" for you
yet.

For example, if you were to go out on 3
consecutive dates with just one man, and found out
later that he was still actively online meeting
other women - and you HADN'T discussed exclusivity
or whether or not you were even in a real
"relationship" yet.

You'll probably give him a weird "vibe" when you
talk to him next.

You might even confront him and ask why he's still
online meeting other women.

But in HIS mind, he's still "getting to know
you."

And he'll see your "vibe" or your confrontation as
a bit "over the top" and dramatic. He just isn't
going to GET IT.

Until you get to know a man, and until there is an
actual DISCUSSION about exclusivity or the fact
that you're now in a committed relationship, you
should just assume that you can still get to know
other men, and he can still get to know other
women.

You should never assume there is more to a
relationship than has been discussed or agreed to.
This is one of the most common complaints I hear
from women - that they "assumed" things were
exclusive, when in fact, they weren't (in the
guy's mind).

Going on short, casual dates with a few at the
same time allows you to take your time figuring
out what you want, and it has the added benefit
of creating ATTRACTION because the man realizes
you're a woman with a full and great life and you
are willing to TAKE THE TIME to get to know a man
before you'll let him fully into your life.

And, by taking your time and meeting many men, you
increase your chances of finding the RIGHT man,
instead of quickly "settling" for the WRONG man
just because you feel intense chemistry with him.

Quickly jumping into a relationship because you
feel chemistry is what I call the "Danger of a
Connection" in my eBook and it's the source of a
LOT of problems and heartbreak in relationships.

You can also HUGELY increase the chances of
meeting and attracting a good guy, and
triggering his attraction for you by following
a few simple tips and techniques.

These are tips on what to do and say not just
ONLINE, but on a FIRST DATE.

I recently sat down to interview a woman who has
a very compelling personal story.

She got divorced when she was in her mid-30s. She
knew she wanted to eventually re-marry someday and
have another child, but her friends told her it
would probably take her up to 8 years to find a
man and settle down.

Emily didn't want to believe that it took so long.

As a matter of fact, she vowed that she would do
whatever it took to get out there and find her new
Mr. Right, and it sure as heck wasn't going to
take her 8 years.

It took her 22 days, as a matter of fact.

And now she's married and has a beautiful family
with her new husband.

How did she do it? She started with the exact same
steps I just listed. She told me that all it took
was a little "planning and effort" and a
willingness to take a risk.

But she had some other advantages.

She knew what to put in her profile to attract
men who were decent "good" guys and to discourage
the ones who were just looking for a "hookup" or
a sexual relationship.

She knew a special technique for taking her
profile photo that made men stop DEAD in their
tracks when they saw it.

She knew what to say on a first date to keep a man
intrigued, and what to ask in order to know if a
man was looking for the same kind of committed,
serious relationship.

Most of all, Emily KNEW what she wanted, and how
to go about getting it.

And now Emily shares her success with her clients
with her coaching programs, and has helped many
single women find the man of their dreams a LOT
sooner than they would have without her help.

This is why I was excited to be able to talk to
Emily myself and get the scoop on all her secrets
and record them on tape.

During our interview, Emily also revealed these
tips on "getting back out there" and increasing
your chances for meeting The One:

>> How to invite better quality men to respond to
your online personal ad, by changing this ONE
THING.

>> The #1 red flag you can learn almost
immediately about a man that tells you he's
immature or unable to handle real responsibility
(wait until you hear this one, and you'll be
shocked how many women go for men like this even
after they find this out!)

>> The easiest way to be irresistible to a man out
in public - if you do this, you'll glow, if you
don't, you'll seem dowdy and unattractive, no
matter how much time you've spent on your clothes
and makeup.

>> Whether or not you should go out with a man
who's cheated on his ex, and if you do, whether
it means he'll cheat on YOU, too.

>> A tactful, classy way of finding out on the
FIRST DATE whether a man is interested in a real
relationship that could lead to marriage and
kids - that won't freak him out or feel awkward
to bring up.

>> 1 "silly" but fun question to ask a man that
will reveal a lot of hidden aspects about him...
like whether or not he's capable of relaxing or if
he's creative (plus this has the added benefit of
"breaking the ice" on a date).

>> What makes you MUCH MORE likely to keep
attracting men who are just after "one thing" and
then dump you...and how to stop this ugly little
cycle.

>> How to easily and effortlessly change your
energy and demeanor on a date. If you find
yourself feeling irritable and stressed and have
difficulty "de-compressing" when you go out, then
you MUST hear these tips

And tons more, including actual DIALOGUE on what
to say to a man when you're ready to be exclusive
and don't want him to date or sleep with anyone
else.

If you're tired of being single and you feel like
NOW IS THE TIME to get yourself "back out there"
and finally meet a good man who is going to be a
great partner, then you NEED to listen to this
interview I recorded with Emily.

If you'd like to get your hands on this interview
on a CD, completely free for you to listen to and
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Simply go to the link below and sign up for your
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So, regardless of what you decide about continuing
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On a related note... if you have already tried,
or thought about trying ONLINE DATING, let me
ask you:

Have you put a ton of effort and time into
putting together a great online profile only to
have zero quality responses, or worse, emails that
seem promising but are ultimately "dead ends"?

There are so many attractive, quality men
online... but the problem is you're either:

1) not getting any attention at all, or the WRONG
KIND of attention from men who totally repel you

2) a great guy writes you once or twice and then
stops writing altogether - for no apparent reason

3) the guy seems disinterested, even though you've
read his profile and you know you'd be a great
match

So what's the story here?

Is there some secret to online dating that
you're not "getting" or are all the men online
just a bunch of flakes?

Or are YOU doing something wrong?

Finding and meeting the perfect man online
isn't impossible. As a matter of fact it's easier
than ever IF you know the special attraction
"language" to use.

It's as easy as knowing the right WORDS and
PHRASES to use and avoid... so you don't miss
connecting with the right man for you.

This is why my latest interview with Emily is
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-identify the right kind of guy online from all
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-write a profile that a man CAN'T RESIST
responding to

-ask the right questions to see if a man is WORTH
meeting in person

-take it from cyberspace to the real world SAFELY
AND QUICKLY and get his interest so he'll ask you
out again and again

In my "Finding Love Online" program I show you
all the ways to STAND OUT and be noticed... as
well as the 5 things to avoid writing in any
profile or email so a quality man doesn't CRINGE
when he reads it (or quickly make him MOVE
ON to the next profile and skip yours
altogether).

Now, here's something you might want to take
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Plus, I'll ship all of this to you at my
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I'll only ask that you do one thing...

You have to let me know before Midnight on
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Not Your Boyfriend But Sleeping With Him?

2011-12-31T04:28:00.000-08:00

a man can feel a certain level of
attraction for you that will have him act loving,
but is only as deep as him knowing that he wants
to get physical with you.

It's another kind of attraction altogether for a
man to want a long-term relationship with you.

Do you know what it is a woman can do that
makes the difference?

Do you know how to trigger the kind of attraction
that gets a man to naturally open up, share
himself and think about the future with you?

I'm not talking about purely physical attraction,
or the kind that makes a man want to BE physical
with you.

You know, like the kind of "attraction" that makes
a man want just a casual fling... or a Friends With
Benefits situation only.

No, I'm talking about the kind of Intellectual and
Emotional Attraction that makes a man want to be
around you... and want to have you in his life for
the long-term.

I'm talking about the kind of attraction that
makes him think about you all the time. The kind
that makes his heart leap whenever he remembers
the times he spent with you.

Here's a secret about creating that kind of
feeling inside a man:

It's completely possible to do or say certain
things that will turn on that magic switch inside
a man's mind that will make him sit up and take
notice... that will make him emotionally attracted
to you.

At the same time, there are ways to KILL any
chance of that kind of attraction...and these are
common mistakes that many women carelessly make
(especially when they are really INTO a guy).

Today I'm answering a question I received via
email that I know you'll be interested in, because
it points out the one biggest mistake that so many
women make when it comes to getting "physical"
with a man.

Read on...

>>>Question From A Reader:

I purchased your e-book last night and have been
reading it. Wow! But I admit I skipped to some
parts to get to others that I thought I needed to
read first... and now I'm going back to read the
entire thing. I wanted to share something with you
first that struck me.

I have made the mistake of admitting to a friend
that I have feelings for him - more than a
friendship. We have been intimate with each other
about 3 times. Everything was fine until I
mentioned my feelings to him. I wasn't asking him
for a relationship...but he took it that way. I
have since then been pouring my heart out to him
and pretty much looking insane.

Is there any way to save it? I know he has
feelings for me.

Please help...and tell me how to reverse the
damage I have done.

Thanks so much

T.

>>>My Thoughts:

WAKE UP GIRL!

I've got to knock some sense into you for your
own good.

Since you have my eBook, go back to Chapter 6
and read it again.

Your fears are taking over your emotions...
which in turn is driving the behavior that your
guy is responding negatively to.

You've stopped steering your life emotionally
and you've let go of the wheel.

In Chapter 6, read about the "Emotional Gap,"
and about "Setting Yourself Apart From Other
Women," starting on page 159.

And I've got some new ideas for you too...

There's an important scientific word I want you
to learn and remember. You ready?

Here it is:

"Duh."

You OBVIOUSLY have real feelings for him -
you're sleeping with him!

And I'm willing to bet you had these feelings
all along, but you just weren't completely up
front about them.

Your situation is possibly the WORST kind of
uphill battle a woman can have with a man early
on.

It's a BIG NO-NO.

Actually, it's "THE" big NO-NO in the early
dating stage...Using purely "physical attraction"
to start a potential relationship.

For most men, it's easy to go from a meaningful
and committed relationship to one that's casual
and purely physical.

But, it is almost impossible to go from the
"friends-with-benefits" situation to a deep,
fulfilling, intimate and lasting situation.

I know this firsthand, both from my own love
life and from talking to lots of men and women
I've known in my life.

So... rarely do I give rules, but here's an
absolute RULE when it comes to men:

DON'T EVER try and start things with a man at
a casual and purely physical level if you EVER
want the option for something more meaningful or
long-term.

Men don't work this way, like it or not.

And don't try to get a man BACK with physical
attraction and sex either.

It's a dead-end street.

OK... now that I've got that off my chest,
here's the first thing you need to do. Go read
my book again. (Just buying it won't help you.)

I write about Sex and Commitment in Chapter 8,
on page 241. I reveal exactly what men think about
the whole "friends with benefits" situation and how
to time sex with dating so you're not left feeling
"insane" when a man just doesn't want anything
more than a purely physical relationship.

(And if you're reading this now and want to get
your own copy of my eBook, "Catch Him & Keep Him"
and be reading it in minutes, click on the link
below.

Here's the worst part of this whole situation.
You're smart and you know better. I can tell. It
doesn't surprise me that you couldn't see this
coming. Somehow, when you're in the thick of it,
attraction and "love" can blind you.

So I'm going to give you a refresher course
in what to do and in order to have the happiness
and love you need...and deserve. I'm going to give
you 4 simple rules to follow that will guarantee
you won't be "stuck" with a Friends With Benefits
situation ever again.

Ready? Ok, here we go...

1. KNOW YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU'RE AFTER

You said, "I have made the mistake of admitting
to a friend that I have feelings for him."

It's NOT a mistake to share your feelings with
a man.

It IS a mistake to share your feelings with a
man 1) too early and 2) in a negative context.

You set yourself up for failure by choosing and
"tolerating" a situation that just doesn't work
for you. That situation is being "ok" with a
purely physical situation when in fact you
need - and want - more.

When you're OK with the way things are one
minute, but then are looking and asking for
something more and saying you're not happy with
the way things are NOW, you've INSTANTLY become
the kill-joy and antagonist in the relationship.

One minute you're blissfully happy in his
embrace and then a day or two later you're sulking
and awkward because you just blurted out what you
feel or what you want, and you've taken him by
surprise.

All because of a "talk" you wanted to have
with him.

Yeah, I'm being a bit harsh here, but it's
for your own good.

Instead of being open with yourself about what
YOU are truly after, you pursued this "friends
with benefits" strategy to get things moving.

That's why you're freaking out.

You thought you could handle it.

You thought you'd get something out of it.

And for a minute, it was fun.

But then your feelings snuck up on you.

Eventually you were reminded of what you're
really after with a man and what you value.

Right now you have two pictures in your mind:
One picture is of this "casual" thing going on.
And the other one is what you actually want.

The two pictures are so radically different
and far apart from each other, that it's no
wonder you're acting "insane."

Your expectations are COMPLETELY out of line
for what you're ACTUALLY doing with this guy.

It's time to stop creating situations in your
life that you KNOW won't make you happy or
comfortable in the long run - even if they feel
good in the moment.

2. FIND YOUR PERSONAL STANDARDS & REQUIREMENTS...
AND THEN STICK TO THEM

Starting things with a man in this "casual sex"
way, is a SUREFIRE way to ruin your odds of
creating something more meaningful in the future.

I'm a guy.

I know.

But, more importantly, getting into a "casual"
situation with a man you might want to date more
seriously and exclusively, has a VERY HIGH
potential to make you FEEL AWFUL.

So...

Unless you're one out of a hundred thousand
women who gets "swept off her feet" by an open,
caring, great communicator, who makes moving
into a committed relationship effortless... then
you're going to have to start asking yourself
some real questions about what you really want
from your love life.

And once you have the answers, actually be
honest about them from the start.

Here's an important question to ask yourself:

"WHAT ARE MY NEEDS?"

And I do mean YOUR needs. Not his. Not what
you're accepting or tolerating or hoping to get
from a man just because there's nothing better
around right now.

Be clear here and think it through.

I'll give you a minute...

Most of the women I know who are dating have a
set of subconscious requirements from the men
they're seeing. That those men are honest. That
they are exclusive. That it's going somewhere, and
it's not just going to be casual dating forever.

But these aren't things they are willing or
able to communicate directly with the man
they're seeing.

So, they end up in a situation that is anything
but what they were looking for.

They say, "This is fine for now. I'm just
enjoying myself."

They are not being honest with themselves about
their bottom-line "must-haves" and therefore can't
express these things to the man, either.

From my experience, here are a few of these
"must-haves" that women often aren't honest about
at the start:

- That any man they're involved with, in any way,
isn't dating or still involved with another woman

- That he's open and ready to explore a serious
relationship once they get to know each other

- That they share the same values and
priorities (or he can at least appreciate and
support her values)

So, how in touch are you with your REQUIREMENTS
for feeling good when it comes to men and dating?
And how do you communicate these to a man?

Do you do it indirectly by acting frustrated
and angry when your needs aren't being met, after
you've already become intimate and emotionally
invested in the relationship?

Or do you do it directly and in a positive
context as things are GETTING STARTED, so you're
in sync from the get-go?

Remember, 99% of the time, a man is NOT going
to make the right decisions for you, or magically
and telepathically recognize and meet all your
needs.

Sticking to a set of minimum standards and
then communicating those helps show a man what
it's going to take to make you happy.

3. RADICALLY REJECT BEHAVIOR THAT DOESN'T MEET
YOUR STANDARDS

I observed something FASCINATING about people
and relationships a few years back.

When were in a situation that causes bad
feelings and friction of some kind, there is
always some kind of "payoff" for one or the other
person...and that's why they persist in sticking
with the bad situation.

Here's what you're getting out of the "casual"
thing...

You get a safe and risk-free path to get close
to this guy. Even though technically you're not
"close" at all.

I call this "working it from the 'friend
zone'."

After all, how vulnerable would you be if you
shared what you REALLY were looking for upfront,
BEFORE you slept with him?

You might be disappointed or rejected, or you
would be unable to continue the "friendship"
that you have right now.

And maybe having to start over alone might
actually be worse in your mind than having
something crappy and low-quality that you're
"tolerating" now.

But if you look deeper, you'll probably see
that your desire for something more was there all
along underneath the surface. Therefore, I doubt
that you could have been "just friends" with him
anyway, even if you never slept together, without
you feeling short-changed in some way.

That's why you have to show a man that you're
strong and you know what you want, and you won't
settle for scraps or second-best or "good enough
for now."

My favorite way of thinking about how to do
this, is to be like a "velvet hammer."

Be strong and assertive, but warm and gentle
at the same time.

Say, "I really like you. Probably too much to
be JUST friends. This is why I'm not sure we
should continue this situation unless you feel the
same way."

If you can say this in a way that doesn't
include BLAME or guilt or pressure from you,
the response a man will give will be MAGICAL.

He'll open up and meet you at the level of
honesty and respect you're coming at him with.

And as tough or self-centered doing this might
sound right now, this is exactly what you need to
say to a man if you really want something more
with him.

And doing this, and only this, can get you out
of your "friends with benefits" situation and into
a great relationship.

Trying anything else is almost sure to end up
in a series of misunderstandings and hurt
feelings.

But you might be thinking- WHY does this kind
of language work with a man?

Because it sends a strong SUBCONSCIOUS signal
to a man that the woman is in CONTROL of her life
and her world.

There's nothing that triggers more intense
"long-term" attraction in a healthy and mature
man, than a woman who he CAN'T control and who
doesn't get thrown off-balance when her needs
aren't met.

Using the "velvet hammer" also has another
AMAZING benefit that women don't often
recognize... or they don't even see as a benefit
at first.

It WEEDS OUT the guys who DO need to go away
because they're never going to (or just don't want
to) get their act together in the first place.

You don't want to be stuck in a dead-end
situation that's just going to make you feel WORSE
than you felt before you met him, do you?
Of course not.

And sure, sometimes a guy will hear that and
disappear for a while. But the best part is, if
he's one of the "good guys" you want to be with
for the long-term, he'll come back around.

And when he does, he'll have done all the leg
work to be a better, more conscientious partner.
The kind of partner you could have never molded
through any amount of fixing or convincing.

4. DISCOVER AND USE WHAT CREATES DEEPER ATTRACTION
AND CONNECTION WITH MEN

Ever hear of "approval-seeking" behavior?

It's when we try to do and say things simply to
get a positive reaction or judgment about
ourselves from someone else.

Well, it's a HUGE MISTAKE to make with a man
early on.

Your need for your guy's APPROVAL is your worst
enemy right now.

To him, what you're doing is actually the
complete OPPOSITE OF ATTRACTIVE.

I'll give you an example...

Have you ever seen what it looks like when a
man is shamelessly seeking the approval of a
woman?

As he's just getting to know her and he sees
that she hasn't completely made up her mind to
want to be with him, what does he do?

He buys her gifts.

He calls her all the time.

He offers to do favors and errands for her.

All these are attempts to prove to her that
he's good enough to be with her or to get her
attention. This is also known as the "really nice
guy" approach.

Women just never seem to quite "feel it" for
the super-nice guy. Not because of the gifts and
flowers and favors, anyway.

A guy can already be attractive AND do nice
things... agreed? But doing nice things doesn't
MAKE a man more attractive.

Instead of feeling attracted to a guy you
weren't too "into" at first, you start losing
respect for him when he goes overboard and tries
too hard with the calls, favors and gifts.

You lose respect because you know you can
CONTROL him.

This isn't conscious, either. It's just how you
feel, and feelings are pretty powerful forces.

Ever stop to think that the same thing might
work in reverse between a woman's behavior and a
man's? That a man may feel like he can "control"
you if you're running around trying to please him
or do favors for him or be "nice" to him in order
to get him to want you?

Interesting...

For men, approval-seeking behavior KILLS the
spark that comes from a man's uncertainty of not
knowing exactly how the woman he's with is going
to think and act.

If he can predict what you're going to do and
feels like he has you "in the palm of his hand",
what is he going to wonder about when it comes
to you?

And what if you start acting predictably
NEGATIVE?

Think about it...

It's a "natural tension" and challenge of
not having CONTROL and uncertainty that creates
strong ATTRACTION in men.

HERE'S WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

What most women ask in situations when a man
isn't responding the way they want him to is...

"WHY is he acting this way and how do I make
sense of it and "fix" it?"

Well, you can't "fix" a man. And I really
feel for you if you're one of those women who
are trying.

But, you CAN change a situation and the
FEELINGS that a man is having for you.
You can change how he experiences you.

The toughest and most important thing to
understand is that men's behavior and thinking
in these situations isn't at all LOGICAL.

In other words, how a man reacts doesn't
make ANY "sense" and doesn't follow any rhyme
or reason.

So, of course, it baffles and frustrates women
when they run it through their own "sense-making
filters."

Let me ask you a question...

If you were an attractive man, would you want
to find a woman who you had to TEACH how to make
you attracted and feel good... or would you want
a woman who just "got it" on her own naturally...
and everything flowed?

Duh. (There's that scientific word again.)

You'd want the woman who already "got it."

So, more likely than a conspiracy against
women, men just naturally respond to women who
GET IT, and DON'T respond to women who DON'T.

OK, let's talk about these concepts a little
bit more.

Attraction, and wanting to be with a woman, is
about a man perceiving that he and a woman are
"naturally compatible" because his emotional
and physical sparks fly when he's around her.

NOTE: I did NOT use the word "logical" here.

Attraction and wanting to be with a woman
long-term is NOT the result of a man meeting a
woman and then thinking to himself:

"Let's see...she's got a good job, works hard,
is pretty cute, and is a really good person...
Hmmm, I think that we have some natural attraction
going on here."

WRONG.

For a man, attraction and the desire to be with
a woman (and stay with her) is either THERE or it
ISN'T.

There are no two ways about it.

Fortunately for you I've put together an entire
program just about attraction: how it works for a
man, how to trigger it, what to avoid doing so you
don't accidentally "kill" it.

Exactly what does it take for a man to feel a
longing for you, to feel connected and devoted to
your happiness?

I hope you read it and start learning what
works and what doesn't when it comes to creating
powerful attraction in a man.

I also hope you follow the 4 rules I just
mentioned to make sure you have the BEST chance
to get what you're truly after in life and love.

Thanks for reading and I'll talk to you again
soon,

3 Ways Women Accidentally Push Men Away

2011-12-31T04:27:00.000-08:00

Have you ever had a man break up with you or
pull away all of a sudden?

And you had no clue as to what caused it to
happen?

Because as far as you could tell, everything
was going great.

You were spending tons of time together. You
had an amazing "connection". And you KNEW that his
feelings for you were real.

He might have even said the "L" word to you
more than a few times.

LOVE.

But for some reason, he just pulled away one
day. And it left you breathless and wondering
what had just happened.

As the smoke cleared... and you started
thinking back on it, you remembered that his
behavior HAD changed awhile back.

And when it first did, it worried you.
Actually, it worried you a lot. But you tried to
ignore it.

And when you did say something to him about it,
after it had been "eating at you" for a while, it
only seemed to make things between you worse.

And he certainly didn't agree with or
understand where you were coming from or what you
were upset about or afraid of.

So you tried to put it out of your mind and
forget about it and hoped that it would just "go
away" on its own.

But the more you did this, the more upset and
frustrated you got, because you STILL felt like
something wasn't quite right underneath the
surface.

Something was going on inside him.
Something was making him withdraw from you
physically and emotionally.

Something had happened... and he was feeling
and acting differently with you as a result.

Something was wrong and you just couldn't put
your finger on what it was.

And THAT is when things started to go from bad
to worse, and you started to feel and act OUT OF
CONTROL.

The thoughts and feelings you were having
overwhelmed you with FEAR.

FEAR that he might not find you as attractive
as he used to.

FEAR that maybe there was someone else he was
interested in.

And ultimately, the FEAR that he was getting
ready to leave you... and you would lose him...
forever.

So, to try and combat this fear, you started to
act in ways that you NEVER would have acted
otherwise. Ways that even YOU didn't like about
yourself, and are probably even a little bit
ashamed to admit to now.

You started to see that even though it was
something you saw going on with HIM that was at
the root of the problem... YOU were the one who
was reacting in ways that were tearing your
relationship apart.

YOU couldn't let go of the fear that was
filling up inside you.

And as a result, you shut yourself off from him
and from the pain to try and protect yourself.

But he wasn't able to pull you up from this
place of anxiety and frustration by reassuring you
and giving you more love and understanding. And
things eventually got even worse as he pulled
further away.

In a way, your feelings and actions actually
caused the final breakup that you had feared to
begin with.

Does this situation sound familiar to you?

Have you ever felt so out of control or
overwhelmed with a man that you ended up actually
helping along the very situation you feared most?

Such as him LEAVING.

When a man you're with starts to act
"differently" - maybe he seems less interested in
you, or doesn't want to talk as much, or starts
hanging out with his friends more - it can be very
scary.

Immediately you think to yourself "What did I
do to make him upset or angry?" or "How can I 'get
him back' close to me again?"

That's only natural and understandable.

However, acting out in a negative,
emotionally-charged way only sets off a severe
reaction where you might begin to act or think
in destructive ways.

Some women even try and "pre-empt" the pain or
fear that they feel by pulling away or getting
distant FIRST.

Here are 3 of the most common ways women let
fear get the better of them and end up making men
want to pull away:

1. Becoming intensely negative, and accusing a
man of abandoning them or wanting to leave when he
acts "distant". This could be statements like,

"You don't love me anymore, do you?"
"I know you're thinking of breaking up with me."
"I can't stand how you're acting lately."

2. Finding ways to hurt or reject the man they're
with inside the relationship before he can hurt
THEM (this might include belittling, name-calling,
"nagging")

3. Acting out in ways that are sure to destroy
the relationship... such as cheating.

If you've seen other women go through this, or
you've done these yourself, then you already KNOW
that these ways of dealing with problems, fear, or
insecurity only get you farther away from what you
want - love and a more secure relationship.

And sure, there's almost nothing more
frustrating than being dedicated and committed to
a relationship, and then seeing that the other
person isn't as committed as you are. You might
find yourself SO hurt or afraid because of this,
that YOU become the one whose emotions and
behavior push you even farther apart.

It's enough to make you feel hopeless
sometimes.

Like you'll NEVER have a real and loving
relationship.

Well, the reality is there's something you CAN
do that's CERTAIN to get rid of the fears and
insecurities that drive you and a man apart during
the most critical of times.

There's a way to get rid of that hopeless,
frustrated, fearful, and reactive place inside you
that keeps you further away from experiencing true
love and a lasting relationship with a man.

And there's a proven way to make a man feel so
AMAZING when he's with you that a man will KNOW
once and for all that you are THE ONE WOMAN FOR
HIM.

Inside this program, you'll learn how to bring
out the natural and "magical" qualities you
ALREADY HAVE inside yourself that a man will be
"magnetically" drawn to when he sees them in you
(such as confidence, high self-esteem, humor,
emotional "fitness")...

These are the kinds of things that BUILD
attraction and connection in a relationship.

I also show you exactly how to move past the
fear, insecurity, and the "emptiness" you might be
feeling that you think comes from not having the
right relationship you want in your life right
now.

The truth is, you can't rely on a man to fill
ALL your needs for love and happiness. No one but
you can start yourself down that path.

And he certainly isn't going to figure out how
a relationship SHOULD work, and the best way to
make love last... and guide you through it.

I think you know that this is VERY UNLIKELY.

A man doesn't have all the power to give you
love, or to take it away from you.

He only has the power to SHARE LOVE with you.
But you have to know YOUR PART in love BEFORE love
can last.

YOU have the power to create this for yourself,
and guide yourself to the love life you've always
wanted.

It starts with you.

Don't let what a man doesn't know, what he
doesn't get, or your own fears stand in your way
of experiencing true and lasting love.

It's time you start seeing past all the things
that are happening on the surface in your love
life... and get to what's going on on a DEEPER
LEVEL.

In my "Ready For Love" program I take you
through exactly what you need to know and what
this "deeper level" is. You'll learn to take
control of your feelings and regain the inner
strength that you may be missing right now.

You know that you can't "solve" your
relationship problems simply by telling a man how
he makes you feel - and then hoping he figures out
the rest of it.

It never works... and you KNOW it.

And if you're getting in your OWN way and
CAUSING the man in your life to pull away from
you, then just trying to change the things you're
saying on the surface isn't going to make things
that much better, either.

You've tried all this, and it hasn't worked.

It's time to get your own personal and
emotional FOUNDATION together, so that when the
right man is next to you, you'll not only
"naturally" do and say things right, but you'll
FEEL confident and make great things happen as a
result.

When you don't have this foundation together
for yourself, it doesn't matter WHAT you try and
say or do to a man... it doesn't come across the
right way. No matter how much you want things to
work he'll still be able to "see through you" and
see the insecurity, anxiety, or lack of
confidence.

And he'll walk the other way.

I'm sure you've heard only 10% of our
communication is direct and verbal.

That's why, when you DO have your own
foundation in order, and you're in touch with your
own powerful and attractive "essence"... then
without having to talk or convince him to stay
with you, a man will FEEL this way and know that
he wants this for himself.

And as with all my programs, if you go to the
link below now, I'll ship you a free copy of this
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Inner changes - and important changes - take
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down a path in your life that will lead to a much
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If you get the results you want from it, go
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If you don't, just send it back to me and
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Make the decision to move past your fears,
"hang-ups", and insecurities today... and build
your own foundation for true and lasting love by
becoming the woman a man can't help but love and
care for.

Five Reasons Men Leave Women They Love

2011-12-31T04:20:00.000-08:00

if you'd like to find out why
a man will tell you he loves you but still go
and cheat on you with another woman...

Now let's talk about the reasons why men often
leave relationships...

***COMMENT***

Christian,

I have been seeing my boyfriend for a year and a
half and we have a great relationship on all
levels (intellectually, physically, etc). However
unfortunately we have been 'head-bashing' over a
certain problem that keeps resurfacing in our
relationship and now it has literally come to a
point where he wants "time out". I have a problem
trusting him and want to always control
situations. I have constantly been giving him
nonsense when he socialises with his female
friends, and have an insecurity that he will leave
me. It has been very strenuous on him and he
actually told me this morning that he wants to be
with me but he no longer knows what to do and
wants time out of this relationship...

I finally did something right this morning when
speaking to him (after reading your last email on
control), I just listened and said that I
understood. He said we will discuss it further
this evening. I am SO LOST! I don't know what to
do to fix this now, and am not sure if this is
'fixable'. I REALLY LOVE him and he loves me, but
it has been carrying on for so long he doesn't
want to hear excuses anymore.

PLEASE HELP me. What can I do to make this work?

I will be forever grateful for your response!

L.J.

>>>My Response

Ok, I'm going to have to pull out the hammer
here because you're doing the worst of all things:

Using your fear and neediness to justify
hurting yourself and pushing your guy away.

Here's what I want you to do...

Please go to the nearest mirror, look yourself
dead in the eyes, and then slap yourself hard
across the cheek.

Oh, and make sure your boyfriend is watching
too, so you can then turn to him, freak out and
cry, and then blame him for "making you do it."

And when he responds by saying, "But you just
slapped yourself"...

I want you to freak out even more until he
starts to think that something is going really and
truly wrong with you in the head.

AND THEN... I want you to get even more upset
because now he thinks you're crazy... and act even
more crazy and emotional as you wonder, "What did
I ever do to make him not want to be around me and
doubt our future together?"

Once you do all this, then you should be able
to recognize that this has roughly the same effect
with your boyfriend as your current thinking and
behavior.

Follow me here?

Good. Now let's get down to it.

I want you to understand that your fear and
jealousy is NOT going to go away, EVER, until you
decide to get this part of your life handled.

The reality right now is that no matter how
good your relationship with a man might be, or how
much reassurance you scream and cry to try and get
him to give you... it will NEVER be enough for you
because your mind will find a way to freak you out
and ruin things for you.

These same insecure, needy, negative feelings
that drive men away are going to keep coming up
over and over in place after place until you are
ALONE again.

Here are a few important questions you need to
consider right now:

How do you think all your negative emotional
fears and frustrations are affecting the man in
your life?

And how do these make him think and feel about
you and your relationship?

And what would he tell you and ask you for if
he wasn't afraid of freaking you out, and was open
and honest?

*Hint- learning to listen and understand a
man's feelings is also a huge part of creating a
strong relationship that meets BOTH of your needs.

If you want to learn how to get a man to listen
to you better, understand what you're going
through without getting frustrated or angry, and
commit to working through it with you and opening
up, then I suggest you check out my "From Casual
To Committed" CD/DVD program.

It's packed with amazing tips, ideas,
exercises and strategies to help you move past
RESISTANCE to growth and understanding in
relationships and become closer than you ever
thought was possible.

If you haven't recognized it yet, men commonly
have a kind of RESISTANCE to working through
intense emotional situations in relationships.

And it's often these same few areas of
RESISTANCE that cause conflict in relationships
and lead to men to pulling away or leaving.

My "From Casual To Committed" program covers
the common points of male "resistance" that come
up in relationships and keep you from growing
closer and more committed on a physical and
emotional level.

Now back to it.

The good news is that your situation isn't
hopeless or "unfixable."

But first, I want you to realize a few
important truths about men and the common reasons
why they leave relationships with women they like
or love...

Reason #1: The "Pleasure Principle"

Men, and women, generally want to FEEL GOOD in
their lives.

And they want to have the people around them be
a source of pleasure and comfort and support.

Yourself included.

When you are constantly freaking out on a man
for what it is about him that freaks you out, you
quickly turn into one of the people who he just
DOESN'T FEEL GOOD around.

And this has a huge impact on whether or not he
wants to invest more time, effort, and energy in
you and your relationship -

Or if he will decide to give up on trying to
fix what's going on so you can both feel good
together.

Reason #2: Emotional Experience And The Future

For the man in a relationship, the way a woman
acts in the "little" situations become indicators
of how she's going to respond when things really
are tough in the future.

So if a woman is consistently negative and
emotional... and can't get herself together even
when a man tries to explain things and comfort
her... then a man isn't going to think that things
could be any better for them in the future.

Reason #3: Lost Feelings Of Attraction

Love can be important to a man.

But just like a woman, if he doesn't also keep
experiencing the exciting and addictive feelings
of CONNECTION and ATTRACTION with the woman he
loves... then eventually EVERYTHING ELSE stops
mattering.

When a man doesn't FEEL that deep level of
connection with a woman, at least every so often
to remind him of why he's with her, then he'll
forget why... and the relationship will become
just a whole bunch of "work" to him.

Whenever he thinks of his girlfriend, he'll
think of all the problems, frustrations, and
negative emotions and experiences... and he'll see
a future and a commitment as something that will
make him LESS SATISFIED in his life.

Often times when women are feeling distance or
trouble in a relationship, they'll try to "talk"
to a man and work on "the relationship."

Big mistake if you want to turn things around.

For a man, he wants to do things together (not
talk) to know his relationship is working.

Creating a deep level of connection and sharing
the attraction you have is one of the most
powerful and important keys to giving a man his
own reason for wanting to be with you, no matter
what.

If you want to learn the secrets to easily
creating or recapturing the intense attraction
that will have a man asking you for more
attention, then check out my "Natural & Lasting
Attraction" CD/DVD program.

It will show you exactly how to get back to
sharing intense Physical and Emotional Attraction,
and give you the 6 keys to the kind of deep,
lasting attraction that can keep a relationship
strong and moving forward.

Reason #4: The "Neediness" of Codependence

A man wants to be with a woman who brings
something better to his life, not takes away his
time, energy, and emotional "stability."

So when a woman doesn't have much going on for
herself in her own life a few things happen:

First, she focuses on her relationship too much
as her source of happiness or unhappiness.

You can tell when you've done this in your
relationships in the past when you've said things
like:

"I can't believe how I didn't hardly ever see
any of my friends while we were together."

...or

"I can't believe I let him control me that
way."

...or

"I feel so stupid for wasting so much of my
time on our relationship, when I could have been
doing things for me and my life."

The reality is that no man and no relationship
are capable of being everything to a woman.

And no relationship requires that you sacrifice
all your time, life, and energy for it... no
matter how much it seems that way.

But our relationships can "trick" us into
believing that they need all of our time and
attention just to survive.

Not true.

In fact, the way this works is completely
COUNTERINTUITIVE.

Often times a man will leave a woman because
he sees that she depends too much on him and has
lost her own sources of happiness... and this not
only looks and feels "needy" to a man, but it
keeps the woman from having much to bring into the
relationship and add to their lives together.

Reason #5: "She's Trying To Fix Me..."

Every few weeks or months I come across someone
who says or alludes to the idea that "people don't
change."

Wrong.

People often change their state of mind in an
instant.

Especially from happy to sad.

Of course, changing perspectives, opinions, or
beliefs can take a bit longer... but these change
quickly, too.

A man can and will "change" and compromise for
a woman.

It's a fact.

I see it all the time where men let go of their
"bachelor lifestyles" for one special woman, and
change a ton about their social lives.

But this only happens when a man has HIS OWN
REASONS to change.

It NEVER works, or lasts, if a man simply tries
to change for a woman, or for the sake of the
relationship.

There's a rule I like to use in my life when
ever I come to a situation where I'm trying to
align my own desires or goals with someone else's:

"All motivation is self-interest."

In other words, if you're trying to create a
great situation with a man, you're going to need
to understand what HIS REASONS are going to be for
doing the work on his end to make it happen.

But in many cases, a woman will try and get a
man to change by showing him how it affects HER,
not him.

This is the exact opposite of understanding
that people are motivated by the things THEY
WANT, and not what others feel and want.

It takes some maturity to accept that other
people (men) have their own unique way of seeing
things and wanting what they want (to stay and
work things out, or not).

But once you learn to accept these things and
start to work with them instead of against them,
life gets a whole lot easier.

And a whole lot more fun.

So those are 5 of the most common reasons
why men leave women and relationships.

One of the most important things underlying all
these 5 reasons is the EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE that
you create with a man.

I think of the emotional experience that you
share with a man in your relationship as the door
through which your relationship will either open
up and move forward...

Or on the other hand, as the barrier that
causes a relationship to stay shut and go nowhere.

And I look at COMMITMENT as a man and a woman
agreeing to open the door together and walk
through it.

But the truth is that men don't COMMIT for the
same reasons most women do.

They don't think about, talk about, or want to
walk through the door the same way most women do.

That's why the "process" by which most men
commit is different.

For most women, there's often a kind of tension
and resistance built into moving forward in a
relationship.

And I'm not just talking about the spoken words
of that make a commitment... but about the
"emotional commitment" a man has inside.

If a man is deeply committed to you and your
relationship on an emotional level, then any
"issues" you run into are just going to be "bumps
in the road" to him. And he'll be confident,
comfortable, open, and secure with you in working
them out.

But if a man ISN'T "emotionally committed" to
you, then each and every little problem is going
to cause him to get irritated, frustrated, and
have him wanting to blame you and withdraw.

Which is, in turn, going to make things much
less CERTAIN for you.

From Casual Dates To A Real "Connection"

2011-12-31T04:19:00.000-08:00

Did you know that a man will decide very quickly
whether you're a woman he wants to get to know
better and spend his time with - or not?

If you're frustrated that he stopped calling or
emailing after what felt like a great date or
dates (lots of laughter, connection, interesting
conversation), then you need to read this special
web page I put together about creating and
building a strong and natural ATTRACTION with a
man.

Bottom line - women who naturally know how to
create this kind of attraction rarely have to
worry about a man getting distant or pulling away.
That's because a man will feel literally COMPELLED
to keep seeing you and being around you when you
know how to trigger that "special" kind of deep
attraction.

I've got to be honest with you about
something here...

A while back I realized that even though a
woman may read my newsletters or eBook, and "get"
how men think, how attraction works, or what it
takes for great communication to happen...

Still... there are some women who "get" all
this but who are single, alone, and struggling
just to find a great man to share their life with.

I can understand how the process of "doing the
work" and still not being able to find the right
man, let alone get things started and working in a
relationship, can be incredibly frustrating.

I've thought about women in this situation a
lot -- women who are smart, attractive, great
people who just can't seem to make things work
with men and dating.

And after reading literally hundreds of emails
from women and taking a few years to observe
what's really going on... I've recognized a
specific set of "problems" that keep most women
from being lucky or successful when it comes to
men, dating... and getting a relationship started
that will LAST.

Here are just a few of these specific problems:

- Having no idea where to go to meet quality,
attractive single men (or it seems like all the
good men are already "taken")

- Going on "dates" (which they dread in the first
place) and having them either go NOWHERE... or
having things go great on the date, but the guy
never calls or asks you out again

- Seeing a man you're attracted to, and wishing
you knew EXACTLY what to do and say to get his
attention without sounding dumb, goofy, or
desperate

- Not knowing specific things to ASK a man to
figure out very early on whether or not he's
honest, mature, and "into" having a real
relationship... without sounding pushy,
manipulative or scaring him off

- Never knowing the reason WHY a man stops
calling or making plans after one or more dates,
when there seemed to be so much "chemistry" at
first (Just knowing WHY could save you from
feeling UNECESSARILY bad because you're wondering
about what you did or said wrong)

Any of these sound familiar?

If so, then your life just got a lot easier...
because I'm about to share the answers and
insights to these problems that women run into
while meeting men, "dating", and trying to build
a great relationship from scratch.

I had a big "Aha!" moment recently, and my
realization was this:

Most women would be MUCH more successful with
men and dating if they not only had their own "act
together" as women... but they knew the specifics
of exactly HOW, WHERE, WHY, and WHEN to do things
with a man.

Such as... how to get a man's attention, why he
responds the way he does, and when to take things
in the direction you want them to go in your
relationship.

In other words, sometimes it's just NOT ENOUGH
to be a great person. You need to know how to SHOW
him that you are.

Which means... if you don't know how to say or
do the right thing with a man to get him to
recognize what's really inside of you, and who you
are... then it's all for nothing.

Now, some women have written me over the years
and seemed to be looking for a "tool box" or a
cheat-sheet that they could refer to for CLEAR
answers to questions about real-life dating
situations... and how to handle them.

And not having those tools at their fingertips
was driving them CRAZY.

They were tired and frustrated with
consistently meeting men who accidentally turned
out to have all the WRONG qualities... and they
didn't know how to identify and attract only the
right men.

Of course, this isn't too uncommon.

Have you ever thought you were really clear on
what you wanted in a man and a relationship, and
you found what you thought was a great guy... only
to later discover that the man and the
relationship you had weren't anything like what
you thought they were?

This kind of experience can literally BLOW YOUR
MIND and leave you wondering if you're completely
blind. Why is it so hard for YOU... when so many
other couples have found each other and found
happiness so easily?

Here's the reality...

What you need isn't a whole bunch of new
life-lessons.

What you need are some real-world tips and
TECHNIQUES that are going to help you quickly
draw the right man to you, weed out the bad
apples early on, and keep things growing so
that the right foundation for a great relationship
comes together quickly and EASILY.

And guess what?

I've developed a program for this specific
purpose -- to give you all the real-world tips
and "How-To's" with men and dating that you really
need to make things come together and work.

My "Meeting The One" DVD/CD program contains
over 6 hours of expert insights, techniques and
exercises designed to help you EASILY navigate
through the process of finding and attracting a
quality man.

It's time you learned how to quickly go from
"Hello" to "I love you" with a man, and enjoy
the process and build the foundation for a LASTING
RELATIONSHIP at every turn.

And now you learn all this by simply watching
the DVDs of this incredible program in the comfort
of your living room, or listening to the audio in
your car on the way to work. In no time at all
you'll start learning how to OVERCOME the dating
frustrations that may be haunting you now.

With the tools in my "Meeting The One" program,
you'll see instant results in the way men respond
to you, and in your own ability to create
situations that quickly engage a man's interest,
keep his attention, and build on his desire to be
with you in the future.

So don't keep trying what DOESN'T WORK just
because you don't know any other way.

By the way... when I released this program, I
knew that it contained a ton of value and
information that women could use to jump-start
their love lives.

But at the same time I wondered if women would
be able to take the tips and strategies and apply
them in their own lives in a way that worked for
THEM.

Then a short while after I first taught this
program to real women like you... it happened. I
started getting e-mails from women who had watched
the program... and I started reading one awesome
SUCCESS story after another.

And that's when it hit me - I KNEW that this
program wasn't just what I thought would work in
my own head. It was EXACTLY what women wanted and
needed to resolve their dating worries.

Read what a woman JUST LIKE YOU said after
watching and listening to my "Meeting The One"
program:

"Using the techniques that I've learned in Meeting
The One, actually putting them to work and
practice is going to help my love life
TREMENDOUSLY. I felt very excited and energized
and ready to start putting some of these
techniques into play. I know I've missed some
opportunities, and if I would have known some of
the techniques I learned, maybe I still wouldn't
be single."
-- T.B., Los Angeles, CA

Nice! Not a bad start just a day after this
woman first discovered all the tips and secrets
about men and dating inside this program.

And here's the best part.

Just like all of my programs, you can try out
my "Meeting The One" program for yourself at NO
RISK for 30 days.

If you're unhappy with it at any time during
the first month, all you do is send it back to
me and you won't be charged a dime. No hassles.

I want to prove that the tips and strategies
inside will work for YOU... and I'm willing to
send this program out to you at no obligation,
so you can see for yourself how valuable this
information really is.

You won't risk anything, because I guarantee
you'll love this program.

Don't wait, because the love you want with the
right man is waiting for you right now.

Don't let another day pass by without you
knowing exactly what you can do to make sure
things come together for you in your love life.

Men And The Holidays - What You Need To Know

2011-12-31T04:18:00.002-08:00

Curious what women write and tell me has helped
them most over the last year?

I'll tell you the 2 things I hear most-

1) That knowing how ATTRACTION works for a man
has changed their life and how men are around them

2) That knowing HOW MEN THINK about love and
relationships has gotten rid of all the patterns
of failed relationships and a DISTANT and
WITHDRAWN man.

These are exactly what I share with you and show
you in my 2 most popular and successful programs
that tens of thousands have tried and loved.

Do you have the love and the kind of
relationship you want in your life right now?

As you know, the holidays are for spending time
with family and those you love the most.

How are you going to feel when you're there
with your family and friends over the holidays and
everyone else has great partners and committed
relationships or marriages?

What about you?

Why haven't things fallen into place for you?

If you're strong, and it doesn't bother you or
isn't important, than it won't feel like a big
deal over the holidays that you're not
experiencing the love and relationship you want
and need.

But...

If you're not as "Ok" with being single or in a
frustrating and disappointing relationship with a
man who doesn't seem to get it...

Then all the time you're about to spend around
other happy couples and reflecting on the year
will probably make it even clearer to you that
something major is missing from your love life.

If you're single - where is that right man?

If you're in a relationship - why in the world
does it seem so impossible to make things work and
keep your guy open, present and loving with you...
the way you are with him?

If you're ready to stop this pattern of being
one of the best women around with the WORST LUCK
with men and relationships... then it's time for
you to make that change you want happen in your
life.

That's why I'm doing something special for you
as someone who I'm close to and in touch with.

There are 2 programs I have that I get
literally tens to hundreds of emails a day from
women telling me how these programs almost seemed
like magic in how they changed their "luck" in
their love life.

It's been said that it's better to be LUCKY
than it is to be GOOD.

Isn't it time for you to be lucky in your love
life?

The truth is... you can help your luck along,
if you're willing to give luck a little push.

That's exactly what my two most popular
programs that show you how to be successful with
men and relationships will do for you.

These 2 programs are all about What Men Think
In Relationships... and about How Attraction Works
For A Man.

If you want a real and lasting relationship,
these are the 2 "core" things you MUST KNOW ABOUT.

In my "Natural & Lasting Attraction" program I
show and explain exactly What Men Think In
Relationships.

In my "Inside The Mind Of A Man" program I
reveal the hidden secrets you need to know to
create the intense level of what I call "Emotional
Attraction" with a man that will bond you two
together, forever.

I've learned that without this kind of intense
and more lasting attraction, a man is almost
guaranteed to NOT stay committed and emotionally
"present" with you.

Instead, he'll get anxious, irritated, and
generally act like your relationship is a BURDEN
instead of the BLESSING that it is.

Don't let this accidentally happen to you, when
it can be so easy (and fun) to do a few of the
right things so your man feels endlessly ATTRACTED
to you...

And is constantly amazed and reminded of what a
great woman you are and how much you both are
meant to be because of the way he feels understood
by you and connected to you in your relationship.

Right now, I'm going to do something I
never do:

I'm going to let you try BOTH of these programs
and ship them to you with no obligation.

And I'm going to make the cost of these
programs much less than they are for you - as a
thank-you during the holidays for reading and
sharing with me.

Try both these programs in this one-time
holiday special right below.

But remember, you need to let me know if you
want to try these programs as part of this holiday
special before December 26th, or else it's too
late.

What I strongly recommend you do if you're not
feeling great about where your love life is this
holiday season is this...

Don't just sit back and wish that things change
for you.

This isn't how great things are created.

The world just needs you to take some small
steps to start bringing you what it is you want.

Your first step is to let me know you'd like to
try these two amazing programs.

Then, when you get them at your home... try one
of the programs at a time.

As you use it and see the "luck" and magic it
will help bring back to your love life the way
these programs have for so many other women...

Go ahead and try the other program.

I want you to have the confidence and the
results that come to the women who have used the
tips and tools I show you in these programs...

So as a special one-time holiday offer I'm
going to let you try them both as a special
low-cost package.

This is a one-time special thing I'm doing
that won't be around again after Christmas.

As you know, you should be receiving more love
and support in your life over the holidays.

Yet for too many great women, the holidays can
only leave you feeling like you're just GIVING and
GIVING...

But you're getting LESS back.

This is especially true if you've got a man
and a relationship in your life that's not
"exactly" on the right track.

It's time to change your luck.

Tired Of Being Alone Over The Holidays?

2011-12-31T04:18:00.001-08:00

Being single, or feeling like your relationship is
not working, is somehow harder during the
holidays.

If you're tired of feeling like you'll never find
the right man and make things work...

Or if you're frustrated by having relationships
that start off great but fizzle out or turn out to
be like the ones you've had before with other
men...

Then it's time to change things once and for all
this holiday season.

I want you to imagine how not having the
relationship you want and deserve is going to feel
when you're surrounded by all your friends and
family.

Where's the man in your life? Why aren't you being
loved as the amazing woman you are?

Don't let another year pass by while you hope and
wait for things to be different, or men to change.

It's time you made your own luck.

I want to share with you the 2 "skills" that have
literally TRANSFORMED the love lives of thousands
of other women in a few short days.

These 2 skills are:

-The ability to create intense and lasting
ATTRACTION in your man

-The ability to connect on such a deep level that
a man can't help but want you in his life forever

Are you confident that you already have these
skills?

If not, don't worry. That's where I can quickly
help.

My 2 most popular CD/DVD programs will show you
exactly how to develop these 2 skills... and will
let you not only capture the love and interest of
the right man for you...

But will show you exactly how to make a
relationship work by opening him up to where your
relationship will feel effortless and easy..

Avoid Making This Mistake When He's Distant

2011-12-31T04:16:00.001-08:00

have you ever just sensed that
something was off with your man, but you didn't
know what?

Of course... he wouldn't talk to you about it or
tell you. He was just quiet and withdrawn.

Trying to figure out what your man is thinking
can be a dangerous game.

Not only does trying to figure him out often
end up pushing your man away on accident, it
usually drives you a little nuts.

Which only makes things worse.

Stop wondering and worrying when you don't have
to anymore. It's time you got to the heart of
the matter and stopped going in circles with
men and relationships.

I've put together an entire in-depth
program all about what men really think, feel
and want with women.

And of course I cover why they do those "guy
things" that drive so many women crazy in
relationships (and how to avoid them yourself).

here's a letter I got
recently from a reader that I wanted to respond
to...

In my response I share some tips and insights
into what's going on with her man as she's sensing
something wrong but can't put her finger on it,
while he won't talk to her.

Read on to find out what's going on...

>>>>Letter From A Reader

Hi Christian

I have read your e-book which has helped answer
a lot of my questions about men and relationships.
I am also in the process of listening to your
"ready for Love" CDs.

I have been having a long distance relationship
with a man with whom the chemistry and the
connection was amazing from the start. We have
been seeing each other for almost 4 months now. We
fell in love and he has confessed it so to me. He
also has mentioned to me that he feels I am his
soul mate.

He travels around the world working for an oil
company and during his last trip which has taken
a month things are changing. He does not call
me as often, does not write emails to me as
often and blames it on the time difference and
mood differences and being stressed and busy.
All started to get worse when in my frustrations
I started feeling anxiety and reacting by also
not calling him as often and being cold and
distant.

Before I started acting this way I did ask why
he was not calling and communicated that
expectation with him. I think he is pulling away
and so not know what to do. I am in love with him
and do not know if I should bother him by calling
or I should just stand back and wait for him to
make his move when ready. He was very attentive
and used to call a lot more before even when he
was traveling.

Did I act needy? Is there hope? What should I do?

In need of your help.

-A.

>>>>My Response

Ok, I'm glad you asked.

Here's something you should know-

It is possible for a man to sense what you're
calling "needy" without you even saying anything.

And...

It's possible that even though your normal
feelings of wondering what's going on aren't
wrong or needy in an unhealthy way... your man
might FEEL like you're being too needy.

The result- he's not showing you the same level
of interest and attraction not because you did
something wrong, but because of how he is FEELING.

So what's the difference between what is
actually needy, and what a man thinks is needy and
unattractive?

It's the way you communicate how you're
feeling to him. You might even think of this as
the "energy" that you're bringing to him and your
relationship.

I'm going to tell you what's really going on
with a man when this kind of thing is happening.

But first, I need you to do something.

I need you to stop what you're doing right now.

Then I need you to stop your mind, stop your
busy thoughts, and stop trying to "figure
everything out."

I'm going to suggest something you might not
understand at first, but I know it's really going
to help.

You're on the brink of becoming your own worst
enemy here.

Why?

Because you've got a growing case of what I
call the "over-analyzing blues."

This is when you know there's something going
on with your man that you don't get.

And since you don't know what it is, and
you're feeling a bit uncertain about things,
something bad starts to happen -

Your mind starts to fill in the blanks of
each little thing he does and says with some
kind of negative or fearful thought (even if
there's nothing really wrong).

And this creates a negative feedback loop
where-

The more you feel uncertain and unnerved by
not knowing what's going on...

The more things feel weird between you...

And thus the worse you feel...

And then the more negative stuff about him
and his actions you think and worry about...

And so the more he acts strangely or more
distant around you.

The cycle feeds itself and down and down
you go.

STOP THE MADNESS.

What you focus on is what you get more of.
So if you're focused on what might be wrong,
guess what?

You're going to not only find something,
you'll create something to be wrong in the
meantime- and nothing will happen to make
anything BETTER.

I want you to do something right now.

I want you to clear your mind of all your
thoughts about him.

I want you to picture yourself sitting in
your own personal paradise- whatever or
wherever that may be.

It could be on a white sand beach on a
tropical island, or it could be on top of a
rolling hill looking out over a plain.

Whatever it is, I want you to picture yourself
in a place that calms and soothes you.

Now, I want you to picture something for me-

I want you to picture your guy there beside
you, with his arms around you.

I want you to picture how loved and cared
for and appreciated you feel with him, and how
incredible it is when you're both connected this
way.

Go ahead and picture this.

Now, take that feeling that you're having of
the love and connection you feel to him, and take
a minute to appreciate what it is that you and
he share.

And take a minute to appreciate that feeling
and feel GRATEFUL for him and who he is.

Let the love that you feel inside you grow
stronger and richer and brighter.

Now that you can feel this love, I want you
to think about how your man responds to you when
you are this way with him.

Does he reject this kind of feeling from you?

Does he withdraw from this?

No, he doesn't.

Like other men, he CRAVES being with the woman
who is in this place of love, and who brings
this incredible and irresistible energy to him.

Now that you see this... let me ask you-

How does this energy and love that you share,
which your man craves and is the reason he's with
you... how does that compare to this uncertain and
worried energy and over-analyzing that you're
bringing to him and your relationship now?

Think about it for a second.

..

..

And now, think about how this energy could be
affecting him?

And how is it affecting you?

And how about your entire relationship?

Here's the first thing I'm getting at:

What if the reason your man seems to be more
distant or different with you isn't because
something is really wrong?

What if the reason is what YOU are bringing
to him and your relationship with what you're
thinking and worrying about?

The energy you're putting out there to him
doesn't sound like it's the kind that would
inspire him to feel energized and passionate
around you.

And what do men do when they're around a
woman who's going through intense emotions
that they don't understand?

What do men do when they don't know what
to do emotionally?

They hang back.

They "play it cool."

Or they withdraw to a place where it's easy
and there's no heavy emotional stuff going on.

If you think you might be worrying about your
relationship, and you find that this only seems
to make your man MORE DISTANT... you might want to
put 2 and 2 together here.

He might be feeling disconnected or distant
from you because you've got so much going on
in your head that he doesn't get or even know
about.

Danger! This is where you start turning
perfectly healthy and normal situations into
the kind of situations men can't help but be
baffled and frustrated by.

And more importantly, if you keep worrying
about this and feeling uncertain and turn to
him for answers to why you feel the way you do...
guess what?

He's likely not going to stand there with
open arms waiting to hear and understand how
you feel, and explain himself.

It would be great if men would always do this.

It would be great if a man would always be
your "rock".

What happens when they aren't?

Should it all fall apart?

The truth is that men don't often know what's
going with you, or why.

They just know if something feels heavy or
intense to them.

And when this heavy energy starts to take
over in your relationship... this is where a man
will want to ESCAPE.

Which only makes you feel worse and seems
to be a signal that something really is wrong.

Or is it?

By the way, I've created an all-in-one
resource that will show you exactly how men
think, what it means when they act the way you're
describing, and what to do about it that will
quickly have him feeling CONNECTED and ENGAGED
with you like it probably was in the beginning.

Men can and will predictably WITHDRAW once you
get down the road in your relationship.

Knowing what this means and how to handle it
is what can make all the difference, and can be
what separates you from any other woman a man has
ever dated by making him feel that you're the
right woman to be with.

Men get that magic "she's the one" feeling
not when they feel like they have to dig into
the little things to make your relationship work
but when it feels EASY.

Once you know how men really think and feel,
it's not only going to feel easy for him... it's
going to be EASY for YOU to get what YOU WANT
in your relationship.

And you having the relationship you want is
what this is really all about.

That's why it's time you stopped wondering
what in the world is going on with men, and
stopped feeling stuck or frustrated as the same
"issues" keep coming up with them.

What if those issues are things that keep
coming up because you haven't learned how to avoid
or move past them?

For all my very best tips and a complete guide
to what men think and want when it comes to women,
love and relationships, go check out my
"Inside The Mind Of A Man" program.

In this program I'll show you:

-The 8 Attraction Killers which are universal with
all men

-The 3 Stages of Maturity in a man's life, and how
to identify and understand where your man is,
and what this means about how he'll be with you
in your relationship

-What leads men to cheat, and the best ways to
PREVENT CHEATING in the first place

-What men really want and need to find in a woman
if they're going to want a long-term, or even
lifelong, love affair and relationship with you

-Exactly WHY men so often perceive women and their
feelings as NEEDY... and what to say and do so your
man not only listens to you but wants to know more

-And lots more...

There's so much I want you to know about men
that's going to instantly change the way you see
things and shift things for you...

And that's why I STRONGLY RECOMMEND you go and
check out what's in this program and take me up on
my special offer.

You can try my "Inside The Mind Of A Man"
program absolutely free before deciding if you
want to keep it.

All you have to do is go here right now and
I'll ship you a copy for you to try for 30 days.

It's really that simple. And no hassles, no
gotchas, no hidden fees if you don't absolutely
love it and want to keep it from all you'll be
getting from it about men.

I was really blown away by this email I got
the other day and I can't help but share it with
you.

This woman's love life was changed forever
in a few short moments...

>>>>Letter From A Reader

Dear Christian:

Several months ago, I purchased your "Ready for
Love" DVD program. It arrived, yet I didn't open
it for several months because I wasn't "ready"
for it.

I am 49 years old and spent 13 years with the man
of my dreams (11 of them married). He decided that
he didn't want to be a husband anymore and we
divorced in 2004.

For the past three years, I have been making
mistakes, either not dating (hiding in my
apartment and just being "MOM" to my 13 year old
daughter), dating the wrong men or just being
downright miserable.

One weekend, when I couldn't take it anymore, I
opened the package and watched 3 of the DVDs. I
watched the other 2 the following weekend. I was
shocked at how much I learned about myself after
viewing your program. I will highlight the three
things that were most profound to me and have
helped me tremendously:

Being able to articulate what love means to me,
how I wanted it, yet blocked my ability to receive
it. I have learned how to create a clear
definition of what I truly want (this was hard).

Addressing my fears and looking at my behavior
that stemmed from my fears, which in turn drew
me to the wrong men or sabotaged a potentially
good relationship. ("We attract what we project.")

Understanding that a man is NOT the center of my
universe, knowing that I am a goddess and that if
I nurture myself more, I will attract and receive
what I truly deserve! (thank YOU and Dr. Amir)

Now for the success story -- thanks to your
program and my newfound bravery, I began
communicating with a guy I met online. He was
saying all of the right things, but I still found
myself a little scared. Nevertheless, by applying
your principles, I got up the courage to go out on
a date with him. Everything was fantastic, but in
the back of my mind, I kept referring to what I
learned from your program.

Let's just say that five weeks later, things are
still fantastic between us. We talk a lot, laugh a
lot and share special times together. It's not
necessarily about "us" or the "future." I'm not
trying to prove to him how "worthy" I feel because
he likes me. He is NOT the center of my
universe -- I still travel, go to the theater with
friends and hang out with my daughter and treat
myself like a goddess. However, this is so far the
best man that I have met in a very long time. He
has shared with me the fact that he feels "lucky"
to have met me! The old me would have wondered
what he was feeling so lucky about. Now I know.

Thanks Christian. You have made a believer out of
me.

-C.C.

>>>>My Response

C.C.- he is lucky to have met you, and so am I.

Thanks for sharing and you made my day.

He's Lost The Attraction? 5 Likely Reasons...

2011-12-31T04:15:00.000-08:00

ever dated a man who you shared an
incredible connection with, but then he suddenly
wanted his "freedom" ...

or said he "wasn't ready" when you started to
get close?

What's going on here? Why does this happen for so
many women?

Are you one of the many single women in the
world who would make an AMAZING PARTNER for a
man.... but can't even find a decent date?

Do you ever feel like it's impossible to
understand what a man is thinking when it comes to
"dating" and relationships?

Do you ever wish that you could just skip the
"games" and the uncertainty that come with dating
and get straight to something REAL?

If so, I want to share with you a few important
ways to stop missing out on the love and
connection you're looking for... and start finding
and creating what you want.

There's something I want to know about you
first, though.

I wonder how often this has happened to you:

You meet a man you find attractive and you go
out on a date...

The date goes better than you imagined, and you
find him even more interesting and desirable than
you thought you would.

You feel great around him and the conversation
flows.

You both connect with each other and have all
kinds of unbelievable things in common.

The more time you spend with him, the more you
become excited about where things could go... and
that you've finally met a man who's fun,
attractive AND who actually seems open and healthy
as a person.

To top it off, the chemistry you share is
AMAZING... and you share a steamy good-night kiss
that proves it.

You can tell he's feeling it, too.

This is something more than just another date.
It's more than two people spending time together.

This is something special and real.

That's why you can't help yourself...

Before you even hear from him again, you're
telling your girlfriends all about him, what a
great time you had, what it's like when you're
together... and when you're going to see each
other next.

You're VERY excited about your new man.

You imagine introducing him to your friends.

You even allow yourself a fantasy or two about
all the fun things you'll do together in the weeks
to come and what your life together could be like.

You have a GREAT FEELING about this.

Best of all, he's calling you, emailing, and he
wants to see you all the time.

And he's not only attractive and charming- it
turns out he's a really good person, too.

After a few more dates you're intimate with him
because you feel so comfortable together. And the
sex is AMAZING.

Things are going so great that you say to
yourself,

"At last! A real man I truly connect with. I
better not screw this up!"

But just then you realize how much he is
starting to mean to you... and in the back of your
mind it kind of freaks you out.

And it's then that the dating and relationship
nightmares from your past flash back in your
mind...

You don't want to feel the pain you felt in the
past ever again... and you start to feel afraid
that the same things could happen again.

Your mind races with fear and anxiety.

But to keep it together you put faith in the
situation and in this man. You tell yourself that
it's different this time, and that he isn't one of
those other guys.

And to make sure things keep moving forward in
the right direction, you start trying a little
harder with him to get it right this time.

You do all kinds of nice things for him.

You make the effort to find out all about him,
understand him, and help him out with the things
that are going on for him in his life.

You even start to do things like favors,
errands, etc., just because you want him to know
how much you care and to be close to him.

In the back of your mind you really hope he'll
recognize all the great things you're doing for
him, and how amazing you and your relationship can
be.

With all you're doing for him and your
relationship, he'd be crazy not to want to be with
you.

But after a few more dates, suddenly something
starts to feel WRONG...

That same easy and free way of loving and being
with each other suddenly feels different.

You realize how much you're doing for him and
all the ways you're trying... and suddenly it
hits you -

He isn't making much of an effort to do
anything for you or your relationship.

Not the way you are with him.

Then you realize that he's been calling you
less than he used to.

He doesn't seem as excited to be with you and
share his thoughts and feelings as he used to be
at first.

He even stops making much in the way of plans,
and starts doing a lot of other things he wasn't
doing before.

And since you don't want to keep calling him,
you wait for his call... hoping he'll make weekend
plans with you.

But Thursday comes, and then Friday, and still
no call.

Your worst fears are starting to be realized.
But you don't want to overreact.

So even though you're hurt and upset that he
didn't call you... you want to be with him, so you
reluctantly call him.

You tell yourself there must be a good reason
and that he's been busy or something.

When you finally get ahold of him, he doesn't
even sound like the same guy.

He talks like he hardly knows you and you've
never been close.

You try to be casual and ask him what he's been
doing, but you want to know what he's been doing
and why he hasn't called you.

Then you find out he's been going out and doing
things with friends and other people.

Arggggh! He didn't even invite you!

Wait a minute...

Aren't you two an "item"? Shouldn't you be
doing something TOGETHER on weekends and in your
free time?

You start feeling really FRUSTRATED and
CONFUSED.

Maybe he doesn't see what's going on, so you
decide to let him know how you feel and "call him
on it."

You tell him how upset you felt that he didn't
ask you to hang out with him and his friends.

And you ask him what's going on, and why he's
being this way with you.

But he doesn't respond the way you'd want or
expect him too.

Instead of listening to you and your
feelings... he gets irritated and ANGRY with you.
As though you're "hassling" him.

After some arguing and back and forth, he seems
to shift gears in the conversation and says
something that really makes your heart SINK.

Something that you had a gut FEELING you'd hear
from him with this going on-

He tells you,

"Look... you're great, but the truth is that
I'm not ready or in the right place for any kind
of 'serious' relationship right now."

And he goes on to tell you about all the things
going on in his life that are taking up his time
and energy... and that he doesn't know how to
settle down right now.

Ouch.

WHAT IS HE TALKING ABOUT!?

Why is he acting like you're going to get in
the way of the rest of his life?

Why did he ask you out in the first place, and
spend all that time sharing himself, being with
you, and connecting with you if he didn't want a
relationship all along?

Couldn't he have told you that when you first
met, instead of asking you out?

Why did he spend all that time with you and
sleep with you if he didn't want to be with you?

And how come he doesn't recognize or appreciate
all the things you bring to his life, and all the
things that you do for him?

At this point, you feel incredibly hurt,
frustrated, unappreciated, and misunderstood.

You even become intensely UPSET and ANGRY with
him, and with yourself. How could you have
misunderstood what was happening and not seen this
coming!?

Why did he do all the things he did, and why
did he SAY all those things that made you think HE
WANTED a relationship with you?

Now, if you've experienced a situation like
this with a man before... then I really feel for
you.

It STINKS.

It will help you know what to do when a great
guy who you share a real connection, chemistry,
and attraction with PULLS AWAY from you just as
you start to get closer and a little more
"serious."

Now, back to our story and this frustratingly
common situation women run into with men.

In the story above, for lots of women the story
doesn't end when the man says he's not ready
for anything serious.

Why?

Because they either don't want to listen to the
man... or they refuse to believe him.

And then what happens?

Some women actually go on to spend the next few
weeks or maybe even MONTHS doing everything they
can to try and win the guy back.

They think that if they can just get him to
stop ignoring what it is that they share, and to
not be afraid... that the guy will "come to his
senses" and come back to them.

WRONG!

If you've ever been in this situation, or known
a woman who was, here are the 5 most common ways
women respond that don't work and push men away or
turn them off for good:

1) Pretending you don't want anything serious
either and keep on sleeping with the man
"casually" in hopes that things will grow from the
"physical relationship"

2) Staying close to him by trying to become his
"best friend" as you help him in his life and with
his problems - all the while imagining the
"payoff" of a real relationship for your good
deeds once he recognizes how great you are

3) Trying to make him jealous by telling him
you're seeing other guys, even if you're not. Or
going out with other guys and doing things with
them not because you like them, but because you
want him to find out and want you back

4) Getting mad at him and telling him he's
dumb, immature, and acting like a little BOY...
and that he's just scared of a real relationship
and a commitment - and then trying to get him to
have a relationship with you to "fix" himself

5) Trying to make him interested in you by
complimenting him, doing nice things for him,
taking up things he's interested in to be around
him... and being available to him at anytime he
should show interest. This is kind of like trying
to be his "best friend," but different since it's
often still sexual.

Now, I'm guessing that you recognized at least
one of these responses as you were reading through
them.

As you read yours, you probably thought "Oh no,
that was me!"... and now you see your behavior in
a slightly different light.

In fact, maybe you see you've made a couple of
these mistakes with men.

Here's the thing...

None of these responses ever work with men.

Ever.

Feel free to ask your girlfriends and your guy
friends if you don't believe me.

Doing these things with a man is like instant
MAN-REPELLENT.

But, strangely enough, even though these
universally don't get men to respond in any
positive way... these are still the most common
ways that women who don't understand men and
dating respond.

Which begs the question...

Why do so many women make these same mistakes
in the first place? And why are these so
universally common?

The short answer is this-

If a woman makes these kinds of mistakes with
men, it's NOT because she "learned" it by seeing
it work for other women with other men.

Absolutely not.

It's because she does WHAT MAKES SENSE to HER
in the moment.

But guess what?

If you've spent enough time around men, then
you've probably discovered that men DON'T MAKE
MUCH SENSE.

See where I'm going here?

If you try and use what makes sense to YOU as a
woman with a man... odds are you're going to get
very poor results.

Which means...

If you want to start getting better outcomes
and results when it comes to men, and you want to
be able to communicate with a man in a way that
brings him closer...

Then you're going to have to learn to STOP
doing what makes "sense" to you...

And START doing what it is that makes a man
FEEL ATTRACTED and MORE INTERESTED in you.

In other words - the biggest challenge most
women run into when it comes to "breaking through"
to men and getting past the surface dating stuff
and into a real relationship with a real man is
not being able to see past their own MINDSET and
the approach they've been using that hasn't
worked.

If you have the wrong mindset, and the thus the
wrong approach when it comes to men and dating...
then it practically guarantees you're going to
fail from the very beginning.

Seriously.

But if you can learn to understand how your
mindset affects how you interpret and respond to a
man...

And you can start to get the kind of
PERSPECTIVE or AWARENESS that will lead you to
knowing what's really going on with him, and how
to respond...

Then things are quickly and naturally going to
fall into place for you.

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Now, here's the other important question to
ask now that we've identified some of the common
mistakes women make with men...

WHY don't these responses and ways of
communicating and dealing with men work? Even
though at the time responding this way makes
absolute sense?

Because they all have one terrible thing in
common...

They are all deadly forms of what I call
APPROVAL-SEEKING BEHAVIOR.

Ok, so what does that mean?

And why is it such a terrible thing when it
comes to men, dating, attraction, and having a man
see you as the kind of woman he really wants to be
with?

Good question...

I'm going to try and make a long and
complicated story very short here to show you what
approval-seeking behavior is, and why it's such a
GIANT MISTAKE with men...

See, men have all kinds of ways of thinking,
seeing things, and behaviors that aren't
completely conscious - but are what I'll call more
BIOLOGICAL or INSTINCTUAL.

These are things that have been instilled in
them over thousands and millions of years of
"conditioning" during mating and courtship rituals
with women.

When a man is looking for a woman, a part of
his instinctual "wiring" unconsciously tells him
to look for a woman who is healthy and "fit."

This means that men are biologically wired to
look for, and feel "attracted" to women who have
the qualities and traits that indicate a high
level of health and "fitness."

But unfortunately, this "screening process"
that's going on inside a man's mind is largely
UNCONSCIOUS.

In other words, a man can't and won't just walk
up to a woman and say,

"Hi, I'm looking for a mate. I'd like to know
if you would make a good mate for me. Are you any
of the following?

-Physically fit and healthy so you can conceive a
healthy child, give birth, and raise him/her?

-"Genetically fit" so that you have a high
likelihood to bear successful offspring by passing
off great qualities like size, strength,
intelligence, immunity, etc?

-Intelligent, "funny", and resourceful so that you
can not only be a mate that makes me feel
attracted to you and want to conceive lots of
children... but also help in this world of hard-
to-come-by resources?

-Going to make a great mother who can care for our
child and raise it while I'm out trying to
"provide"?

Catch my drift?

This is part of the reason why so often a woman
will ask a man why he's feeling one way or
another... or why he's acting different or not
interested in a relationship and he can't explain
it.

It's just the way he FEELS.

Either he FEELS ATTRACTED. Or he doesn't.

Of course, these "biological buttons" aren't
the only thing going on inside a man's mind.

Men do have more CONSCIOUS processes for the
way they choose a woman, and for the way they
feel.

If trying to cram all this into your head and
understand what it means, and how to respond to
all these things while trying to have a real
conversation with a man seems ridiculous and
daunting to you - it should.

The reality is that you can't sit and think to
yourself... "Gee, I'd like him to think I'd make a
good mate who could rear successful and healthy
children, so I'll tell him about how healthy me
and my family are."

It just doesn't work that way.

A man looks at much more subtle "cues" about a
woman that tell him what to think.

Some of these "cues" are:

-Physical Appearance (the obvious one): If you
have a specific hip-to-waist ratio, without
consciously "measuring" it, a man will see it and
possibly feel a physical attraction

-Health: Things like how white the whites in your
eyes are, your scent, and the tone and nature of
your skin are all subtle indicators of a healthy
immune system. Men find white eyes, certain
scents, and smooth skin attractive not because
they know they indicate that a woman is healthy
and will have a high likelihood of success for
offspring, but because they FEEL ATTRACTED to
these things for some reason.

-"Emotional Fitness": If a woman has the kind of
attitude and "vibe" about her that is fun to be
around, stimulating, exciting, and positive and
consistent... then a man unconsciously will see
her as a good long-term mate.

To find out all the things that truly interest
and attract men... as well as the more subtle and
complex things that make them become EMOTIONALLY
INVOLVED with a woman it could take a long, long
time to figure out.

It could take you literally years of research,
of failed relationships, and of trying different
things.

And even then you might not arrive at what is
really going on with men, and how to make a
relationship come together and work.

If you're single after all these years, and you
still don't have the knowledge and the confidence
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It also doesn't hurt that I happen to be a man
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If you don't understand where a man is at, you
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One of the biggest "make it or break it"
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If you've ever felt "stuck" in your love life
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Why It's So Hard To Find A Good Man

2011-12-31T04:13:00.000-08:00

If you were single this Christmas, you've
probably been wondering:

"Where are all the good men?"

If so, I'd strongly recommend reading this
short letter about what it really is that
ATTRACTS the right man.

Now... if you've been in bad a relationship,
and now you're single or feeling stuck, you
might be thinking:

"What changed? He used to be so loving and
affectionate, and now things feel almost dead
between us and he's always distant."

Do you know the biggest mistake most women
trying to save their relationship make when
it ends up in this bad place?

I'll tell you.

It's giving your man an ULTIMATUM.

Quick tip - if you own the book "The Rules",
please throw it away.

If you've ever considered giving your guy
an "ultimatum" about getting serious or taking
things to the "next level" in your relationship,
there's something you need to know.

Men don't respond to deadlines, ultimatums or
"all or nothing" demands when it comes to making
a real long-term commitment to a woman.

You might get his attention temporarily and have
him try and "act" better for a few weeks or
months.

But you won't have gotten at the ROOT of the
problem in your relationship.

What more, making these kinds of demands or pleas
often brings out THE WORST in a man.

It causes a man to withdraw, act distant, get
angry and irritated with you, and start
questioning whether he should be with you at all.

Wouldn't it be better if you were both bringing
out THE BEST in each other instead?

Yes, it would. And you can start the process.

I know that it can be a frustrating to wonder
how in the world you're ever going to get what
YOU want and need from a relationship...

When your man just seems to be content to carry on
a lifeless and disconnected relationship with no
real communication in it.

It's like slowly drowning.

Don't let this keep happening to you.

And don't make the common mistakes too many
other women make that only bring out THE WORST
in both people in the couple.

It's time for a new approach.

I definitely understand how all those painful
feelings can lead you to see an "ultimatum" as
the ONLY way to communicate your needs.

I have put together a special program just
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Even if you aren't dating a man right now,
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You've got to know how COMMITMENT works for a
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first place.

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boyfriend... and find out exactly what to say
instead.

Sly oxy, Tired Of Men Who Freak Out?

2011-12-31T04:12:00.000-08:00

Have you ever had a man freak out on you for no
good reason after a few great dates?

What's wrong with single men?

It must get old putting trying to date and put
yourself out there... only to have man after man
do the same kind of thing:

Just when things start to get real he suddenly
becomes distant and tells you "I'm not ready for a
relationship."

It's enough to make finding the right man and a
real relationship impossible.

So what is the problem? Are there really no good
single men out there?

Or is it that you have bad luck and you just
keep meeting all the wrong men?

If it's been longer than you'd like to admit since
you had a real, genuine working relationship with
a good man... then you've probably asked yourself:

Where are all the good men?

Why don't good men notice a good woman (me) when
they meet one?

And how come you seem to keep attracting all
the wrong guys?

If you're tired of feeling this way -

Then it's time you took control of your love life
and did something POSITIVE and PRO-ACTIVE this
coming year.

I can help you with this.

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I will also show you how to get the right man's
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Your other option is to keep on the same track,
and stay single as you keep getting the same
outcomes with each man you meet.

It's time to stop the patterns and make a change.

If you feel unsure about what to say to a man when
you first meet.

Or you don't know how to spot the signs that will
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Steps To Make This The Year You Marry

2011-12-31T04:04:00.000-08:00

I've noticed something fascinating that happens
this PARTICULAR time of year to "good"
relationships.

Especially in relationships where the couple
has been dating for several months or a year
or longer and they're getting along and have
a great connection.

The holidays roll around and a lot of women
begin to wonder if their guy is finally going
to either pop the question, buy them a ring or
make more of a long-term commitment.

To top it off, maybe your friends or family are
giving you the impression that it's something
THEY think should happen, too.

All this wondering about whether or not
the guy will commit can either lead to a
great and happy surprise, or signal the
start of a lot of resentment, struggle or
even a break-up

Before I explain, let me ask you-

Are you wondering if your man is finally going
to pop the question or buy you a ring and make
that last big commitment to you soon?

And if so, what is it about this particular
time of year that brings this topic up for so many
women?

I don't have any scientific studies or
statistics to quote to you, but I do have my own
theories about why the holidays cast such a strong
spotlight on commitment.

One is that a lot of single women spend the
holidays visiting friends and family and
listening to a lot of unsolicited advice about
their love lives.

You know what I'm talking about, right?

How many times have you had to bite your
tongue and be tactful when "Aunt Mae" or
whomever starts asking you when you're going
to finally "settle down" and get married?

Sometimes even in front of your guy!

It's a tricky question because even though you
may not admit it openly, deep down, you're
probably wondering that very thing, too.

You wonder if he's just content to keep dating
you forever, with no "real" commitment on the
horizon...

Or if you will have a real and solid future
together - one that you can feel good about and
plan for.

You wonder what it's going to take to get
him THINKING and PLANNING about your future
together instead of just thinking about
what's on TV tonight or worrying about whether
or not his team is going to the Super Bowl this
year.

After all, you've been "serious" with him for a
while now. You've been seeing each other
exclusively, you've been saying "I love you"
to each other and you plan vacations and trips
together. You've even met each other's families.

So shouldn't a long-term commitment or proposal
be the NEXT LOGICAL STEP?

If you're "living it", why not just make it
official, right?

Actually, many men do think about it. It's not
unheard-of for a guy to think about a deeper
commitment with his girlfriend around the
holidays or other special occasions like
birthdays.

I've personally known a few couples who got
engaged on Christmas, or Valentine's Day or
whatever.

It does happen.

But does it happen JUST BECAUSE it's a special
time of year, or does it happen based on OTHER
criteria?

On one hand, if a man is ready to commit to a
woman, he may CHOOSE special occasions or times
of the year to bring it up or pop the question.
Those occasions, such as holidays or birthdays,
are opportunities to give gifts that symbolize
what the person means to you.

It's all part of a man's desire to make the
woman he loves happy by making it SPECIAL.

If you're expecting a ring or a deeper
commitment from him this holiday, consider this:

It's one thing to wonder and feel excited about
the POSSIBILITIES of what might happen, without
necessarily being attached to any particular
course of events.

This kind of excited ANTICIPATION can actually
add a lot of positive feelings to your
relationship.

(This is especially true if you've been upfront
and honest with him about how you see your
relationship unfolding in the future... so there
shouldn't be any reason for misunderstandings or
disappointment.)

It's quite ANOTHER THING if you're spending A
LOT of time feeling worried and anxious about
whether or not the holidays are going to pass
by... without a ring or long-term commitment
from your man.

This kind of anxiety can be a dangerous
situation for your relationship because you can
be SETTING YOURSELF UP for a big let-down if
things don't go EXACTLY as you hope...

Not to mention all that anxiety and worry can
cause you to come off as seeming "on edge" and
irritable, which can send the WRONG signal to
the guy.

Holidays are stressful enough as it is... so
adding to the stress by acting "on edge" can
really freak him out and start to question your
relationship... even MORE than any other time
of year.

He might wonder if he's done something wrong
to make you feel that way... but if he feels
like this discussion has come totally out of
"left field" and is not understanding where he
stands in the commitment process he may start
to feel mistrustful or resentful of you.

And if you're wondering if "dropping hints" or
asking his friends or family for clues about
"what he's thinking" about a more permanent
commitment is a good strategy... think again.

That will actually have the OPPOSITE EFFECT
of what you're hoping to achieve.

I hope you're starting to see how easy it is to
create a bunch of negative feelings and
unrealistic expectations around your relationship
when you didn't intend to.

So why don't you step back for a minute and let
me help you get some perspective here?

Even though this time of year can be special for
a lot of reasons and can be a great time to
reconnect with family and friends, it doesn't
mean that something is necessarily going to
CHANGE in your relationship.

This is because a man doesn't commit to a woman
JUST BECAUSE it's a special time of year or
because it's been exactly so-many-months or years
since you met.

Many guys aren't even AWARE of exactly how much
time you've been together... or what that means
to you.

So the fact that it's a holiday and you're in a
comfortable and connected relationship is no
indication IN ITSELF that a man is going to want
to commit to you.

For a man, a commitment on the level of a
proposal or a ring is the culmination of SEVERAL
THINGS that happen at a much, much deeper level.

It's much deeper than feeling pressure from his
friends or family who think he should "get
serious" or "settle down."

It's much deeper than simply feeling like it's
the next logical step in his great relationship
with you.

It's much deeper than simply thinking, "The
holidays are coming up, so wouldn't it be nice
if I surprised her with a ring this year?"

In a man's mind, asking a woman to marry him
or move in with him is an internal decision based
on HOW HE FEELS when he's with you, and how he
pictures his life with you in the future.

Whatever happens once the holidays are over
depends on whether your expectations were
realistic or unrealistic.

How can you tell if your hopes for the
relationship are realistic or just wishful
thinking?

When your expectations are UNREALISTIC, a few
things might happen, and usually in this order:

-- You'll start to listen for "clues" about how
your man is feeling that either prove or disprove
that he wants to take the "next step." For
example, if he asks you what kind of jewelry you
like, you probably put a mental check-mark next to
the "he wants a commitment" category. (Even though
his question may have nothing to do with buying
you "the ring.")

-- You'll instantly dismiss or "forget" any
conversation or comment where he seems to not
be "in sync" with what you want in your future
together. If what he says doesn't fit with what
you want, you choose to ignore it (consciously
or subconsciously).

-- You fantasize about where your relationship
will be a year or two from now, but you haven't
actually had real discussions about it with him.

-- You have already told your closest friends and
family members that you "think" he's going to
propose soon, so the pressure is ON... in your
mind and on HIM...

On the other hand, if you have realistic
expectations based on HONESTY and good
communication, chances are you won't have to
worry that you're putting out bad "vibes" or
misunderstanding each other.

Which means that getting a ring or a proposal
will be a pleasant surprise instead of being
a source of WORRY and TENSION all the time.

Here are a few other clues that tell you that
you are carrying UNREALISTIC expectations of
your relationship:

1. YOU ASSUME HE WANTS WHAT YOU WANT.

When the woman feels such an amazing connection
with a man, she assumes that he wants the same
things she does from the relationship.
The assumptions - such as automatically getting
a commitment because things are "going well"
and you've been dating a year or two - become so
strong and real that they become BELIEFS.

When you start to BELIEVE things NEED to happen
a certain way, you'll have a hard time even
"accepting" if your relationship differs from the
way you picture it in your mind. And then
when/if it doesn't happen, it becomes an even
more monumental "blow" to your relationship.

Women would like to think that a man should be
able to "read their mind" because of the
connection they share. Guess what? No one is a
mind-reader, no matter how in love they are.

2. YOU HAVE HIDDEN OR UNSPOKEN EXPECTATIONS.

Do you expect your relationship to progress in
a certain way or have particular goals that you
have NOT discussed or shared with your man?

You may be hoping that he'll pop the question
soon, but has the idea of a long-term, serious
commitment even been a topic of discussion
between you? If not, you may be setting yourself
up for disappointment if you're not talking to
your man about what you want and need to be happy.

You may have put off talking to him about what
you want simply because you're afraid you'll
scare him off, or because you don't know how to
approach the subject.

This can create a disconnect between what you
and the man expect out of the relationship, which
leads to misunderstandings, fights, resentment
and hurt feelings.

By the way, if you want to know how to START a
conversation about commitment, and exactly what
to say and how to say it, check out Chapter 8
(page 247) in my e-book, "Catch Him & Keep Him."

I'll explain why one particular kind of
approach works BETTER for getting him to start
thinking about committing to you WITHOUT pleading,
arguing, drama or tension.

Now, let's look at the third mistake you may be
making...

3. YOU'RE THINKING COMMITMENT TOO SOON.

Have you already committed yourself to your
relationship - physically, emotionally and
otherwise - without "checking in" to make sure
the man is AS INVESTED as you are?

For example, you and your man have amazing
chemistry and everything is always intense when
you're together - you always have deep and
thoughtful conversations and the way you connect
on a physical level is amazing. You assume things
are "going somewhere" and you aren't seeing anyone
else... or even considering it for that matter.

Are you sure that he's in the same place you
are?

Does he think your relationship is headed
toward serious, monogamous commitment and living
together someday?

How do you know? Have you asked him? Or are
you ASSUMING (re-read point #1) that he
automatically wants what you want?

Sometimes women discover that their man wasn't
thinking of a future together in the same way
they were.

In other words, he was enjoying the time he was
spending with you, but wasn't considering what it
would be like to CREATE A LIFE TOGETHER or be
exclusive.

You can imagine the conflict and hurt feelings
that can develop when one or the other person
finally OPENS UP and admits where their head and
heart are really at... and it doesn't match the
other person's experience.

... especially if you have been assuming these
beliefs to be true for months...or EVEN YEARS.

Many women hold back from sharing their real
feelings and desires because they're unsure of what
a man is thinking, or how best to have "the talk"
with him.

When all these pent-up feelings come out, they
create intense "drama" because of all the
passive-aggressive feelings that develop between
the man and woman.

And if there's one thing men hate... it's a
bunch of DRAMA from a woman about the
relationship.

That's when you have situations like the
holidays coming and going... and no ring... and
you're disappointed and mad.

You might find yourself saying things like,

"I thought this was going somewhere!"

"I'm not going to wait around forever, you know."

And before you know it, there's an awkwardness
that develops, things feel strained, and he starts
DOUBTING your relationship and his ability to make
you happy.

Look, I'm not telling you this to discourage
you from getting in touch with what you really
NEED and WANT for your love life, and being able
to share those thoughts with your man.

But I'd like to help you understand, from
a man's perspective, how to look at your
relationship CLEARLY and with realistic
expectations based on what you BOTH want...
instead of looking at it as something you
"deserve" or that he "owes" you.

You with me here?

OK, good.

Now that you've figured out if your
expectations are realistic or not, let me ask you
another question, if you don't mind.

Have you ever known a woman who didn't have to
spend one single minute worrying or wondering
whether or not her man was going to commit to
her?

It just happened... and she didn't have to do
anything out of the ordinary or have any kind of
"heavy talk" with the man because he was the one
begging HER for the commitment.

She didn't worry about where things were
headed. She didn't have to threaten him that she
would "move on" if he wasn't on board with having
a REAL RELATIONSHIP.

Don't you wonder what special MINDSET OR
QUALITY a woman like this has, because committed
relationships and love come so easily and
naturally for her?

It definitely takes a certain kind of woman to
make a man feel like she's the one and ONLY woman
he wants to be with. Now, or in the future.

Would you like to know how to make your man
feel this way about YOU?

The key factor that makes a man want to commit
to a woman is whether he feels like he is BETTER
OFF being in a committed relationship with her
than being single.

He also needs to believe, without a doubt, that
he is better off with her than ANY OTHER WOMAN.

If you can unlock a man's deep desire for true
love and deep connection, you can avoid hearing
the other kinds of fake EXCUSES give when
they're not ready.

Excuses like he "needs to figure out his career
first", or "get his finances in order", or
"figure out where his life is headed" before
he can settle down with you.

I've put together an entire program
that shows you exactly how to trigger
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man... and avoid dealing with excuses,
resistance and withdrawal.

A real and lasting commitment doesn't
"just happen" - there are critical steps
that have to happen along the way.

In my "From Casual To Committed" CD/DVD
program, you'll also learn:

> How to get your man to come up
with his OWN reasons for committing to you...
and get him to ask you for a commitment FIRST

> How to initiate "the talk" with
a man in a way that makes him EXCITED
about getting closer and more
emotionally intimate with you

> The only SUREFIRE way to know with 100% accuracy
whether your guy is into you for the long-term,
or if you are wasting your time

... and tons more.

I hope that you'll take the time to
understand how commitment works for a
man, so you can transition effortlessly
from an uncertain "casual" relationship
to a more meaningful and long-lasting one.

That way, you can actually RELAX and
enjoy the holidays without worrying about
"will he or won't he pop the question?"
You'll know exactly where your relationship
is headed, and you'll feel a whole lot
more SECURE about it.

I'll talk to you again soon,

What Makes Men Lose Their Commitment Fears

2011-12-31T04:03:00.000-08:00

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DO MEN HAVE TO MAKE SO MANY MISTAKES WITH YOU?

Oh, so I don't forget-

There's something else just as important about
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one?

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Still Single? Meet A Good Man In 2 Minutes

2011-12-31T04:02:00.000-08:00

if you're ready to make a fresh
start this year and finally learn the secret to
triggering powerful attraction in a man...

I want to share some fascinating insights with
you about why it might seem so impossible to meet
a good guy and find a new relationship.

First, I'd like to ask you-

Are you still single even though it seems to
you like you've been dating forever?

Do you almost feel embarrassed about how long
you've been single, or how many bad dates,
unavailable men and dead-end relationships you've
been through in the last few months or years but
you still haven't found a decent guy who will
stick around?

Maybe you're starting to feel wiped out by this
whole "dating thing."

After all, another year has gone by, and not
much has changed in your love life.

Sure, you've dated a few guys, or maybe you've
even been in a "serious" relationship.

But things haven't worked out.

It's the same story.

If you're into them, they're not into you.

And whenever things felt promising and hopeful,
something unexpected happened that ruined things.

He got busy, you moved away, he went back to
his ex, or you discovered a real "deal-breaker"
about him.

You're starting to wonder if things just aren't
going to work out for you when it comes to love,
and you'll just end up PERPETUALLY SINGLE.

And sure -

You keep telling yourself it's not so bad.

There are so many other great things you have
going for you in your life, like your career or
your friends and family.

But deep down, you don't want to be single
forever, do you?

You worry about it more often than you want to
admit.

But at the same time, it's almost as if you've
become pickier and more jaded each time you go out
on a date with a man.

Sure, he's attractive and "nice." But will he
call again? It's almost like you keep waiting for
the other shoe to drop, and this is when things
actually feel GOOD! Ugh.

You didn't used to feel this way.

You're starting to not only lose hope, but
you're losing MOTIVATION.

Bad sign.

But now a new year is about to begin, and the
beauty is that you can make a fresh start.

Starting TODAY.

It's never too late for a fresh start in your
life.

You deserve to have love in your life.

It's time you stopped being STARVED of love.

So in the spirit of a fresh start, let me ask
you a quick question.

What would you rather do at this point?

Would you rather:

A) Keep telling yourself that there's no good men
out there, and keep going along hoping a great guy
will just SHOW UP out of the blue one day and all
your love life problems will disappear - and RISK
possibly staying single forever if this never
happens?

Or...

B) Continue working HARD, but change NOTHING about
how you've been meeting and interacting with men,
because you think it's just a matter of time
before you "click" with someone - and again, risk
staying single for a long, long time?

Or...

C) Learn a NEW WAY to interact with a man in the
first 2 minutes of meeting him that will create
the kind of great IMPRESSION and powerful
ATTRACTION that could be the start of a great
relationship... and then keep on creating that
attraction with every word you say and every
minute you spend with him?

Which one would you rather do?

If you pick A or B, you can stop reading. I
don't want us to waste each other's time here.

But.

If you picked C, then I've got GREAT NEWS.

You're about to get 2 quick and easy tips on
EXACTLY WHAT TO DO and SAY to a man in the first
2 minutes of meeting that will increase your
chances like 200% for making a powerfully good
impression.

So let me set up the scenario.

Let's say you're at a party or at business
networking get-together or something.

You're there by yourself, and you're wondering
if you'll meet a man.

There are a lot of single men there, and you're
standing around trying to see which ones look
attractive to you, while at the same time trying
hard not to STARE.

And then it happens.

Someone accidentally runs into you and you
almost spill your drink.

You turn around, and as he apologizes, you
realize he's just about the MOST attractive man
you've seen all night.

You smile, he smiles, and suddenly you get that
"deer in the headlights" feeling as he grasps your
elbow and apologizes again and starts to walk
away.

But he's still looking at you, and smiling.

THIS IS THE MOMENT TOO MANY WOMEN BLOW IT.

This is when you want to say or do something
to get his attention, but your brain freezes and
you can't think of anything to say. So you end up
saying nothing.

Or worse.

You say something completely goofy and feel
embarrassed the second it comes out of you mouth.

Well... what if you had an easy and fun way to
make sure you got a chance to connect with that
man and create that spark of attraction inside him
when you wanted to?

What could you say or do in this moment that
would be sure to-

-Flirt with a man in a simple light way, without
feeling PUSHY to him?

-Get his interest, and let him know YOU'RE
interested?

-Avoid coming off as BORING and PREDICTIBLE like
other women great men meet and talk to?

Great questions.

Know the answer?

Don't worry, I've got the answers for you.

Here's what you should do FIRST:

ATTRACTION TIP #1: SIIMPLY HOLD HIS GAZE AND SMILE

This is a tip you can use in this particular
scenario as he's walking away, or you can do this
anytime if an attractive man is looking at you
from across a room.

You hold his gaze a little longer than feels
COMFORTABLE. Then smile. Then look away.

A minute or two later, you can repeat this if
you catch him looking your way.

If you do this three times, and if he's
interested, chances are PRETTY GOOD that he'll
walk up to you and start a conversation.

If he doesn't, that means that he's either
not single, or not interested. The key is to not
be too attached to the outcome. You opened up the
possibilities without being pushy or embarrassing
yourself.

So now that you have his attention, he's coming
over to say hi and talk to you.

What do you say? How do you act?

This is where I see a lot of women go wrong.

They revert to what I call totally BORING and
PREDICTIBLE conversation tactics.

They'll say something completely predictable or
"standard" out of not knowing what else to say, or
out of politeness.

It's usually at this point that the guy thinks,
"well, she LOOKED interesting. But she's nothing
special." His eyes glaze over, and he's off to
talk to someone else in the room.

You don't want that. Therefore -

ATTRACTION TIP #2: BE PLAYFUL, BE UNPREDICTIBLE.

Here's what you DON'T want to say within the
first 2 minutes of meeting a guy:

"Hi, I'm so-and-so. What's your name?"

And the dreaded-

"So what do you do for a living?"

Instead, you want to get his attention through
observation and compliments, but do it in a fun,
playful and unpredictable way.

If he's super tall, you don't want to ask him
"how's the view up there?"

He's probably heard that joke a million times,
and if he hears it from YOU, he'll categorize you
as just another BORING person and will be looking
for a reason to excuse himself.

Notice something about what he's wearing.
Notice the drink he's holding. The watch he's
wearing. His hairstyle.

One good tip is to say the OPPOSITE of what
you really think, or the opposite of reality. For
example, if he's wearing a very plain, standard
light blue button-down shirt, you can say,

"That's a crazy looking shirt." (you say as you
give him a playful smirk) "Did you buy that
yourself?"

If he's smiling, laughing and highly energized,
you can say,

"You gotta stop being so serious. You're making me
depressed." You say with a straight face while
looking directly into his eyes.

It won't be anything he'll expect to hear, and
it'll get his attention.

The key here is to BUILD ATTRACTION that goes
far beyond just looking good and being beautiful.

A man can think you look incredibly attractive
PHYSICALLY, and can approach you to get to know
you better, but if you don't do the crucial thing
of creating a level of intellectual or emotional
attraction, his interest level will sink.

Or - he'll find you physically attractive, and
he may just be interested in something "physical"
with you, but have ZERO interest in anything
deeper or romantic.

So he'll ACT interested, but he won't be. Not
in the way you want him to be.

That's how important INTELLECTUAL ATTRACTION
is.

You can be the hottest woman in a room, but if
you bore a guy with PREDICTIBLE, BORING
conversation, or make him "work hard" to keep up
his end of the conversation, he'll quickly
categorize you as someone he isn't interested in
pursuing.

As a matter of fact, the qualities of
playfulness and unpredictability are SO IMPORTANT
to attraction, they're one of my 6 Keys to
Attraction that I cover in detail in my "Natural
And Lasting Attraction" program.

These 6 Keys to Attraction are qualities and
personality traits that drive men WILD.

These are things you can do and say that make
a man STOP and TAKE NOTICE, and then later, he
won't be able to stop thinking of you.

He'll smile every time he thinks of the
conversation he had with you.

He won't be able to put his finger on it...
it'll be about the way you carry yourself, about
your confidence, about the way you made him FEEL.

He'll remember the way he felt so good on your
date together, and he'll feel compelled to want to
spend more and more time with you.

These 6 Keys to Attraction will make a man feel
that you're the kind of woman he's been looking
for, the kind he wants to spend his time with, the
kind he wants to HOLD ONTO no matter what.

All other women will suddenly feel not quite as
good, not quite as attractive to him.

And it's all because of the "magic" ingredient:
intellectual, emotional attraction.

You probably know yourself what kind of
attraction I'm talking about.

Have you ever felt intrigued and turned on by a
man, and you DIDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY?

He wasn't necessarily the handsomest, most
"together" man you knew... but you couldn't stop
thinking about him?

That's what emotional attraction FEELS like.

And there's a secret to triggering that in a
man.

If you're ready to stop wondering, worrying and
pondering HOW to be effortlessly and magically
compelling and irresistible to a man, then I have
the answer for you.

It's all spelled out in my "Natural And Lasting
Attraction" CD/DVD program.

In this program, I teach you powerful tips and
lessons on how to trigger deep attraction in a
man.

There is no other program quite like this out
there.

It's literally hours of valuable material -
in-depth and comprehensive, yet easy to understand
and FUN to learn.

I bring up this whole topic of instant
attraction and flirting because I recently sat
down with a woman who shared some awesome tips
with me on what a woman should do and say when
she meets a man.

Her name is Catrina Gregory, and she's
actually writing a very unique and intriguing
book for women about how to "take a lover."

Catrina thinks that dating and relationships
have changed in the last two decades.

For one thing, fifteen years ago, online dating
wasn't quite as popular as it is now.

Texting wasn't around. Cell phones were mostly
for business people with a reason to use them.
(Back then, people carried pagers! Remember that?
Crazy stuff.)

There was no Twitter. Or Facebook. Or MySpace.

Social networking was something you did at
cocktail parties, not on the computer.

But the Internet and technology aren't the
only things that've changed, according to Catrina.

The REASONS men and women date and have
relationships has changed, too.

Modern society has made it much easier for a
woman to take care of her own financial needs,
among other things.

Therefore, the RULES of dating have changed,
and so have the rules of FLIRTING and MEETING men.

Catrina shared some amazing modern flirting and
attraction tips and sample "conversations" to have
when you meet a man or when you're wanting to
figure out what kind of relationship you're in.

Her tips were real, work for any woman, and are
SPOT-ON in terms of what men love and respond best
to.

Here are some other amazing tips and insights
Catrina shared during our interview:

-You slept with him, and now you're wondering when
he'll call. Here's advice on what to do (and NOT
to do) in order to keep from messing up what might
be a good thing.

-How modern society has created a whole new REASON
for dating that transcends the traditional reasons
why women used to date in the past. Find out what
the "New Era" of dating is all about and whether
or not it can work for YOU.

-3 easy tips on how to TALK TO ANY MAN and the
one thing you shouldn't say in the first 5
minutes.

-The simple rule on how to give compliments to a
man in a way that will get you noticed, instead
of snubbed or dismissed.

-The 10 Rules for Taking a Lover - in other words,
the steps involved in having a physical-only
relationship with a man so that you don't have
weirdness or misunderstandings later on.

-Does your relationship eat up your life and are
you giving up who you really are for the sake of
a relationship? Find out what this says about
you and your dating style if you feel this way
often when you're dating or in a relationship.

-What does a man consider "FREEDOM" in a
relationship? It's a very different definition
for a man than it is for a woman.

-The specific situation that most men want to
strive toward in dating, how this might
challenge your relationships, and what to DO about
it.

-The 4 different ROLES that a man may play in your
life and why one of them can be EMOTIONALLY
DANGEROUS to you if you don't communicate your
desires clearly early on.

-How to know if you're a "PSW". Find out what this
means and why this can be a great option for you
if you've been having a hard time with dating and
relationships.

-How to HEAL from a broken, failed relationship
and release your negative, bitter feelings about
it through this empowering and fun idea.

-The ONE THING that can help you "get back out
there" after a failed relationship or if you've
been unsuccessful in dating and want to "restart"
your love life... this can actually change the
way you interact with everyone you meet.

-How to capture a man's interest in a simple, fun
way when you're out in public.

-What to do to feel more relaxed and SENSUAL if
you're feeling nervous when you're at a party or
out on the town and noticing an attractive man
nearby... so that you'll BE more attractive to a
man.

-Simple, non-embarrassing ways to "get your FLIRT
on."

-What to do if you've been flirting with an
attractive man and he didn't ask for YOUR NUMBER
before you walked away - a way to SALVAGE a
situation and keep the chances alive that isn't
threatening to either you nor him.

-You may know an OBVIOUSLY DANGEROUS man when you
meet him (he's abusive, has a substance abuse
problem, etc.) but would you know a SUBTLY
DANGEROUS man if you met him? Learn to recognize
the red flags of this kind of man before you get
too involved.

-And tons more.

Catrina had some amazing insights into how to
make the MOST out of being single if you're single
right now, but at the same time do what it takes
to find the one, right man to spend your life
with.

I think you'll be as fascinated as I was with
all the insights and tips Catrina shared during
our interview.

If you're already a subscriber to my
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Have Your Man Wanting "Forever" With You

2011-12-31T04:01:00.000-08:00

if you've invested a lot of time
into a relationship that's going nowhere and you
need to either finally get it on the right track
or move on...

Tell me:

Do you ever feel like it's impossible to
understand what a man is thinking when it comes
to "dating" and relationships?

Do you ever wish that you could just skip the
"games" and the uncertainty that come with dating
and get straight to something REAL?

If so, I want to share with you a way to get
the love and connection you're looking for... and
start finding and creating what you want.

There's something I want to know about you
first, though.

Are you dating a man who was very attentive
and loving in the beginning, but has slowly
CHANGED over time to being LESS LOVING and MORE
distant or annoyed with you?

In the beginning, you had high hopes for the
relationship. He called you all the time and was
very kind and generous with his affection.

You told all your friends what a great
guy he is, and how lucky you were to have found
him.

Things were going so great that you would say
to yourself,

"At last! A real man I truly connect with. I
better not screw this up!"

And it's then that the dating and relationship
nightmares from your past flash into your
mind...

You don't want to feel the pain you felt in the
past ever again... and you start to feel afraid
that the same things could happen again.

Your mind races with fear and anxiety.

But to keep it together you put faith in the
situation and in this man. You tell yourself that
it's different this time, and that he isn't one of
those other guys.

And to make sure things keep moving forward in
the right direction, you start trying a little
harder with him to get it right this time.

You make the effort to find out all about him,
understand him, and help him out with the things
that are going on for him in his life.

In the back of your mind you really hope he'll
recognize all the great things you're doing for
him, and how amazing you and your relationship can
be.

With all you're doing for him and your
relationship, he'd be crazy not to want to be with
you. Right?

But after a while, suddenly something starts to
feel WRONG...

That same easy and free way of loving and being
with each other suddenly feels different.

You realize how much you're doing for him and
all the ways you're trying... and suddenly it
hits you-

He isn't making much of an effort to do
anything for you or your relationship.

Not the way you are with him.

You try to be casual and ask him what he's
feeling and if everything is OK between you
because you're starting to feel a little worried
that something is wrong.

Instead of listening to you and your
feelings... he gets irritated and ANGRY with you.
As though you're "hassling" him.

After some arguing and back and forth, he seems
to shift gears in the conversation and says
something that really makes your heart SINK.

Something that you had a gut FEELING you'd hear
from him with everything that is going on.

He tells you,

"Look... you're great, but the truth is that
I'm not ready or in the right place for any kind
of 'serious' relationship right now."

And he goes on to tell you about all the things
going on in his life that are taking up his time
and energy... and that he doesn't know how to
settle down right now.

Ouch.

What's he talking about!?

How come he doesn't recognize or appreciate
all the things you bring to his life, and all the
things that you do for him?

Why did he do all the things he did, and why
did he SAY all those things that made you think HE
WANTED a relationship with you?

Now, if you've experienced a situation like
this with a man before... then I really feel for
you.

It STINKS.

How can you avoid going through this in the
future?

Put simply - by learning how the Commitment
Process works for a man.

You see, a man will decide whether or not a
relationship is working for him based on a very
simple formula:

What his EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE is with you.

If a man feels that his life is better with you
in it, he will do whatever it takes to keep you
close for the long-term.

But if a man feels that somehow the
relationship is a whole bunch of "work," then he's
going to start to doubt if he should put any more
time and energy into it.

You already know what this looks and feels
like.

And as soon as this starts to happen, you sense
it, and everything comes unglued.

So what can you do about that?

The answer is NOT finding the right thing to
say when a man is already feeling this way with
you.

Big mistake.

It's time to start avoiding this difficult and
impossible situation altogether.

And that's what I want to show you.

It's time you learned how to build that kind
of "emotional experience" and connection that is
going to carry you through anything together - no
matter what.

And it's time you knew how this worked and put
it to good use- whether you've just started dating
or you've been together a while now.

Fortunately, the guess work of "trial and
error" trying to figure out what works is over,
since I've already made it easy to do with my
"From Casual To Committed" CD/DVD program.

Not only will you get in-depth tools and advice
on how to create the kind of "emotional
experience" that will inspire a man to want to be
with you and ONLY you, always...

But you'll also learn exactly what will trigger
a man's subconscious RESISTANCE to a commitment
with you, so that you don't "accidentally" make a
man think that you're NOT the woman he should be
with.

You'll also learn how to connect with your man
in a way NO OTHER WOMAN has before, so that he'll
naturally see and believe that you're "the one"
for him, and that he should hold on to you
forever.

The Truth About Why A Man Doesn't Call Back

2011-12-31T04:00:00.000-08:00

What kind of attitude is absolutely irresistible
to a man when he first meets a woman?

It's the attitude that tells him you're both
fun-loving and that you have a great, full life.

It's an attitude of openness, and a certain kind
of easygoing and relaxed demeanor. It's knowing
that you have a lot of interesting things going on
in your life, and although you'd LOVE to share
your life with a special man, you don't NEED a
man to make your life worthwhile.

I call this the "Playful and Independent"
attitude.

And it is hugely ATTRACTIVE to a man.

I want to share some quick and
easy things you can do to make sure that when you
meet a man, you guys really connect and turn it
into something more.

If you've already read my eBook, then you
know about the "attitude" carried by those women
who are naturally attractive to men and who
inspire them to want to give a relationship a
chance.

I call the attitude "Playful & Independent."

I'll explain how this "attitude" works, and
why men find is so attractive in a woman by
starting here-

I want you to imagine for a second what it's
like to be a single, successful, attractive man
who is your own age.

Pick a man you might already know... or just
make one up in your head. But get a clear picture
of this man in your mind.

Now that you've got this single attractive man
in your mind, I want you to imagine what life is
like for him as a SINGLE MAN.

He has a great life, lots of friends, and
enjoys many aspects of his life from travel to
work to sports.

He even has a lot of fun "dating", getting to
know great women, and sharing and connecting in
new and different ways with the women he meets.

All in all, this man really has his life
together, and he doesn't often feel like he's
"missing" anything.

He enjoys the intimate times that he has spent
with women, and he hasn't yet had a woman who has
made him feel like he HAD TO have a serious and
committed relationship yet.

Now, with this picture in mind...

What do you guess it's like to be a man who's
a great "catch," and then going out with women
and try to get to know them?

Picture this now...

What is it like for this single attractive man
when he goes out and meets women?

What are the women like who he comes across,
meets, and goes on dates with?

What do most of these women have in common?

What do they say and do with him once they see
how great he is?

And how do they act as a result of recognizing
this great man and wanting him all to themselves?

Are they all fun, laid-back, easygoing, and as
carefree as he is?

Or are they different than they were with him
at first?

I think you know where I'm going with this.

For the rare single attractive man out
there...finding and meeting a great women who
also has her act together on every level is NOT
EASY.

In fact, for lots of men, they feel frustrated
the same way lots of women do-

They feel like there's just no "normal" women
out there.

And this frustration is only made worse when
a single man finally thinks he's met a woman who
he thinks is great....

Because after a few dates, something strange
and uncomfortable often happens.

The woman he met who SEEMED mature, healthy,
and who had a full life of her own suddenly
starts acting different.

Instead of enjoying the PROCESS of getting to
know one another and seeing where things are
going...

Her attitude and her behavior change.

Suddenly she's tense.

Suddenly she's anxious and uncertain.

And suddenly she is asking for answers from
the man about what's going on, when he just feels
like he's barely getting to know her.

And this is where the man feels a complete
"disconnect" both physically and emotionally, and
sees that this must not be the right woman for
him.

He's thinking-

"If she's acting this way within the first few
weeks... imagine what's down the road!?"

What's going on here?

To make a long story short, in these situations
a man's response is all too common:

He WITHDRAWS.

That means he STOPS CALLING, he stops asking
the woman out, and he's no longer interested in
getting to know her.

Which of course is the worst possible thing a
man could do to a woman who's already
wondering what's going on with him... and it
makes her feel even more freaked out.

And it's here where things can go from bad to
worse for some women.

Instead of seeing that their desire to know
what a man is feeling or wanting has pushed him
away early on...

They actually start trying harder to get him
to open up to them and give them answers.

(As though the man is the one who's in
control!)

They call, they email, and they sound totally
freaked out or upset when they finally do talk
to him - which only makes things worse.

The situation I described doesn't paint a very
pretty picture of what happens for some women
when they start dating a man.

The strange truth is, I've seen very smart and
amazing women who are usually calm, loving,
and "centered" turn into freaked-out, "needy",
panic-stricken women.

It's not because they aren't great women. It's
just that they let their FEARS and NEGATIVE
EMOTIONS take over and get in their way.

Now...

If any of the above sounds familiar, or you've
experienced any of the following below, then
knowing more about how men see "dating" and why
and when they will want a relationship could
really help you:

-A man doesn't call back and you have NO IDEA why

-You go on 2 or 3 great dates and get physical
with a man, then you have what feels like a
"strange" talk and he stops calling

-A man suddenly goes from seeing you as a fun and
fantastic woman to seeing you as more of a friend
he isn't interested in

-You say something about where your "dating" is
headed and he closes off and never opens up again

Any of these sound familiar to you?

Then I want you to stop right now.

Odds are, you're a great women but you're
making mistakes with men that you aren't even
AWARE OF.

Don't let this happen to you, when just a few
simple and easy tips will help a man see you for
the great woman you are inside.

For the essentials on what makes a man
interested in a woman for more than just fun,
the very best place to start is with my eBook.

This is a situation that almost always turns a
man off in the early stages of dating.

It happens when you feel more connected and
invested in the future of the "relationship" than
he does. It happens when you are thinking, "what's
next?" and he's just thinking, "I'm enjoying
getting to know her."

THE FOOL-PROOF WAY TO HAVE A GREAT GUY WANTING
MORE AFTER THE FIRST FEW DATES

I'm going to get to the point here on this one.

What is the quick and easy way to have a man
wanting more with you once you've met and been
on a few dates?

Well, as I've said, from the start - on just
the first few dates - a man is silently making a
whole lot of subtle and UNCONSCIOUS DECISIONS
about you and who he thinks you are.

If you make some of the obvious mistakes that
throw off his wrong-woman "radar"... then he
is going to quickly stop wanting to see you and
stop calling.

Avoiding mistakes that ruin the start of what
could be a great relationship - mistakes that too
many other women make - is the first thing to
keep in mind.

But let's talk more about things to do and say
with a man.

If you've met a man, and you're unsure about
where things are going, then there's really only
one thing to keep in mind if you like this guy:

ATTRACTION.

Now, there's been a whole lot of talk about
attraction in the world lately.

So I want to give a quick definition of what
I mean when I say "attraction."

Attraction is that magic emotion that we feel
when someone enters our heart and mind in a way
we can't really explain with words.

Attraction from a man's perspective is
something that reaches deep inside him and stirs
up emotions he doesn't understand and didn't know
he could feel.

And when he FEELS ATTRACTION for a woman,
he no longer uses his "logical" mind to decide
what he wants when it comes to love and
relationships.

Attraction takes over and causes him to start
acting and making decisions with his HEART
instead of his MIND.

Starting to get a better sense of what
attraction really is?

Good.

Now, how do you CREATE ATTRACTION inside a
man so that he starts to use less of his MIND
and more of his HEART with you?

Good question.

The first key to ATTRACTION is to have an
element of UNPREDICTABILITY to you and the time
you spend with a man.

See... most men, especially older ones, have
seen and done a lot of things with women.

And unfortunately, as a result, lots of these
men have started to assume that most women are the
same when it comes to love and relationships.

When you show up and a man can't fit you
neatly into his categories of women he knows and
does or doesn't like... you very quickly have a
man's ATTENTION.

But getting a man's attention is just the first
step.

The second step is to turn his attention into
INTEREST.

To do this, I've found that most women who men
feel comfortable with and see as "relationship
material" and fall for are women who have a
certain attitude in common.

I call this attitude "Playful & Independent."

If a man is going to even start to consider a
woman for a relationship... then there HAS TO BE
a playful element to the way you are together.

In short, without this a man won't feel that
being in a relationship with you would simply
be and stay FUN.

And us men, being the simple creatures we are,
have to believe that the things we commit to more
of in the future will be FUN for us.

Of course, the other element of this female
attitude men are naturally attracted to for
relationships is Independence.

In short, when a woman communicates that she
has a great life of her own, it is VERY
ATTRACTIVE to a man.

Reason being, a man would feel comfortable
getting into a real committed relationship with
a woman who is Independent because he doesn't
have to worry about becoming "everything" to her -
about becoming the one person in the world who has
to try and make her happy.

Think of it this way...

When a man senses that a woman is unhappy but
wants a relationship to try and become more
happy, how does he respond?

Exactly.

He RUNS from the relationship as fast as he
can.

But here's THE STRANGEST PART-

When a man finally feels like he's found that
right woman who has a great life he can share in
and enjoy...

Then a man will want nothing more than to try
and make this woman happy.

So how do you communicate that you're this
kind of fun, playful and independent woman who
doesn't NEED a man to take care of her... but who
wants to share a great life?

The short answer is that you don't just come
out and say "I'm independent and playful."

You SHOW a man that you're this way with your
ACTIONS.

With men, ACTIONS are the simplest and easiest
way to connect and start sharing a meaningful
relationship.

For instance...

Let's say a man doesn't call for a day or two
and you're wondering what's going on.

You might do the following:

A) Call him and ask him why he hasn't called, and
let him know that it hurt your feelings

Or...

B) Wait for him to call you and then act weird
and try to pretend nothing is wrong

Of course, if you've done either of these you
know that they will get you nowhere fast with a
man, and mess things up bad.

What else could you do?

Well...

Instead of calling, or waiting for him to call
and showing him that you were waiting and
worrying...

Here's an opportunity to show through your
ACTIONS that you have a great life of your own
and that great Playful & Independent attitude-

You could either:

A) Call him and invite him to do something fun
and exciting that he wouldn't expect

Or....

B) Wait for him to call and then be genuinely
happy and excited to hear from him

Now, you might not understand the difference
in these two... and feel like there is an element
of "game-playing", or acting like someone you're
not.

To that I would say this:

If I had a CHOICE in my life, which I do...

I would choose to do things that EXCITE and
INSPIRE OTHERS.

If you have a CHOICE in your life, which you
do...

You would do well to do things that EXCITE
and INSPIRE MEN (e.g.- creating attraction).

Now, there is a catch here...

To be a woman who CHOOSES to be Playful &
Independent... you actually have to have these
be parts of your life.

You actually have to have PLAY and PLAYFULNESS
as part of your own life.

And...

You actually have to be Independent and sure
of yourself enough to not need a man to call for
you to have a great time in your life.

You're starting to see the difference here.

Once you are living the life you want that is
also the kind of fun and exciting life that a man
would be drawn to and want to be a part of, then
a few things will happen:

1) You will start becoming more "Playful &
Independent" without even thinking about it

2) You will stop doing the things you used to do
that turned men off to the idea of a relationship
with you

3) You will make a great man feel that intense
gut-level ATTRACTION for you because you will
be doing UNPREDICTABLE things that make you stand
out as different from any other woman he's met

Would all this be something you're interested
in having in your life right now?

Does making it easy for yourself to draw that
special man to you sound good?

Then I want to help, in 2 easy ways.

The 1st Way) From The Inside Out

You might have recognized some things that you
are doing that end up sabotaging your
relationships.

That might be losing your composure with men
on an emotional level...

Or it might be simply not feeling comfortable
and confident enough to put yourself out there
and let a man see you for who you really are on
the inside.

If you're struggling and fighting against
yourself and your own thoughts and feelings...

And you'd like to quickly move past all this
and free yourself from the kinds of unhealthy
relationships you've been having in the past...

Then I'd suggest starting your path towards
more playfulness and independence in your life
by taking things from the INSIDE OUT.

Once you take care of what's going on inside,
the outside will take care of itself.

To clear out the mental and emotional blocks
that have kept you in bad relationships, and get
back in touch with that loving, open and
irresistible woman inside you who the right man
will naturally be drawn to...

I STRONGLY SUGGEST you check out my "Ready For
Love" program.

It's the quickest way I know to clear out all
the negative thoughts and beliefs that are holding
you back from the kind of incredible love and
relationship that is possible in your life.

The 2nd Way) From The Outside In

You might be in a great place in your life,
but you're just not finding that you're drawing
the right man to you for a lasting relationship.

This isn't an uncommon situation for women
these days.

Even for great, successful, beautiful women
who have amazing lives of their own and lots to
offer a man.

Here's the thing...

You can be the most amazing woman in the world,
but if you don't know how to catch a man's
interest for the right reasons... and help him
connect to you on a deeper level, then it's going
to be almost impossible to find the relationship
you really want.

Don't keep wasting your precious time waiting
for a man to recognize all the beauty that's
inside you-

When it's easier than you might think to make
a man take notice and open up his heart just by
saying a few of the "right things" that tug on his
heartstrings.

I touched on the first way to do this - to be
more UNPREDICTABLE with him.

This is just ONE of the SIX KEYS to creating
what I call "Emotional Attraction" with a man.

To find out the other 5 KEYS, and to know
what attracts a man on a deeper, more EMOTIONAL
LEVEL that goes BEYOND JUST PHYSICAL DESIRE...
then you need to check out the program I put
together to show you *how attraction works for
a man.

*Attraction works different for a man than
it does for a woman.

My very best tips and ideas for creating an
INTENSE level of ATTRACTION in a man's HEART,
MIND and BODY are in my best-selling program
"Natural & Lasting Attraction."

And by the way...

If you haven't taken the time to try any of
my materials the way thousands of other women
have tried... then it's time to get started
with your new love life today.

There's no better time than right now.

How & Where To Meet Great Men

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would you like to be more in
control of your love life this year?

Are you tired of being single and waiting around
for that "chance encounter" with Mr. Right?

There's a way you can DRAMATICALLY increase the
chances of finding that one special man who is
RIGHT for you... as soon as TODAY.

I mean, why sit around waiting on pure luck or
chance, when he's already out there and looking
for a woman JUST LIKE YOU? Right?

So what am I talking about here?

I'm talking about the magic connecting power of
the Internet, and online dating.

Maybe you don't think online dating is for you,
or maybe you just haven't been too successful
with it in the past.

Maybe you're even doing online dating now, but
have so far found it to be time-consuming and
disappointing because all the men you think are
interesting either don't email you back, or
never call again after a great first or second
date.

I understand your frustration.

That's why I've developed a program just for women
like you - to help you attract, connect with and
keep the RIGHT man and gracefully and easily
DISQUALIFY the WRONG ones online.

If you're single, I probably don't have to tell
you that chance encounters with single, attractive
men who share your interests and values are pretty
rare these days.

The likelihood of you crossing paths in the real
world with a single man you find attractive, who
is about the same age, who likes the same kinds of
things and who thinks you're his perfect "type",
is like one in ten thousand. Maybe one in a
million!

With odds like that, you'd have better luck
walking up to a complete stranger and guessing
their phone number correctly on the first try.

Hmm...not likely.

Fortunately, these days you also don't have to go
out scouring the coffee shops or hanging out in
clubs or going on endless blind dates to find
Mr. Right. You can go online and start your love
life IN MINUTES through dating sites and virtual
matchmaking services.

While it only takes a few short minutes to get
started, it can take a really LONG time to find
and attract the right man - UNLESS you know how to
AVOID all the common problems associated with
online dating.

Problems like:

-- Getting tons of attention from all the WRONG
men - guys you're not attracted to AT ALL, or men
who live far away - and not being able to get and
keep the attention of any of the "quality" ones

-- Feeling like it's a giant waste of your time
to manage your online dating account because you
never seem to "click" with anyone you meet anyway

-- Not being able to tell early enough that a man
is unavailable...until it's too late and you're
already feeling hurt or disappointed

So, if you're not into all the "problems" and
hassle that so many women experience with online
dating...

But, on the other hand, you're ready to finally
get it together when it comes to your love life
and really learn the SECRETS to being hugely
successful when it comes to online dating...

I have great news for you.

I've developed a unique and very specific program
that will show you how to AVOID all those problems
I just listed, and, how to create a compelling
online presence for yourself so that you can have
your pick of a lot of great men, effortlessly.

In my "Finding Love Online" program, I'll show you
a way to quickly sift through and pick out men
who are "relationship-ready", and gracefully block
out the "wrong" ones who aren't.

There are also things you can do to make your
profile STAND OUT from among hundreds and attract
a man from the very first sentence.

In my "Finding Love Online" program, you'll hear
from a man who actually makes a living as an
online dating expert, and he'll teach you what
words and phrases to use in your profile that are
amazingly compelling to a man.

You'll learn the single most important "skill" for
meeting a man and getting the right kind of
situation started -

And that is knowing how to make him feel
ATTRACTION for you from the very first email, to
the first meeting, and beyond.

You'll learn what to do, what to write, and what
to say on a first date so he'll be totally
MESMERIZED by you.

So don't waste any more of your time wondering
when Mr. Right will show up.

And definitely don't waste hours and hours
talking to men online who aren't going to be your
Mr. Right - ever.

I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in
Life and Love

How To Stop Him From Withdrawing

2011-12-31T03:48:00.000-08:00

Are you with a man who came on very strong
in the beginning, but after a while when things
got "too heavy", he started to push you away?

Is he the kind of man who can be very loving
at times, and yet very spiteful when he senses
any kind of negativity or criticism from you
about something?

If so, you may be involved with a man who is
still stuck in the BOY phase of maturity.

So what if you are - what can you do to get the
MOST out of this relationship, or how do you avoid
ending up with this kind of man in the future?

In my "Inside The Mind Of A Man" program, you'll
get the answers to that question and more,
including what REALLY goes on inside the mind of a
man when you first start dating, to that magic
moment when he realizes he wants YOU and no other
woman.

Ever feel like you'd have less of a real
"connection" or intimacy with a man if you didn't
try so hard to keep your relationship "alive"?

And that the man you're with might not even
notice, let alone know how to help you both grow
and change together when something is "off" in
your relationship?

Are men really so different that they don't
think about or notice problems in your
relationship?

Or is something worse going on here where a man
doesn't want the relationship to go anywhere and
has given up on it and you?

And...

Have you ever had the sudden realization that
if it wasn't for YOUR patience, caring and the
attention you pay to him and your relationship,
that you'd just be drifting apart from each other?

That you'd never grow closer... never get to
know each other on a deeper level... and never
become MORE COMMITTED if it wasn't for what YOU
insist on and struggle to create?

Do you ever wonder why it can seem like a man
just doesn't care about your relationship and
where it's headed... even though you know that
somewhere deep down he does love and care about
you?

Well, there's a reason why these things are so
common with men in relationships... and why they
can be so frustrating to deal with and get past as
a woman.

The truth is, if you're like most women who are
UNSUCCESSFUL in their long-term relationships,
then your "approach" to your relationship often
depends on a man figuring out how to have a great
relationship FOR YOU.

You know, all that "knight in shining armor"
stuff where a man's love and unrelenting
commitment to you will make it all work out.

Good luck with that.

There's a better way...

If you've had a few relationships in the past,
then you've already learned that putting the fate
of your love life and relationship in the hands of
a man so he can save it is NOT the perfect or ideal
situation.

You've figured out that if you're going to have
a REAL relationship, that a man isn't going to
have all the answers when things get difficult or
uncertain.

Don't wait for a man to figure out how love and
a relationship works.

And sure... he has to do HIS part and learn
and grow too.

He needs to know how to love and be loved, too.

But wouldn't it be great if you had the
CONFIDENCE that comes from KNOWING that you could
create what YOU WANT in your relationship?

What if you never had to wait for a man to
"figure it out" to have the love and connection
you want in your life?

It's likely that you've already got a head
start growing up as a woman... which is why it's
time to put your knowledge and intuition to good
use.

You're about to learn 3 of the most important
ways that men are different when it comes to
relationships... and what to do about it.

And, by the way, if you've got a man in your
life who knows how to keep you both close and
connected in your relationship at all times and
you KNOW it's going to LAST... then you don't need
to read this email.

Go enjoy your love life with confidence, and
give and share all of yourself freely.

But, if you aren't 100% CERTAIN that you're
going to be able to keep a loving relationship...
and you've had problems with this in the past...
then it's time to recognize and learn how to get
past those UNCERTAIN and UNCOMMITTED places with
men and relationships.

Keep reading and you'll be on your way to
finding the confidence and understanding in your
relationship that only a deep, close, emotional
connection with a man can bring.

"GETTING CLEAR" ON WHAT'S GOING ON WITH MEN WHEN
THEY'RE DISTANT OR UNINVOLVED IN RELATIONSHIPS

Let me tell you a quick story...

A man and a woman meet and they have an AMAZING
connection from the start.

She quickly falls for him, as he does for her,
and they instantly grow close and start spending
almost all of their time together.

When they're apart, most of the time they're
thinking about one another.

A few weeks or months pass and things are going
great... but as it happens in life, a few
difficult situations come up in each other's
lives.

Stress and tension starts to build, and as more
issues and situations come up, the closeness,
affection and communication start to change.

The woman begins to notice how the man has
changed and tries to talk to him to bridge the gap
and stay close.

But what used to work to bring them together
now only seems to make things worse as he pulls
away when she wants to talk.

And now she's getting worried.

She asks herself...

"Why is he acting this way?"

"What happened to what we had?"

"Did his feelings for me change?"

"Did I do something that pushed him away?"

And... "Why doesn't he seem to notice or care
and do anything about it!?"

The man just seems to want to pretend that
everything is fine and ignore what's happening.

When he does talk, he's short with his words
and unexpressive... not sharing his thoughts or
feelings about much at all.

He seems "detached" somehow.

And now she feels like if she didn't do
anything to keep the relationship going, that
they'd simply drift apart and he wouldn't do
anything about it or even really care.

Ok, end of story.

This story is basically a collection of common
situations and feelings that lots of women
experience.

Let's talk about it.

The things going on in the story bring up an
important idea - the ways in which men are
"naturally" different from women when it comes to
communicating and interacting in relationships.

And sure, men are the same in lots of ways.

They want love.

They want respect.

And they want to be heard.

But, men are also very different...

They're different in how they think.

They're different in how they feel.

They're different in their beliefs about what
makes for a "good relationship."

And, they're different in how they approach and
try to "resolve" relationship issues. (Sometimes
by not trying at all!)

If you want to learn about what's going on in
the UNCERTAIN situations with men... and how to
think and respond in POSITIVE, HEALTHY,
CONSTRUCTIVE ways for the sake of growing and
improving your long-term relationship...

Then you need to take a deeper look at what men
are REALLY thinking and feeling.

You probably already know from experience that
men will often tell you one thing about how
they're thinking or feeling... but actually think
and feel another way.

Frustrating, right!?

And, you probably already know from experience
that becoming frustrated or overly "emotional"
with a man doesn't often get you very far in
becoming closer and growing together in your
relationship.

But, isn't it important to share and express
your true feelings in any "real" relationship?

Absolutely.

Which leads us to a frustrating PARADOX.

How do you stay "true" to your own feelings and
emotions... while ALSO communicating in a way that
keeps you close and avoids the common male
withdrawal response?

Part of the secret here is to communicate with
a man in a way that speaks HIS language and helps
him have a better understanding of YOU.

Some women end up analyzing themselves to death
over every little thing that happens... what it
means, what they should say, and how the guy is
going to respond.

The strange truth is that part of the problem
here IS analyzing things too much... so, when they
show up to talk to the man in their life, she
overwhelms him.

Give me a little nod if you've watched your
friends do this... or you can relate in your own
life.

It's time to stop worrying so much and start
doing things that WORK to create the love life you
know you can have.

It's time for it to finally be easy to
communicate and share love with the man in your
life in the long run.

It's time for CLARITY.

Let's talk about what's going on here and turn
what can seem impossible and complex into
something SIMPLE and CLEAR.

THE TRUTHS ABOUT HOW MEN ARE DIFFERENT - THAT ANY
WOMAN WHO WANTS A LASTING, COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP
WITH A MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT...

Before we get to some real in-depth specifics
about men and relationships here, there's
something important I want to share...

I have a good friend who has taught me more in
a few years than I would have learned living 20
years not knowing her.

She's one of the smartest and insightful people
I've ever met when it comes to her unique
understanding of HUMAN BEHAVIOR and PSYCHOLOGY...
and how it relates to building long-term
relationships in all areas of life.

Including romantic relationships.

I've learned a lot of what I know, or been led
to, in one way or another, by her.

Anyway... many years back she shared something
with me. Something that has taken me years to
come to know and understand for myself.

(As you know, someone can tell you something
again and again ... but it can take you days,
months or even years to come to understand and
know what THEY mean by it. Or in other words, it
often takes more time that we expect or would like
it to, to raise our own level of CONSCIOUSNESS.)

Let me share what she said with you...

She said that when it comes to people and
relationships, there's a big secret EVERYONE uses
who are able to build and keep close, fulfilling,
trusting relationships in their lives through
thick and thin.

That secret is -

"First, seek to understand."

"Then, seek to be understood."

When I first heard this, it sounded like a
"new-age" kind of thing.

I thought I "got" what this meant and what it
was all about.

My mind quickly went to thinking about how much
I already tried to understand others... and how
what came from this wasn't all it was cracked up
to be.

In my experience I had been a "giver", and I
often felt at the mercy of others because of it.
ESPECIALLY in relationships.

I bet you can relate.

So, the idea of becoming MORE UNDERSTANDING and
listening to others more, made me feel like things
would just be less satisfying and more difficult
in my relationships.

As much as I could see the benefit of listening
and understanding first, it just didn't seem to
work out so well in real life for me.

Actually... the people who were a bit more
"selfish" seemed to be the ones who more often got
what they wanted and had it easy in life.

The reality was that I wasn't able to see that
the world could work any differently from my
perspective at the time.

It was only after years or living, studying,
observing, learning from others and thinking
about my life and the relationships in it that I
started to see things differently.

And one day something "snapped" into place.

I had an AMAZING EXPERIENCE as I was going back
through an old journal of mine and came across
what my friend had said about seeking to
understand first.

I hadn't thought about this idea in a long
time... and it hit me in different way now that I
was in a different place in my life.

To make a long story short, once you start down
your own path of growth in your life and
relationships... you're going to find new meaning
and depth in things that didn't used to be so
significant.

And this means you're becoming more AWARE and
CONSCIOUS of the world around you - which is one
of the first steps to creating amazing and lasting
change.

Of course, I'm talking about life more in
general here... but the exact same principles
apply to men, dating and relationships.

And, by the way, if you're getting that anxious
or frustrated feeling right now where giving a man
more of your understanding is the last thing you
want to do... then I've got some unfortunate news
for you...

YOU are creating your very own RESISTANCE.

That's right.

YOU are adding to the distance and lack of
understanding that's taking place.

As much as a man might be wrong, acting distant
or unfair, or hurting your feelings... if YOU are
putting your energy into the negative patterns of
fear, or doing the all too common "demand and
withdraw" behaviors tons of women slip into in
these situations...

Then you're only adding to the problems and
creating more of the "disconnect" between you two.

Ok, so what can you do instead!?

Good question.

First, seek to understand.

So, let's get right to how this works.

Let's look at the ways men are different when
it comes to relationships, and learn to understand
more and put it to work for you...

I promise everything with a man will instantly
start to become clearer and easier once you do.

Difference #1: With A Man, Improving Your
Relationship Is Often As Easy As Improving "The
Now".

There's a kind of relationship "shortcut" some
women know about and others don't.

And women who know what it is and how it works
often have the men they're with feeling deeply
connected... and ASKING THEM to become more
committed... and share more love.

But there's a catch to this "trick."

YOU, as a woman, have to be in the right mental
and emotional state to make these kinds of
"breakthroughs" in your relationship and the way
that you interact with a man.

Why?

Because if you're not, you're going to do all
kinds of things to sabotage yourself and get in
the way of your own success here.

You'll start feeling needy or unappreciated and
want the man to take over and make things happen
for you.

Don't make this mistake and miss out on the
love and connection that's possible for you in
your relationship.

For more about the right mindset to have
that will help make you both happy and more
fulfilled together in your relationship, check out
my eBook "Catch Him & Keep Him."

It's the place to start if you're serious about
success in your love life.

So, here's the shortcut you can use with any
man at almost anytime. (I've seen this work with
men who were so distant that I would have never
believed it if I hadn't seen it happen myself.)

When a man is acting distant with a woman in a
relationship, it's often because he's "off in his
head" thinking about something else he needs to do
or has to take care of.

And, in case you didn't know... for most men
it's so extremely important to be a strong
successful "provider" with a woman, that the
closer he is with a woman, the more his mind
will try and turn to the outside world
(work, etc.) in order to make sure he can protect
and provide for her.

For most men, whether or not they are an
"attractive" person relies heavily on if he's
financially successful and has a high level of
"social status."

Of course, a man isn't often CONSCIOUS that
he's thinking or behaving this way.

These things are part of our "inner biology."

They are "wired" deep in our brains and affect
us on deep SUBCONSCIOUS levels.

So, why am I telling you all of this?

Because you can use it to your advantage and
move straight past the detached, withdrawn, work-
focused man.

You can learn how to "invite" a man into love
and affection with you.

And here is where the shortcut comes in.

See, as much as I hate to admit it, and you
might already know this about men... well, we can
be simple-minded.

If we have a woman we are close with, like
a girlfriend, the reality is that she has the
power change our mood INSTANTLY.

Especially if she triggers the feeling of
ATTRACTION.

Let me explain how this works...

When a man is detached, unemotional, etc.,
often it's because his mind is focused on "things"
and not on people or relationships.

Things like sports, work, cars, or whatever
hobby a man happens to be into.

And, it's this "Focus" that often makes a man
seem withdrawn, disinterested or inattentive.

But, there IS something a woman can do to
easily get him out of this "Focus" mode to where a
man will be more present, "connected" and
emotionally responsive.

A woman can help a man move his thinking and
attention out of his "mind" and into his body.
(Don't worry, feelings and emotions will naturally
follow... and if this isn't making much sense
right now, it will in a second.)

It can start with a soft touch, a playful tap,
or even just a smile.

It doesn't take much, other than attention and
a little patience.

What's probably the easiest way to do this is
to do what men naturally do to get out of their
heads and into the present moment.

They become more physical.

Have you ever watched couples play-fight or
wrestle?

For lots of men this is the easiest way they
know to become close and connected with a woman...
as they aren't even conscious what they're doing.

They just naturally become more affectionate
and in tune with a woman than they could have ever
figured out how to be by trying to talk to her
about how this all works.

Of course, if you watch a woman do this with a
man and you don't know what she's up to... it can
look like she's just trying to get his attention
in a physical and sexual way.

And some women do this, too.

But, if you've been reading my newsletters,
picked up my eBook, or seen a few of my CD or DVD
programs, then you've come to recognize that there
is more than one type of ATTRACTION a man can feel
and experience with a woman.

There's a type of attraction that goes BEYOND
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION and gets a man's attention on
an emotional and intellectual level.

This is the kind of attraction I'm talking
about creating with a man... where he will move
"out of his head" and become open and attentive in
the present moment with you.

Lots of women try to TALK with a man in order
to get him to be present, loving, affection, etc.
with them.

But often times, this completely BACKFIRES.

The reason why is because these women don't
know this "other" kind of attraction works for a
man.

Don't make the mistake of thinking that
attraction works the same way for you as it does
for a man...

Or that you can try and use Physical Attraction
with a man to get an EMOTIONAL response.

You need to learn how to get the EMOTIONAL
response from a man that you're looking for...
without demanding it of him in a way that will
only encourage him to WITHDRAW.

Inviting a man out of his Focus, or out of his
"head", is a simple first step.

Difference #2: Instead Of Discussing, Exploring
And FEELING The Problems In Your Relationship, A
Man Will Often Want To "Starve" Them... Or Try To
Give You The "Logical Solution" As His Way Of
Making Things Better

I've got to ask you something. Be honest when
you answer:

Do you think men, or more to the point, the men
you've dated in your life, enjoy talking about
their feelings and your relationship as much as
you do?

Or that they enjoy it much at all really?

I'm guessing the answer is, "No."

If so, then this is a vital piece of
information for you in your relationship.

But, what have you done with this knowledge?

Have you tried to MAKE A MAN better at talking
about his feelings in your relationship, and then
become frustrated and upset when it hasn't gone
the way you had hoped?

And, have you ever wanted to talk about
something important in your relationship, and
brought it up... and then he gave you a short
"detached" answer or he became angry with
you and started telling you what to do?

Is this really the best approach?

Think about this for a second...

What if, without knowing it, you've been asking
a man for the exact thing you DON'T want?

What if, accidentally, the way you were
communicating with him was telling him, in his own
"language", to STOP SHARING, to CLOSE OFF, and to
be LESS EXPRESSIVE?

Is this possible?

What if there was another way to be with a man
that would get you the result you wanted (him
opening up to you more) AND... it made everything
a whole lot easier for YOU?

Think about it for a minute.

How do men "typically" react when a woman comes
to them with intense emotions and feelings and
wants to talk about them?

One of two things usually happens.

1. He gives you a short answer that often seems
cold and uninterested. Kind of like he isn't
paying attention to you and your FEELINGS.

2. He gets anxious or irritated and instead of
responding with caring and understanding, he seems
angry. In effect, he starts telling you what to do
and to stop bothering him.

Both of these responses have something in
common.

Can you guess what it is?

They both show how men tend to want to remove
themselves from any situations they see or
experience as unnecessarily intense or
"emotional."

I'm not saying that this is a good thing or a
bad thing, by the way.

But, it is THE REALITY of how most men think
and behave.

Which leaves YOU with a choice.

You can either learn to work WITH the way
things are...

Or you can keep fighting AGAINST the way things
are and continue the negative, self-defeating
patterns in your love life.

And here's something else to think about -

Given the two different ways that men often
respond that I mentioned above...

Does a man reacting in one of these ways have
to mean that he doesn't care for a woman or her
feelings?

And, does a man reacting this way mean he
doesn't care about his relationship?

In a man's mind, the answer is NO.

But, what do lots of women do when they are
confronted with a man's anxious or irritated
response that comes from not knowing what to do
with a woman's feelings?

Instead of trying a different approach, they
simply take what is NOT working and dial up the
intensity about 20 notches...

Hello!

Duh! (A scientific term that means you're
acting like a dummy.)

Stop making your life so difficult for
yourself.

Becoming more intense and "emotionally
demanding" with others rarely builds strong
relationships or gets you what you want.

There is a way to communicate and move to a
more committed and "connected" place with a man
that does NOT involve asking him to do so, trying
to convince him to listen, or demanding that your
relationship grow.

If you've tried any of these things, then you
know that they can just turn into an uphill
battle... and trigger the DISTANCE and RESISTANCE
you're trying to avoid.

These two differences I've shared with you here
are just the beginning.

If you want to learn what's at the foundation
of the differences, where they come from, and the
most important and CRITICAL difference you need to
know to move to a deeper level of connection and
COMMITMENT with a man, then it's time you checked
out my "From Casual To Committed" program.

If you've ever wondered why a man says he wants
his "Freedom"...

And you know that he wants to love you and be
loved...

But he also wants to do things "on his own"
first, before he settles down...

Then this program is for you.

I go into depth about how these contradictions
are all part of a man's growth process, what they
mean, and exactly what to do as each one of these
comes up in your relationship.

Oh - and what if you had a "map" of how the
COMMITMENT PROCESS works for a man?

What if you knew what would help a man see and
KNOW that your connection and what you share is
special enough to go deeper into and to commit
himself to on an emotional level?

It's not that most men aren't capable of a
deep, lasting, emotional commitment.

It's that they don't know how to get there on
their own... and most women don't know how to help
them.

In fact, most women accidentally push a man
away from the things that will make him want to
discover his emotions, his feelings and the love
he can share with a woman all on his own - because
they try and take over and tell him how to do it
when things aren't working just right.

Now you can avoid all those mistakes and let a
man find his own way to where he'll be leading YOU
into a more deeply connected and fulfilling
relationship.

Part of the secret here, I explain and walk you
through an exercise to discover what a man's
"Love Preference" is.

Each person, including you, has their favorite
way to be complimented, pleased or appreciated.

And as you know, feeling honored, respected and
appreciated is important for BOTH people in any
long-term relationship that is going to LAST.

You'll also learn why love, connection and
COMMITMENT can be such a CHALLENGE to a man... and
how to help him see things in a new way so he
isn't fearful or afraid of being in love and
staying with you.

P.S. If you try my program out right now, I'm going
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I'm really that certain this program will help
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love life.

How To Make Him Fall For You Again

2011-12-31T03:46:00.000-08:00

I'm going to share 2
powerful tips for turning a passionless and
distant relationship around immediately.

Imagine being back in that place you were in
when you and the man in your life first started
getting to know each other.

Imagine having him excited just to be with you
and be close to you the way he used to be.

Imagine everything suddenly feeling EASY and
free again, the way love is supposed to when it's
working.

Now imagine that this can happen right away for
you in your relationship, if you just put a few of
the right tools and steps into place.

Keep reading and I'll show you how your man can
and will be quickly transformed by you and your
natural feminine power as a woman.

Step #1: Shifting From Blaming & Criticism to
Vulnerability

A man doesn't want a woman who's upset,
irritable, and hard to be close to.

In fact, that's the last thing most men want,
and the first reason most men start thinking about
leaving a relationship with a woman they used to
love.

But most women don't become hard-edged, annoyed
and worn down by their man and relationship on
purpose.

They stop getting what they want, and so they
start to build WALLS and shut down the part of
them that was VULNERABLE and that a man could love
in the first place.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Think back to the last time you were in a
fight with your man or he did or said something
that really got under your skin?

How did you react?

Did you feel yourself tighten and become
disconnected from him emotionally?

Was it difficult to open up and really LISTEN
to what he had to say because all you could think
about was how wrong he was?

I get it.

When you're feeling resentful or disconnected
from a man because he's hurt you, the LAST thing
you want to do is to become softer, more
vulnerable or accepting of the love and attention
he wants to give you.

That's because when your man has let you down
in some way, your normal reaction is to PUSH HIM
AWAY.

You do that because you want him to know and
to FEEL how much you're hurting, and you want him
to see you and love you.

But instead of loving him to get you to love
you back, you do things like:

-Criticize him
-Pretend like nothing is wrong and withdraw
-Get angry at little things he says
-Withhold your love, affection, and sex
-Give him the "silent treatment"

But if it's MORE that you want, why is it so
often that you find yourself giving LESS?

For most women, this happens because they
already feel like they are giving too much of
themselves.

And that they're the only one giving, or
they're just not getting much if anything back
for all that they do for their guy.

Sound familiar?

You start to think that everything you're
doing for the relationship is a chore, or just
plain hard work, and you let him know in
obvious (and not so obvious) ways.

You start to see not just the thing he did
that upset you - but ALL the ways he upsets you
or irritates you.

So all the little things he does that were just
little annoying "quirks" before become one of the
many major reasons why things "just aren't
working."

One thing sets it off, but now he can't do
ANYTHING right in your eyes.

But here's the result of going down those paths
- they never get you the solution you're REALLY
looking for, or get you what you really want and
need from your man.

Which is - more love and affection. More
understanding. More connection.

There's a better way.

What if, instead of shutting down and
becoming blaming and critical of him, you OPENED
UP and shifted out of and away from the things
that weren't working?

What if instead of intellectually thinking
about how wrong he is, and how justified YOU are
in what you did or said, you could just stop and
get in touch with what you're feeling, and what
you really want?

Do you think your guy would respond
differently?

Do you think it would have an impact on your
relationship?

You bet it would.

But of course all this is easier said than done
IN THE MOMENT.

In fact, being able to be open and love MORE in
the tough times when you feel like your
relationship is giving you LESS is hard.

When someone hurts or upsets you, and you feel
unappreciated or unloved, the last thing you want
to do is sit around and figure out why you're
feeling the way you do, and look at what else you
can do to make things better.

Instead, you want HIM to get with it and start
giving to you the way you've been giving to him.

But with this feeling you often want to try and
fix things right away, you RESIST the hard
feelings that come up inside you and, instead,
push them OUTWARDS at him.

This is when you get into "blaming",
"criticizing" or "needy" mode, which sometimes
makes you feel a tiny bit better...but only for a
little while until you see that your guy only
pulls farther away afterwards.

It doesn't take a psychologist to see that this
is NOT a great strategy for inspiring your guy,
for finding more love and happiness, and for
building a lasting long-term relationship.

So how do you get out of a destructive and
dead-end pattern?

It's often the things we don't think to try
that, when we finally give them a chance, create
amazing results in our lives.

And that means trying something that feels very
COUNTERINTUITIVE.

That means stepping out of your comfort zone
and doing something different than what feels
"normal" and "obvious" in order to change the
outcome.

Here's what I'm getting at.

When you find yourself in that place where you
begin to tighten up and resist because your
emotions and frustrations are welling up inside
you, instead of trying to quickly feel better and
ignore or hiding those feelings, give yourself some
space.

Try feeling it MORE.

That's right - really get deep into what you're
feeling and find the words to describe it.

Take a minute to let yourself become aware of
WHERE these feelings are really coming from.

Then, once you've had a tiny bit of time to
feel it and understand it a little bit for
yourself, you can share what you're feeling with
your man.

Not only will you start to learn and grow by
leaps and bounds in your own heart and mind with
this simple exercise...

But your relationship will suddenly start to
look and feel differently to you, as your man will
react differently to you and stay closer and more
open to you and what you're going through.

In other words, by giving yourself space to
feel what you feel, you also make space for your
real feelings in your relationship and to be felt
and more understood by your man.

And it's these moments that create that
intense, deep CONNECTION and love that is what a
relationship is all about.

Let me ask you:

When was the last time you had the experience
of a really intense pain or emotion you felt being
taken in and understood and talked through with
you by your man?

When was the last time your man said, "Wow, I
didn't know you felt that way. I'm sorry. Is there
anything I can do"?

If you're like some women I've talked to and
helped over the years, then it's been way, way too
long since you've felt emotionally supported and
heard in this way.

Instead, they seem to react with withdrawal,
irritation, anger or frustration each time you
tell them how you're feeling.

And it's only making you more frustrated.

It's time you feel more supported, and your man
starts being this way with you on a regular basis.

Which leads you to something important here -
a CHOICE.

You have a choice about how you're going to
keep on handling your own feelings and emotions in
your relationship.

And you have a choice in how your feelings are
going to shape your experience and your
relationship.

You can keep doing what you've been doing and
hope that it starts to work once a man finally
figures it out and gets with it.

Or...

You can try something you might not have
thought to try before -

Which is actually opening and sharing more of
your deeper FEELINGS, instead of your busy
THOUGHTS.

If you try the new way I'm going to show you,
then get ready to watch as you get a different
outcome and response from your man that you
might have not thought possible from around your
feelings.

Here are some examples of what I'm talking
about:

Let's say you notice that your guy has a
wandering eye, and it upsets you.

Should you say something?

Should you stay quiet and try to not let it
bother you because "men are men"?

The key here is respecting yourself, your true
emotions, and sharing what you're feeling, not
what you're THINKING.

Otherwise, you'll not only put more distance
between you and your man...

But he probably won't know why you're upset and
he'll eventually feel irritated that you're
unhappy for some unknown reason.

So if it's your true feelings that are
important, what do you say?

THINKING Statement:

"You must not be attracted to me anymore since you
obviously want other women."

Wrong. This is sure to only create a new
problem that probably isn't about what's really
going on in the first place.

FEELING Statement:

"I feel really scared and gross when you look at
or flirt with other women in front of me."

What's going on here, and what's the
difference?

You're talking about the same thing, but being
open and honest enough to stick to your FEELINGS
about what's happening, instead of moving to
judgment, is what makes all the difference with a
man and making sure he listens and opens up to you
in return.

Let's try another example.

Let's say your guy doesn't call and he's 30
minutes late to meet you or pick you up.

How could he do that and not call?

If he had just called, it wouldn't have been a
big deal.

Why didn't he?

THINKING Statement:

"You're either dumb or insane if you think you
can show up here 30 minutes late and not call and
I won't be angry at you. What's your problem?"

FEELING Statement:

"I feel upset and confused because I don't
understand why you didn't call."

Do you see how the two feel very different?

One feels very offensive, blaming, and
antagonistic. It actually raises the level of
conflict, and creates tension and distance.

The other one is an "opening" kind of question
that actually allows for truth, honesty and
promotes answers and understanding.

Oh, and which one do you think a man will
respond better to?

Your thinking statements, or your feeling ones?

I can practically guarantee you that a man will
either shut down and feel annoyed or withdraw from
you, or escalate things and get into an argument
with you and not give you any understanding if you
used the thinking statements in the above
situation.

But if you used the FEELING statements above,
and you left space after them for your guy to say
something...

Very quickly he'd start to listen, explain
himself, and either apologize or give you the
understanding and respect you just wanted in the
first place.

But here's a catch, and where most women mess
this up even though they start out with their
FEELINGS:

Once you open up and admit your true feelings,
you can't keep going on and on about it.

You have to allow time for a man to process
what you just said, and not "rush" things just
because you feel uncomfortable and want him to
hear you and say something immediately.

Most men - about 99.9% of them - do NOT move
this fast from one emotion to the next.

So when you try and take them with you on that
ride, things will just turn ugly.

This is just a small part of some of the
secrets to inspiring a man to be an open and
endlessly understanding partner to you.

If you want all of my best stuff about men and
what creates love and devotion in him to where
he'll be the loving partner he didn't even know
he had in him, then you need to go check
out my "Relationship TurnAround" program and
discover what gets men to open up and stay open
with everything from love to sex to communication
to monogamy.

Step #2: Invite Love, Don't Demand It

Have you felt hurt or angry at your man and
found yourself saying a whole bunch of things
that started with: "I need. I want. I deserve.
You should. You need to. You'd better"?

If those phrases sound familiar to you, that's
because you were talking from the space of
ENTITLEMENT.

Meaning, you felt like you were "entitled" or
deserved to have your man do or say something to
make you feel better about yourself or the
relationship.

You can have very good reasons for feeling
this way.

Maybe you feel like you've been doing all the
WORK in the relationship, and all the sharing,
while all he's done is get distant or confuse you
with what he says and does.

Maybe you've been doing your best to make him
happy and you've been withholding how you REALLY
feel because you don't want to hurt him or start
a fight.

So you feel stifled and powerless in the
relationship.

After doing that sort of thing long enough,
it's no wonder you feel like you DESERVE and NEED
to get the love, respect and consideration back
that you've put in.

And yeah, you do deserve all those things.

It doesn't make much sense to you that he
doesn't see or realize how hard you've been
working to make things right between you.

But in a man's mind, when he sees you shutting
down, pushing him away, and then he hears you
telling him how he needs to be doing this, or how
he'd better do that, it doesn't make much sense
to him, either.

When you're feeling hurt and start telling him,
"You should" or "You really need to", you'll
likely not get the kind of reaction you're
expecting.

Instead of seeing how you feel, a man will
simply SHUT DOWN and back even further away from
you.

A man has to have HIS OWN REASONS for wanting
to do all the things that make you happy and keep
your relationship strong.

You can never, ever, ever tell a man how to
feel or act - just as a man should never do this
with you.

But you can INSPIRE a man, and you can share
what it is that you like, love and want.

And therein lies the secret of having a
relationship where the man in your life is
irresistibly attracted and devoted to you.

Fortunately, there's a way to ask for what
you need that will have him WANTING to give you
more.

This way is not about ENTITLEMENT, blaming or
demands...

But by INVITING him, by opening up and making
it very easy for him to give you want you want.
(Men love nothing more than feeling like it's easy
for them to make you happy as a woman- but only
when they feel like it's THEIR CHOICE.)

Wow. Sounds complicated and like it's too much
work.

Wrong.

It's dumb-easy once you know how.

You can start to create these powerful shifts
in the way your man responds to you simply by
changing the way you phrase things.

Instead of saying, "I need you to..."

You can say, "It would really make me feel
loved if you were to..."

I can't tell you how much most women resist
doing this because they think it's silly. but when
they finally speak the words they work like MAGIC.

Try it.

Here's another.

Instead of telling him, "You should really need
to (do this or that)"...

You can invite him by saying, "It would really
make me happy if you would (doing this or that)."

It doesn't take much to shift your energy and
become more inviting and therefore INSPIRE your
man to want to give you more of what you want and
need.

If you're not convinced, think back to a time
when you felt hurt or angry and you closed off to
your man. You blamed him. You didn't talk to him
for hours or days. You criticized and demanded.

How did he respond?

Did he become more generous and tender with
you?

Or did he become defensive or distant?

I think you'll realize that the energy you
bring to your relationship has a HUGE effect on
what you get out of it.

In order to turn a troubled relationship
around, chances are you need to get back to the
relaxed, feminine woman you used to be before
things got really tense and draining between you.

Problems in relationships tend to accumulate
over time and build up a lot of fear, anger or
resentment.

One reason it can seem so difficult to
move forward and get through the hard times is
because of all that built-up fear and negative
emotion.

Getting back to the "real you" and getting back
in touch with the relaxed, feminine woman you used
to be is very important.

How do I know?

Because the most common realization I hear
women have when they break up a relationship that
wasn't working is that they LOST THEMSELVES.

They didn't consciously choose to ignore their
own needs and desires.

It usually happens because the woman is so
focused on trying to make her relationship work,
or because she's so devoted to her man that she
virtually IGNORES other aspects of her life.

Like her friends.

Or the activities she used to enjoy when she
was single.

Or the way she looks and feels.

If you wonder if maybe you've put parts of
yourself aside in order to protect or save your
relationship with your man, and you want to do
something important and positive for YOURSELF
for a change...

Something that will actually change the
quality of your relationship in an amazing way...

Then I recommend you try out my "Relationship
Turnaround" program for free for 30 days.

Go to this link below and order your trial
copy, and if you're not convinced it's the best
thing you've done to improve your relationship
EVER, then send it back and I won't charge you
anything.

It's that simple, and it's completely
risk-free.

P.S. Why are men so afraid of COMMITMENT in
relationships?

It's almost like men are fine until you happen to
mention that you're in a relationship, and
suddenly they freak out when you put a name to
what you share.

What's the deal here?

Relationship Going Nowhere? What To Do

2011-12-31T03:45:00.000-08:00

if you've invested a lot of time
into a relationship that's going nowhere...

And you need to either finally get it on the
right track or move on...

Tell me:

Do you ever feel like it's impossible to
understand what a man is thinking when it comes
to "dating" and relationships?

Do you ever wish that you could just skip the
"games" and the uncertainty that come with dating
and get straight to something REAL?

If so, I want to share with you a way to get
the love and connection you're looking for... and
start finding and creating what you want with a
man.

There's something I want to know about you
first, though.

Are you dating a man who was very attentive
and loving in the beginning, but has slowly
CHANGED over time to being LESS LOVING and MORE
distant or annoyed with you?

In the beginning, you had high hopes for the
relationship. He called you all the time and was
very kind and generous with his affections.

You told all your friends what a great
guy he is, and how lucky you were to have found
him.

Things were going so great that you would say
to yourself,

"At last! A real man I truly connect with. I
better not screw this up!"

And that's when the dating and relationship
nightmares from your past flash back in your
mind...

You don't want to feel the pain you felt in the
past ever again... and you start to feel afraid
that the same things could happen again.

Your mind races with fear and anxiety.

But to keep it together you put faith in the
situation and in this man. You tell yourself that
it's different this time, and that he isn't one of
those other guys.

And to make sure things keep moving forward in
the right direction, you start trying a little
harder with him to get it right this time.

You make the effort to find out all about him,
understand him, and help him out with the things
that are going on for him in his life.

In the back of your mind you really hope he'll
recognize all the great things you're doing for
him, and how amazing you and your relationship can
be.

With all you're doing for him and your
relationship, he'd be crazy not to want to be with
you. Right?

But after a while, suddenly something starts to
feel WRONG...

That same easy and free way of loving and being
with each other suddenly feels different.

You realize how much you're doing for him and
all the ways you're trying... and suddenly it
hits you -

He isn't making much of an effort to do
anything for you or your relationship.

Not the way you are with him.

You try to be casual and ask him what he's
feeling and if everything is OK between you
because you're starting to feel a little worried
that something is wrong.

Instead of listening to you and your
feelings... he gets irritated and ANGRY with you.
As though you're "hassling" him.

After some arguing and back and forth, he seems
to shift gears in the conversation and says
something that really makes your heart SINK.

Something that you had a gut FEELING you'd hear
from him with this going on -

He tells you,

"Look... you're great, but the truth is that
I'm not ready or in the right place for any kind
of 'serious' relationship right now."

And he goes on to tell you about all the things
going on in his life that are taking up his time
and energy... and that he doesn't know how to
settle down right now.

Ouch.

What's he talking about!?

How come he doesn't recognize or appreciate
all the things you bring to his life, and all the
things that you do for him?

Why did he do all the things he did, and why
did he SAY all those things that made you think HE
WANTED a relationship with you?

Now, if you've experienced a situation like
this with a man before... then I really feel for
you.

It STINKS.

How can you avoid going through this in the
future?

Put simply: by learning how the Commitment
Process works for a man.

You see, a man will decide whether or not a
relationship is working for him based on a very
simple formula:

What his EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCE is with you.

If a man feels that his life is better with you
in it, he will do whatever it takes to keep you
close for the long term.

But if a man feels that somehow the
relationship is a whole bunch of "work," then he's
going to start to doubt if he should put any more
time and energy into it.

You already know what this looks and feels
like.

And as soon as this starts to happen, you sense
it, and everything comes unglued.

So what can you do about that?

The answer is NOT finding the right thing to
say when a man is already feeling this way with
you.

Big mistake.

It's time to start avoiding this difficult and
impossible situation with a man altogether.

And that's what I want to show you.

It's time you learned how to build that kind
of "emotional experience" and connection that is
going to carry you through anything together - no
matter what.

And it's time you knew how this worked and put
it to good use, whether you've just started dating
or you've been together a while now.

Fortunately, the guesswork of "trial and
error" trying to figure out what works is over,
since I've already made it easy to do with my
"From Casual To Committed" CD/DVD program.

Not only will you get in-depth tools and advice
on how to create the kind of "emotional
experience" that will inspire a man to want to be
with you and ONLY you, always...

But you'll also learn exactly what will trigger
his subconscious RESISTANCE to a commitment
with you, so that you don't "accidentally" make
him think that you're NOT the woman he should be
with.

I'll even let you try it free for 30 days, so
if you discover it's not right for you, that's
fine.

All you have to do is return it and you won't
have to pay a thing. No hassles.

Don't take the risk of wasting another day in a
go-nowhere relationship that's only going to cause
you a lot of pain and frustration in the end.

Go now and try my "From Casual To Committed"
program, and learn the secrets to being the kind
of woman a man will want to devote himself to
forever.

I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck
in Life and Love.

Important: If He's Stopped Listening..

2011-12-31T03:44:00.000-08:00

do you feel like there are a lot of
things you can't talk to the man in your life
about, without him pulling away or getting mad?

Even though he's the person you're supposed to be
closest to, and who's supposed to listen to you
and support you the most?

You know things aren't going well when simply
mentioning anything about your relationship
instantly pushes his buttons.

If this is happening for you, then you know
there's something going wrong at a deeper level...
but you can't put your finger on it or talk about
it with him.

And not being able to talk about what's going on
is only making things more UNCERTAIN.

If you don't know WHY the man in your life has
become WITHDRAWN and has STOPPED LISTENING to you
about anything to do with your feelings or your
relationship... then you're flying blind.

There's a deeper meaning to what we do and say.
Including what it means when a man pulls away or
gets irritated with you just for wanting to talk.

With men, since they don't often say a whole
lot about how they're really feeling... if you
don't know how to read the signs and open things
up so you can talk and stay CONNECTED... then
you're putting the entire future of your
relationship at risk.

If you don't know what is going on with your man,
but you know he's withdrawn and won't COMMUNICATE
with you..

And you can tell that he isn't really LISTENING
or being sensitive to YOUR FEELINGS... then your
relationship is long overdue for a COMMUNICATION
MAKE-OVER.

I've created exactly what you need to quickly get
out of that "disconnected" place in your
relationship and back to being open and
affectionate with each other in no time flat.

I also have some other thoughts to share with
you about men and how they do (or don't) talk and
communicate...

Are you aware that you and that special man in
your life don't seem to treat each other so
"special" anymore?

Where you both used to listen intently and
care just because you loved each other...

Now it seems like you're both struggling simply
to be heard.

What happens in this situation for 99% of
couples is that neither the man nor the woman
really feels like LISTENING to the other - because
you BOTH don't feel like the other one hears you
and is considering things from your end.

Give me a silent nod if you've been in a
relationship and you know that place where it
becomes like pulling teeth just to try and share
your feelings and have them RESPECTED and HEARD.

While this might freak you out, the truth is
that lots of relationships sink into this place
of constant conflict and misunderstanding.

But the relationships that end up going through
this period and go on to LAST and improve all have
one thing in common:

One of the partners in the relationship is able
to BREAK THE PATTERNS of misunderstanding.

And once this happens, there's a quick change
from each "real" conversation being a
DISCONNECT...

To each talk you share becoming a source of
CONNECTION and renewed love and trust.

Now - if only there was an easy way to help
a man understand where you're coming from.

And if only there was an easy way that you
could be the one to quickly and easily turn things
around in your relationship so that you two
could get back to listening to and loving each
other UNCONDITIONALLY.

If there was a way that was quick and easy,
would you at least look at it?

All you've got to do is take one tiny step and
discover what the simple secrets are to literally
"reconnecting" your relationship in no time at
all.

And by the way, none of these simple secrets -
secrets that have already changed the lives and
relationships of literally thousands of women -
tell you to be the one doing all the "work."

I'm sure you already know from experience
that you can try all you want to have an amazing
relationship... but if your partner isn't there
with you wanting the best and being open to
growth and change... then none of it will matter.

What I have to show you will not be about you
trying harder.

What I have to show you about men will simply
RE-ENGAGE your man in the important EMOTIONAL
aspects of your relationship, and have him opening
up and being sensitive to the feelings you're
having and that you both are sharing.

*Hint- "Re-Engaging" your man is the necessary
first step if you want to break his old patterns
of withdrawal and becoming distant when it's
important that he's OPEN and EMOTIONALLY PRESENT.

These secrets involve simple ways to INSPIRE a
man to want to reconnect with you on his own and
bridge the gap between you in his own way, too.

If you're feeling lonely, unappreciated, or
unheard even though you're in a relationship with
a man who loves you...

And you've tried everything you can think of
to reconnect, but it hasn't worked...

It's time to stop wasting your energy.

And it's time to stop doing what obviously
isn't working.

Part of the secret to reconnecting with a man
is to simply start speaking the subtle "language"
that he will instantly respond to in a positive
way.

The amazing part is, as soon as you simply
utter a few words in his "language"... then I
promise you he will all of a sudden start
speaking YOUR LANGUAGE.

The language of LOVE and APPRECIATION.

To discover what other women have about WHY
men often misunderstand you or don't listen...

By simply watching this program, you'll come
away knowing:

-The few simple words and phrases women in great
life-long relationships use for reconnecting their
man to them and staying connected

-The way to tell what's going on inside your man
at a deeper emotional level simply by his body
language... so you can tell what he means when he
does or doesn't respond (this will also lead to
him understanding you better)

-What it is about SMALL INTERACTIONS that can tell
you whether your relationship is truly SECURE, and
whether it will LAST... and how to transform your
relationship using the more subtle signs through
which couples really communicate

-The 2 Communication Mistakes that are certain to
make a man stop wanting to LISTEN to you and your
feelings - and what to do instead

-How to get back from the dreaded situation where
you and your man are both accidentally encouraging
each other to be more DEFENSIVE and SELFISH
through the way you talk... instead of inspiring
one another to be more GENEROUS and thoughtful

-And lots more

Let me ask you...

How would you feel if your relationship fell
apart unnecessarily because you and your man
simply couldn't get past all the distance that
comes from the little misunderstandings that
snowball into much bigger issues?

Don't let this happen to you, ever.

In my Communication Secrets program I show you
how to know what's really going on in your
relationship by helping you read and understand
a man's body language AND the subtle things he
communicates that are DEEPER THAN WORDS.

The great part about this is, once you learn
to see and work with these more subtle signals
that aren't just about words, but about how both
of your FEELINGS are communicated... you're going
to quickly be able to KNOW for certain what's
going on in each conversation with your man...

And know what to do to quickly inspire him to
RECONNECT with you.

If you and your man are going to make your
relationship LAST and be happy together, then you
are both going to need to feel UNDERSTOOD.

I've created the quickest and easiest way to
show you how, and to experience what it's like to
never worry about those frustrating
misunderstandings where you feel ALONE inside a
relationship.

P.S. If you're in a relationship but it seems
to be STALLING or getting stale, and the man
you're with is acting like he can take it or
leave it, don't wait for things to get worse.

And whatever you do, DON'T make the mistake of
trying to convince him that he should act or
feel differently and somehow that will solve
all your problems.

I'll put it to you straight - a man will NOT
respond positively to this way of communicating.

It will only make him distant and withdrawn.

If you want to learn the secrets of what makes a
man not only WANT to grow more deeply connected
and committed with you as time goes on, but get
him to purse you and want you again - then you
need to learn how the process of commitment works
for HIM.

Making Him Feel Passion For You Again

2011-12-31T03:43:00.000-08:00

do you long for the days your
man used to look at your lovingly?

Does it seem like the PASSION HAS GONE
out of your relationship, and you don't
quite understand why?

Your man says he loves you, and he says
he's committed to you, but you still feel
like something is missing.

And that your relationship may be headed
for trouble.

If you have a man in your life right now, let
me ask you an honest question...

Are you happy with the current state of your
relationship?

Have you been experiencing the kind of love
and passion in your relationship that makes you
feel more confident and emotionally fulfilled?

Or...

Have the interactions with the man in your
life somehow turned "sour" to where even the
slightest look or misspoken word can drive a wedge
between you and lead to conflict?

If things are starting to "sour" in your
relationship, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND you read this
entire email.

And if you've become aware that it's not just
you who sees that the passion is missing, but
your man does too... then I'm going to have to
INSIST that you read this email and follow what's
in it. For your own good.

Now that we're clear on all that, let's get
down to it.

If your relationship is wearing you down and
making you feel weaker and less secure...

Instead of stronger and more beautiful, sexy
and confident...

Then I'd like to talk to you about what you can
do about it to quickly turn things around for the
better - for both you and for the man you're with.

Let me start by asking this question.

Take a minute, think about this question and
answer as honestly as you can.

Here goes...

What is it that takes a relationship with all
it's patterns and habits - and makes it suddenly
change for the better?

I'll give you a second to take that in
and consider what it is that has the power to
change a relationship between two people.

...

...

Ok, you probably came up with an idea or two
about how relationships can change.

But I'm willing to bet that nothing came to
mind that you know for sure is a quick and easy
way to change the things that are creating
distance and problems in your relationship.

Don't worry. That's where I'm going to help
you.

SYMPTOMS OF THE "PASSIONLESS RELATIONSHIP"

As a woman, there must be nothing worse than
doing everything you can think of to make things
work in your relationship...

Meanwhile all you're feeling inside is worn
down, unappreciated, and over-extended.

For lots of women who have men they live with
or are married to, the fact that you not only try
and carry your relationship isn't where it ends.

You're also doing everything to keep your life,
home, family, etc. together... while he doesn't
seem to be doing his part.

It's enough to drive you crazy.

The very last thing you can feel like doing
after a full day is giving MORE to your man to
help you reconnect.

How could it be that even though you're
trying harder to make for a great relationship
with the man in your life... that fun, free, easy
feeling of love and passion and connection seems
to drift farther and farther away from you?

For lots of women, what once started out as
an "easy" relationship where you and a man simply
connected - and enjoyed being together no matter
what - can unexpectedly turn into something a
lot more difficult and frustrating.

Tell me something...

Have you noticed that things with your man
fit with any of the following?

-He doesn't share the same kind of excitement
about being with you and spending quality time
together the way he used to

-He listens and responds to you less as time goes
on

-He has stopped touching you, acting sweet and
affectionate, and initiating sex

-He wants to spend more and more time "on his own"

Do any of these seem to be going on for you
with the man in your life?

If so, then I want you to stop fooling yourself
and get CLEAR about what's going on.

I hope you don't get mad at me for being the
one to tell you... but I'm going to for your own
good:

Your relationship is losing the PASSION that
brought it together in the first place.

And unless things change, it's likely that:

A) The ATTRACTION you share will DIE

The man you're with will likely STOP FEELING
those "special feelings" that brought you together
in the first place

And...

B) The cycle of less connection and less intimacy
leading to... more frustration... leading to less
connection and intimacy again... will continue to
spiral you and your relationship DOWNWARDS

And YOU will keep falling deeper and
deeper into that frustrated and unhappy place
inside yourself that you know isn't good for you
or your relationship because you don't feel
beautiful, loved, or sexy. And the more you feel
this way, the worse things are going to continue
to get.

If you can relate to what I'm talking about
here, then there's something you need to recognize
right now:

If you're spending a lot of time and energy on
keeping together or trying to improve the
relationship you're in, but it's ultimately only
digging you deeper into the frustrating situation
you're already in...

Then you first need to STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING
RIGHT NOW.

Then the answer is NOT for you to do more of
the same.

Reason being, you're almost guaranteed to end
up with the exact same RESULTS or OUTCOME.

I'm going to be unusually direct and honest
here:

Without the essential element of that
free-flowing PASSION that you both don't have to
WORK to feel, your relationship is in a lot more
danger of ENDING than you might realize.

Tell me...

How many times have you heard from a friend
that the man in her life suddenly told her that
he wanted to break up, and his only real reason
or excuse was that he "just didn't feel it
anymore"?

Or that he "loved her, but he wasn't IN LOVE
with her"?

Meanwhile, your friend felt like the
relationship was going strong, even though there
were those little bumps in the road that every
relationship has.

Sound familiar?

This kind of thing might have even happened
to you in the past.

The point here is that too many women end up
in relationships where their man is acting
disconnected and withdrawn, and there's little
PASSION being shared anymore.

And everything the woman tries in an effort
to make a change for the better only ends up
making her feel more frustrated and disappointed
because the man doesn't seem to notice or care.

Or worse, he actually becomes ANGRY or
IRRITATED every time you try and bring up the
subject of your relationship, the reality of
what's not working, and how it's making you feel.

If you've ever been in this kind of situation,
or you're in one right now... then the reality is
that you have A CHOICE TO MAKE:

You can either:

A) FREAK OUT as you see all the signs that your
man isn't "feeling it" for you the way he used
to, and as the passion keeps fading from your
relationship (and push things further down the
negative spiral)

B) Not really make a choice to do anything but
stay "quiet" and hope things change for the
better, as you go down the road of uncertainty
and your man keeps drifting farther and farther
from you

C) Take a step back from your knee-jerk reaction
of fear, and do something to quickly turn things
around right now

Most women don't know what it is that can take
this unfortunately-common situation and turn it
around.

There are 2 immediate options you have, both of
which I've seen work for women and allowed them
to quickly turn their relationships around in no
time flat.

Even with the most withdrawn or disengaged men.
(I'm talking healthy men here who have fallen into
these negative relationship patterns with you. Not
unhealthy, damaged men - that's a longer story.)

I've seen women turn their relationships around
with either of these things WITHOUT having to
"do more work" in their relationship and take
on more of the burden of carrying the
relationship.

Doing MORE is not the answer when you're
already doing all you can and it's not working.

The answer is doing just a few simple things
the right way.

The best part is, once you finally know what
the right thing to do is, all it takes is a tiny
bit of effort and the results are many, many more
times what you could get struggling with all your
force.

It's like lifting a giant piece of furniture.

Try it by hand and it won't budge.

But when you have the right pulleys and levers
it goes "like butter."

YOUR TWO OPTIONS TO QUICKLY CREATE A POSITIVE
"SHIFT" IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

I'm going to give you 2 options that I know
from my experience in helping women can quickly
allow you to do a kind of "reset" on your
relationship and shift out of some of the negative
dynamics that have been going on.

Using either of these options, I've literally
seen women:

-Go from feeling like they had to "nag" their
boyfriends at every turn just so he'd be a part
of their life and relationship... to suddenly
having him excited to give, share and open up

-Stop feeling like they were the only one GIVING
and start RECEIVING tons more love and affection
from their man

-Shift from having to ask 5 times before the trash
finally got taken out, to having their man asking
them what more he could do to help out and make
their lives great together

-Go from never hearing a kind word or unexpected
compliment, to receiving constant and continual
praise and appreciation for who they were

-Become consistently presented and surprised by
romantic gestures such as flowers, gifts, and
dates... all because their man was simply thinking
about them

Do any of these sound like something you'd like
to enjoy more of in your relationship?

And how would it be to have any or all of these
happen for you WITHOUT having to ASK FOR IT?

Then here are your 2 options:

Option #1) Reconnect The "Essential Element" That
Leads A Man To Feel & Act Passionately With You

There's one basic element all relationships
have to have, or else they are just what you
might call "friendships."

Do you know what this one element is, and
how it works for a man?

If you don't, it's likely that a man will
start to feel like you and he are more like
friends than lifelong lovers.

I'm going to share this with you right now.

What I'm talking about is guaranteed to
have your man wanting to spend more quality time
alone with you... and to make him think more and
more about your future together.

This one essential element has the power to
instantly change everything about how a man is
thinks, acts, and FEELS with you.

And strangely enough it's something I'm sure
you already know about... but something you've
likely forgotten in the routine of your
relationship and the confusion and frustrating
situations that can come up with men.

I'm talking about the magic feelings and
emotions called ATTRACTION.

And I'm not just talking about the everyday
Physical Attraction that makes a man interested
in sex just as a physical thing.

I'm talking about the kind of INTENSE
ATTRACTION that reaches inside a man's heart and
mind on a deeper level to where he can't help but
be swept away by the FEELINGS he has for you...
and he has to act on them or else he'll know he's
doing the wrong thing.

There are 2 HUGE misunderstandings women have
when it comes to men, love and ATTRACTION.

The first - and biggest - misunderstanding is
thinking that attraction works the same way for
MEN as it does for you.

Lots of women mistakenly believe that if they
simply do more of the things they know they want,
or that THEY THINK make for a great and loving
relationship... that the man is sure to respond.

WRONG.

This is a false belief, plain and simple.

Attraction works differently for men than it
does for women. And if you keep trying to give
a man what I call "Selfish Love" (giving to others
only in the way you know YOU like to RECEIVE)
then a man simply isn't going to respond to you
and "feel it" for you.

Don't make this huge mistake that women and
men both make with each other.

You wouldn't want your man pretending that for
you, a great night together at home consists of
beer, chips, and the football game.

The other giant misunderstanding about how
attraction works is thinking that the "nicer"
you are, or the harder you try and please your
man or make him happy, the more he will be
attracted to you.

Lots of women do this unconsciously as they try
to gain a man's interest or attention by taking on
what I call the "Super Friend" approach.

They do favors for the man, compliment him all
the time, try and stroke his ego... or even trade
their affection for his time and attention.

Without thinking about it, they're going along
as though a man will somehow feel that magic
feeling of attraction for them when they shower
him with praise and treat him like a super kind
of "best friend."

I don't know about you, but when my friends
are very good to me, it doesn't make me feel
physically and emotionally attracted to them.

Especially if I can sense that they're doing
it simply to try and get me to like them more.

The plain truth is that doing "nice" things
for a man might seem like it would win his
interest or help your relationship...

But when it comes to real and genuine feelings
of love and affection... doing these kinds of
things when you're dating or in a relationship
doesn't win his love or affection.

They're simply "nice" things that men will at
best say "Thank You" for and go about their day.

If you're dating a man and you want to take the
attraction to the next level to where the
EMOTIONAL CONNECTION you have will quickly be
restored and intensified... here's where to
start:

STOP doing all the "best friend" approach
stuff of trying to make him like you, of winning
his approval, of trying to carry the weight for
you both, and of trying to make him happy and
comfortable.

This is making you miserable. And he can sense
it.

It's only making things worse.

It's time you start doing the things that will
have him literally stand up and take notice of the
fun, playful and unique woman that you are.

Trying to re-engage a partner in a relationship
by talking to them about how much more "work" they
need to do isn't a great approach or place to
start.

You can bypass all the "what's wrong now" stuff
and go straight to reconnecting by dealing with
things on an EMOTIONAL LEVEL.

A great way to do this is to stop doing all
the PREDICTABLE things that other women are doing
as they're trying to "catch & keep" a man that
are ironically turning men off.

Instead, try doing things that are
UNPREDICTABLE that will grab a man's attention in
a positive way and have him seeing you as
wonderfully different from other women - or from
the frustrated and worn-down woman who feels
dissatisfied with him.

In my "Natural & Lasting Attraction" CD/DVD
program, I share the 6 keys to creating the
intense and emotionally charged kind of ATTRACTION
that will not only have a man feeling and acting
loving and affectionate towards you...

But it will also do what seemed impossible:

Turn the man you thought was a "lazy" partner
into a man who's enthusiastic and excited about
your life together, and all that's in it that you
can share.

I wish I could personally introduce you to all
the women I've helped in their relationships by
allowing them to simply re-introduce the essential
element of ATTRACTION back in their relationship.

And what would be even better...

I wish I could show you all the men who these
women were with who suddenly become RE-ENGAGED in
their relationships not just emotionally, but
on all levels...

Unfortunately, I can't show you all of them.

But what I can do is introduce you to a few of
these women so you can hear their own stories and
experiences as I've helped them learn some of
the secrets of ATTRACTION with men.

Go to the link below to see a short video of
their stories of what they've discovered and how
knowing about men and attraction has helped them.

Of course, if you want to get right to
discovering the 6 Keys To Lasting Attraction that
I share in my "Natural & Lasting Attraction"
program... and to putting all the very best
secrets I've learned to work, both from seeing
what works that other women do in their
relationships - and from knowing what men love
and RESPOND TO -

Then I'll make you a deal.

If you go here right now and let me know that
you'd like to check out everything that's inside
my "Natural & Lasting Attraction" program, I'll
do something special for you.

I'll ship it to you at my upfront expense and
let you try it out for a full 30 days before you
have to decide if you want to keep and pay for it.

If you don't open it up and listen and
discover TONS of priceless information that is
sure to change your love life, your relationship,
and the way the man in your life looks at you
FOREVER... then simply send it back to me and you
won't have to pay a single dime.

It's really that simple.

And what would it be worth to you if you did
find that one simple and easy way of relating
to your man that took ZERO WORK but gave you the
exact kind of experience you wanted with him?

Stop trying to push and pull your way to a
great relationship... when trying harder isn't
what is going to work.

It's supposed to be THE JOURNEY that you enjoy,
not the DESTINATION of a more secure and loving
relationship that might seem a bit far out of
reach right now.

Once you're sharing the kind of deep CONNECTION
and ATTRACTION that only comes from knowing what
makes a man feel this way with you and only you...
it all becomes easy.

Enjoy the ride and discover the secrets to men
and attraction today. Don't wait.

Of course, I told you I'd also share with you
the second option if you're looking for the right
way to quickly get things on track with a man and
draw him close to you for a great relationship.

Option #2) Break Through Your "Stalled"
Relationship And Discover How Commitment And
Growth Works FOR HIM

Lots of women have an easy time meeting a man
and starting off a new relationship.

But then things always seem to fizzle after
that early phase of lust and passion is over.

One of the scariest truths that too many women
shy away from is that for most men, especially
successful and attractive men with lots of
options, they don't want to be in a relationship
just for the sake of being in one.

In other words, lots of men who are "catches"
won't just want a loving, lasting and COMMITTED
relationship just because it could make their
life better.

In fact, lots of these men have never met a
woman who has shown them that a relationship
truly does make life richer and more worth living.

Lots of good men still haven't been able to
recognize in a woman the qualities that show them
that their life could actually be BETTER as a
result of being deeply in love and COMMITTED for
the LONG RUN.

Don't let what men either haven't found or
seen in other women deter you from having the
great relationship you know is possible when you
meet a man.

Discovering how men think about lasting and
long-term relationships is half the secret.

If you don't know what it is that makes a man
see a woman as someone who he could see himself
being with and staying with not just FOR NOW, but
far into the future... then odds are you'll make
the same mistake tons of other women make that
only make the man in their life MORE RESISTANT
to committing to lasting love.

One of the most common mistakes is talking to
a man about becoming more involved and committed
in your relationship as though it's the "right"
or "logical" thing to do.

Some women, when they sense that their
relationship isn't growing... will try and jump-
start things by DEMANDING that the man "get with
the program" and make a bigger commitment.

I can see the man WITHDRAWING right now.

The false belief women hold about why men
withdraw when this happens is that men are AFRAID
of COMMITMENT.

Nothing could be farther from the truth.

The truth is, men aren't afraid of commitment
when they feel like a woman UNDERSTANDS THEM and
knows how to be the kind of partner who makes
their life BETTER, not more confusing and complex.

In other words, men are only afraid of
commitment when they don't already sense that the
woman is right for them.

So when a woman can come into a man's life and
show him the signs of a great woman that all men
know and universally respond to... that supposed
fear of commitment and the future simply
disappears.

I'm sure you've known at least one man in your
life who was a sworn bachelor.

He'd talk about how he loved being single,
and about how relationships were nothing but
trouble.

But then it happened...

He met this one woman and suddenly EVERYTHING
CHANGED.

Suddenly love was real and important.

Suddenly he had a woman he truly cared about,
and who he didn't want to lose or let go.

Suddenly he was "hooked", and it was him who
was driving the relationship forward and wanting
more.

It is possible. Men can and do grow deeply
connected and committed in relationships.

But it takes getting them to recognize that
you're the right woman.

To know how the COMMITMENT PROCESS works for
a man, how to avoid all the common mistakes women
make that cause healthy men to fear and avoid a
lasting relationship... and to grow your
relationship without all the uncertainty and
withdrawal, I STRONGLY RECOMMEND you check out
the incredible program I put together on how a
man grows deeply committed to a woman for good.

P.S. Sly oxy, did you read this email about
relationships even though you're single right now?

Would you like to be more in control of your love
life by no longer waiting around for that "chance
encounter" with Mr. Right?

Wouldn't you love to DRAMATICALLY increase the
chances of finding that one special man who is
RIGHT for you... as soon as TODAY?

I mean, why sit around waiting on pure luck or
chance, when he's already out there and looking
for a woman JUST LIKE YOU?

How?

I'm talking about the magic connecting power of
the Internet, and online dating.

Maybe you're shaking your head right now because
you think online dating isn't for you, or maybe
you just haven't been too successful with it in
the past.

I understand your frustration.

What To Do When He's Emotionally Unavailable

2011-12-31T03:42:00.001-08:00

Is the man you love "unavailable"
for anything lasting or committed with you?

Are you tired of all the guessing and
UNCERTAINTY that comes along with not knowing
how your man feels, and what he'll want or not
want next?

Is it making you frustrated wondering if you'll
EVER find and enjoy the kind of love and
relationship that's truly lasting and secure?

Here's the strangest thing about men:

Just because you've been happily dating a man
for several weeks, months or even years... it
doesn't automatically mean he's thinking or
feeling "commitment", or seeking a deeper lasting
expression of his LOVE with you.

That's right.

And if you're like most women, then by
experience you already know this to be true. And
it scares you.

You can spend time with a man, get close,
become intimate and bond... and he can still NOT
WANT to create or nurture a relationship with you.

Even if your relationship is one that makes
you both happy when you're together.

What's up with that?

So why are so many men "unavailable"?

I'll give you the short answer here:

It's because men have a different RELATIONSHIP
TIMELINE for wanting to get "serious" with a
woman... and different REASONS for making the
shift to where love and an exclusive committed
relationship is the thing they really want.

That might sound "selfish" and like a man
needs to get over his "issues"...but it's also
just how men are when it comes to real lasting
relationships.

Does that mean that it's "all about him" and
that if you want to share a real relationship,
you have to put aside what you want - or else
wait for him to get his act together?

Absolutely not.

The first thing you should know is that a man's
"Commitment Tempo" (when he'll want to take
things to the next level with you) has NOTHING
to do with how long you've been together.

The amount of TIME you've been together is
irrelevant to a man's feelings...and whether or
not he feels "ready" to commit.

Unfortunately most women don't know this, and
instead they try to convince or reason with a
man that it's THE RIGHT TIME to take the next step
and grow the relationship.

By doing this, they accidentally create MORE
RESISTANCE inside the man... which can end up in
disagreements, power struggles, and lots of bad
"drama."

All of which ends the same way - the man
WITHDRAWING even further, if not leaving
altogether.

Don't shoot yourself in the foot this way.

The end result of all that drama is that the
man starts feeling that the relationship is more
of an unnecessary "hardship" than an OPPORTUNITY
for more love and happiness.

You don't want that.

If you've ever been with a man and shared
something amazing for several months and grown
closer and closer, but then he RESISTED and
WITHDREW once you actually talked about how things
were moving forward between you... then you know
exactly what I'm talking about.

Here's a secret when it comes to "unavailable"
men and moving your relationship forward in a way
that will INSPIRE the man you're with to be a
better partner and lover:

Don't try and TALK your way into a better
relationship with him.

A man doesn't commit to a woman in a
conversation, or even with his words.

It's something he just FEELS inside and wants
for himself.

Do you know what it is that really and truly
creates this DESIRE and FEELING inside a man?

Before you waste any more of your time waiting
for a man to "get his act together", or trying
the hopeless approach of working to "convince" a
man that your relationship is special and worth
taking to the NEXT LEVEL...

Don't Risk Losing The Love Of Your Life Over This

2011-12-31T03:26:00.000-08:00

if you've been dating a man and you
know he loves you...

But after time things in your relationship have
seemed to come between you...

Then I don't want you to make the mistake way
too many women make that practically guarantees
that you're going to lose the love and the great
man you've had in your life -

And that mistake is trying to ARGUE with him
about what is NOT WORKING, and trying to change
him.

Let me spell it out clearly:

If you are fighting with your man, trying to
blame, demand or argue your way back into a better
relationship...

You might as well save your time and energy and
stop now.

It's not going to work.

So then how do you quickly get your
relationship back on track if you know your guy
loves you but he's not acting "in love" with you
anymore?

It's time you have the simple but powerful
tools to make sure that any relationship you
create has the ability to stay loving and lasting
for as long as you want.

That way you'll never have the man you love
ever wanting to leave a relationship with you
again.

I give you the only 6 TOOLS you'll ever need
to create the relationship you want and deserve
in my "Relationship Turn-Around" program.

I want you to read about the TRAPS most women
fall into that cause already troubled
relationships to fall apart even faster.

Then I want to show you how to avoid these, and
exactly what to SAY and DO instead to instantly
create an almost magical shift in the way your man
acts around you and in your relationship.

Are Older, Successful Men Scared Of Commitment?

2011-12-31T03:24:00.000-08:00

would you recognize a "good man"
if you saw one?

Do you frequently meet and get into relationships
with men you THOUGHT were going to be right
for you...

Only to discover many months down the road that
they're not, and it causes you a lot of pain and
frustration?

A man will often be on his "best behavior" the
first 6 months you're dating. It's often hard to
"see" him for who he really is when you're
experiencing a lot of attraction and chemistry.

This is why it's CRUCIAL for you to figure out
early on, before you get too involved, whether or
not he's MATURE ENOUGH to have a good
relationship, and whether he's ready to be the
kind of man you need him to be for you.

In my "Inside The Mind Of A Man" program, I reveal
the 3 greatest fears most men have about
relationships that will put ALL his actions in a
new perspective for you.

I'll also show you the 7 deadly signs of an
IMMATURE MAN and the 4 key areas of development
men go through in their lives, so you can know
from date #1 whether or not he's really as
"together" as you think he is.

I'd like to answer a question
that I hear all the time from women who are
getting back out into the dating world after
getting divorced or leaving a long-term
relationship.

Maybe this is something you've been curious
about, too.

You've met a man who's over 40.

Let's say he's never been married.

He's got a great career, is fairly successful,
and has a lot going on in his life.

You find him very fascinating and attractive,
and you think about how much you'd love to have a
man like this in your life.

You date him a few times, and he seems like a
great guy, but something feels a little "off" in
the things he does and says (even though you tried
to ignore it or deny it).

He seems a little defensive, a little
reserved - specifically when it comes to letting
you know how he feels or what he wants from a
"relationship."

He almost seems SCARED or turned off by the
idea of anything long-term or "serious."

He gives you the impression that he's just into
having fun, seeing you once in a while, but he's
not into anything more than that. He doesn't say
it directly, but you have a feeling this guy is
just into playing the field.

There are the little clues.

He has dates with other "friends" and always
seems to be busy every night of the week.

He never introduces you to his close friends or
family, and when he does, you're just "a friend."

He likes to do things and hang out in places
with a much younger crowd.

You really like this guy, but you know it's
probably hopeless. He is only interested in women
to have fun with, and maybe even women much,
much younger than you are.

And then there's the man who WAS married
before. Maybe he's even got kids from his previous
marriage or relationship.

He's loving, responsible, and you sense that
he could be a great long-term partner.

You have a great connection and you have a lot
in common.

Then suddenly, (and particularly AFTER you've
had an amazing and intimate time together) he
pulls back a little.

He tells you he wants to "go slow" and "not
rush into anything serious", which is fine and you
agree.

But then a little while later he completely
withdraws and acts like he wants NOTHING to do
with a serious relationship after all.

Ouch!

He acts very "into you" one minute, and very
loving, then doesn't call you for days, or acts
distracted and distant. You're confused and hurt,
and you don't know what to do next.

Maybe he gives you a "been-there-done-that"
speech, or makes you feel like you're the "clingy"
one who wants so much more than he's willing to
offer.

He leads you to believe that he's not
interested in anything more than being a "good
friend" because he's done the marriage thing,
and he's not into that anymore.

Or he's never been married, and isn't really
interested in getting married at this point in
his life.

You feel like he's getting ahead of himself,
so you try to let him know that you don't mind
taking it slow, but nothing helps.

You want to date a man who's close to your
age, but a man your age doesn't seem to want
anything real.

It's like you can't win!

Which leads you to ask yourself:

Do older, successful men just have more
"baggage" when it comes to love and
relationships?

Or are they commitment-phobes?

Is it virtually impossible to meet a single or
divorced man over 40 who wants to settle down with
one woman, raise a family, have kids, and have a
happy, committed relationship?

A lot of women write and tell me that it's
their experience that men over 40 just aren't
available for a relationship anymore.

Either the men have been married and don't want
to marry again, or have never been married and
don't intend to in the future, or they're just
looking to have fun.

They seem to be carrying around a bunch of
"baggage" from the past, and they're afraid to
have a committed relationship. They want to keep
their "freedom." Maybe they only want to date
women half their age.

This is a fascinating phenomenon to me.

Not that men over 40 are being seen as having
"baggage," but that so many women are having this
experience with these men who are 40-plus years
old.

What's going on here?

And what can you do if you want to have a
committed, long-term, quality relationship with a
man over 40, but you keep having this negative
experience?

To answer, I want to point out that first and
foremost, we all as human beings look at others
according to what they can give us, or what we
need from them.

If you push aside your own needs and look at
the man as being simply HUMAN, you'll realize
you're identical.

You want love, but you're afraid to take
risks because you've been wounded.

He may feel the same way.

And hey - we all have baggage from
relationships that have broken our hearts, on some
level.

The more wounded we are, the more defensive we can
become if we don't heal those wounds.

If a man acts defensive and cold, and seems to
be afraid of love or commitment, that COULD mean
that he has all kinds of baggage from a prior
relationship. He got hurt. He's afraid of risking
it all and getting hurt again.

If you look at his defenses, they look really
annoying and harsh to you. What you may not
realize is that you have your OWN set of harsh
defenses that may not be as apparent to you.

Hey, don't get the wrong idea.

You don't want to get involved with a guy if he
doesn't want to get close to you. But you can have
a bit of COMPASSION for where he's coming from.

If you look out there and you see all these men
who want to run around and don't want to be in a
committed relationship, usually those men are
afraid of falling in love and needing a woman.

It's ironic, but statistics will show that
when a man and a woman are in a long marriage
together, and the woman dies, the man will die
shortly thereafter.

It's not true so much for women.

If the old man dies first, the woman is more
resilient and goes on living for years afterward.

Which shows that men are actually more
vulnerable and more afraid to take a risk and be
vulnerable and attached to a woman, because he
literally fears that he might DIE without her!

If a man isn't "ready" because he's still
dealing with the baggage from his past, it doesn't
mean that you should wait around for him to "get
ready."

But definitely have some understanding about
WHY he's afraid or why he's resisting being in a
committed relationship."

In my experience, men over 40 - just like many
women over 40 - have experienced a lot of
disappointment and pain in their love lives. In
trying to defend themselves against more of that
pain, some men may appear to have a lot of
"issues" and be callous and selfish.

As humans, we have different ways of dealing
with things from our past.

But I also know that there are many, many men
over 40 who would love nothing more than to find
a great woman, commit to her, have kids or help
raise a family, and experience true and lasting
love in their life.

The key is to RECOGNIZE a great man when you
meet one, so you don't waste your time with a man
who may not be "ready" or willing to have a real
relationship with you.

For example, I think it's important to
understand the stages of MATURITY men go through
in their lives.

It's not chronological.

You can meet a man who's 25 years old and
already very mature and ready for a loving,
committed relationship where BOTH his needs and
his partner's needs are important to him.

Or, you can meet a man who's 45 and still just
a "boy" in a lot of ways that affect how he is in
a relationship.

If you know what stage of maturity your man is
in, you can better understand where he's coming
from and what you can - OR CAN'T DO - to change
the way he is in a relationship.

If you've ever experienced these with a man:

> He comes on strong at first, but then
disappears

> He changes his mind about you in a moment,
for apparently no reason

> He talks about wanting to travel and
"explore" the world and live an adventurous life
(often without you in it)

> He's controlling and inflexible at times

Then you've been experiencing certain symptoms
of a man's maturity level, from a "boy" all the
way to a mature and self-possessed "King."

In my program, "Inside The Mind Of A Man", I
explain in detail everything you need to look for
when you meet a man to know whether he's still a
self-involved "boy" or whether he's a purposeful
and focused "king."

I also help you easily and quickly recognize
his maturity level by listening to how he talks
about sex, what he thinks of his job, and what he
does in his spare time.

Why is all this important?

So that you can tell whether or not a man is
potentially RIGHT for you early on. This way, you
won't waste many months or years trying to
"change" him into something he's not.

There are 3 profound truths about
relationships:

1. The man you CHOOSE is the one you GET.

2. YOU are ultimately responsible for your own
love life and selecting the right man.

3. You can't change a man, "make" a man become
mature or help him work on his issues. He has to
do that in his own way, based on his own internal
motivations.

This is why I am going to make an important
suggestion and help you by giving you powerful
tools for choosing and understanding a man.

If you're ready to learn what makes a GOOD MAN
and what qualities and personality traits signal a
mature, "together" man so that you don't have to
wonder if he's going to be right for you for the
long-term...

Then I recommend you let me send you a copy of
my "Inside The Mind Of A Man" program.

P.S. You may not want to hear this, but I'm going
to say it anyway.

If you truly understand men - and that includes
how they think and feel in relationships, what
their "issues" are, what they love about women and
what they can't run away from fast enough...

Then you wouldn't be feeling frustrated or sitting
around wondering "why did he say that?" or "why is
he acting that way?"

It's time for you to change your life and change
the way you see and experience men and
relationships.

Once you get "Inside The Mind Of A Man", you'll
be amazed at how knowing the TRUTH about men and
why they do what they do can be the difference
between a lifetime of happiness and fulfillment,
and a lifetime of disappointments.

Being A Great Lover & Staying "Connected" With Him

2011-12-31T03:22:00.000-08:00

if you're longing for the days
when you and your man were MADLY IN
LOVE and he was attentive, affectionate,
and tender...

And you'd like to learn a NEW but easy way to get
back that intense passion for as long as you
want it to last...

Do you ever find that the love and the
sex life you share with a man isn't as
emotionally "charged" and fulfilling as
you'd like it to be?

You are still physical with your man,
but there's little or no real affection or
intimacy the way there used to be.

Maybe you're worried that your relationship
might have some bumps ahead because you aren't
as intimate with each other as you'd like to
be... and that his mind might "wander" as a
result?

Does the man in your life seem a little
distant or tuned out when he's with you...
and you wish he would be more "emotionally
engaged" not just in bed, but in your everyday
life as well?

If so, then you know that these situations
are even more frustrating when you both love and
care for each other... but you're just not
"connecting" anymore.

The good news is that you're not alone.

TONS of women struggle with these same
issues.

So what's the answer?

How do other women handle these common
challenges and move past them into fulfilling
and lasting relationships?

Is the answer more SEX with the man in
your life?

Ummm... definitely not.

If you've ever tried using sex as a way to
get close to a man... then you already know
that 99% of the time using sex to engage a man
on an emotional level is a losing strategy.

So what can you do?

I'll tell you...

You can become a better LOVER.

If you'd like to have a MUCH MUCH easier
time in your relationship, and have a man
open up and want to stay close with you simply
by using the power and transformational
ability of being an amazing lover... then
you're about to thank me...

Imagine being able to create the connection
and relationship you want with a man, simply
through the power of your touch.

Or saying a few words to him that are so
compelling and meaningful to a man that he's
drawn to you and slides into what seems like a
mild and positive emotional "trance" with you.

I've finally found the woman I believe to
be the world's best at teaching women how
to create the love and relationships they
want through touch, sensuality, and
sexuality.

This amazing woman has been studying and
coaching women for years... and has created
what she calls "the sacred art of lovemaking."

She's an internationally-recognized speaker
and author. She's been featured as a guest
speaker at New York University and on television
shows like NBC's "Starting Over", as well as
having written advice articles for Self magazine.

Over the last several years she's been
wildly successful at showing women how to
open up their relationships, and the heart
of the man in their life, by using their
natural sensuality and sexuality.

Her name is Karinna Kittles-Karsten...
and if you're looking for a way to recapture
that special chemistry and connection you
both had when you first met...

And you understand that touch, sensuality,
and the magical connection that can take
place between you and a man has the power to
instantly transform the way he feels about
you and relates to you... then you won't want
to miss the amazing one-on-one interview I
recorded with Karinna.

During our interview, she shared these amazing
tips and insights about sensuality and becoming
a great lover:

- Why some women have a hard time with
sexuality and feeling TRUE pleasure, and the
specific exercises you can do to wake up your
libido and energize your sex life

- 4 questions to ask yourself BEFORE deciding
to sleep with a man for the first time, so that
you can avoid REGRETTING what happens later

- The ONE MISTAKE to avoid so that you don't
accidentally turn a man OFF (or make him
think you're "boring" in bed)

- How to become the type of woman and lover
that draws a man in, almost MAGNETICALLY
(Hint: it's not just your sexuality, it's
also your sensuality, that you can use to
attract a man and keep him excited to be with
you)

- A simple way to expand and explore the
pleasures of your body (this is the path
to becoming what Karinna calls a "Love Artisan")

- How to get past the biggest resistance most
women have in developing their own sexuality
and becoming truly intimate with a man

- Why the way you receive compliments from
another person says a lot about you, and your
ability to receive love from a man. (When
someone compliments you, do you "deflect" it
back to them and tell them they're amazing
too? If you do, you need to hear what Karinna
says about this and how to correct it so you
can receive love from a man)

- How to combine the experience of SEXUALITY
with a SPIRITUAL connection (This is the key
to integrating the physical and spiritual
experiences of intimacy)

- Why it's so important for you to be
completely PRESENT during love and sex (And
an easy way to bring together your heart,
mind, body, & spirit into the present moment...
without making it too much work in the bedroom!)

- How to attract a HIGH-QUALITY man, even if
you're not looking for a long-term relationship
(and how to attract the kind of guy who
appreciates you in all your uniqueness)

- Simple movements to open up your body,
your heart, and prepare yourself for love
(these little-known tools are based on
Karinna's expertise in eastern arts like
tai chi and yoga)

- The 3 critical skills to becoming the great
lover your man will remember for the rest
of his life (once you know what they are,
they're simple to learn and use)

- A special kind of hug that will send a
subtle signal to a man that you're a woman who
has the capacity for the deep love he
secretly craves (without going overboard and
making the hug something he'll interpret
as overly sexual)

- We all get in arguments that really make
our blood boil with the people we love. But
did you know there's a secret place on your
body that when you focus there it'll help
you to stay centered and find the good in
an otherwise emotionally draining situation?
Here's where this "secret spot" is, and how
to use it to your advantage

- A subtle yet super-effective way to stop
feeling down about past failures in
relationships, and learn to really appreciate
how you BENEFITTED from even the most
gut-wrenching of intimate experiences

- How to INITIATE sex with a man in a way that
drives him wild and feels intensely FEMININE to
him (not pushy or slutty)

- How to SET THE MOOD for a romantic and
fulfilling night of romance and lovemaking that
has NOTHING to do with lingerie or any of the
clich‚ advice you get from the media

- And tons more.

I'm going to release the incredible
Interview I did with Karinna as this
month's edition of my "Interviews With Dating
& Relationship Experts" series.

If you're already a subscriber to my interview
series, great! In just a few days you'll be
receiving your copy of this interview in the
mailbox.

If you're not a subscriber but would like to
receive a copy, I'm going to make it very
simple for you.

Click on the link below by February 8th, and
I'll send you a copy of my latest interview with
Karinna for you to listen to and enjoy.

If you love it like I think you will,
fantastic. Keep it and listen to it as much as
you want.

You'll get a brand new interview next month,
on a different topic with a different expert.

But, if you're not totally happy with the
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more, all you need to do is cancel your
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what if you knew how to
continually set off "sparks" in your relationship
to keep things FRESH and passionate all the time
with you and your man?

Lately, your man is too preoccupied with the
other aspects and distractions in his life - like
work, or the Internet, or some hobby - to notice
what YOUR needs are.

He barely initiates a conversation with you
anymore, let alone initiating anything PHYSICAL.

He sits on his side of the couch - and you sit
on yours.

At night he's even started "forgetting" to
kiss you goodnight.

You're worried about it, and you feel an
incredible amount of pain and longing for the
closeness and love you used to share.

And you wish you had some help...some amazing
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The thing is, you already have everything you
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First of all, I'm willing to bet that you
still have the playfulness, the allure and the
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Those qualities are probably just buried by
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I know how hard it is to put on a "happy face"
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Fortunately, there is a way to quickly turn
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